Feelsplaining

Spiryt · 2014-07-13T13:32:59+00:00

Because using thought terminating cliches is an underhanded tactic and you shouldn't stoop to their level.

J_r_s · 2014-07-13T15:05:48+00:00

Creating new buzzwords will not attract new or rational people. It will have the same effect the word "mansplain" already does at offending people. If someone claims for you to be "mansplaining" just stick to saying they are derailing the argument or comment at hand. There is no need to create new one-liners.

Edit: /u/Karissa36 explained what I wanted to get across much better than myself. Their comment: http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/2akxsw/feelsplaining/ciw97sq

Karissa36 · 2014-07-13T15:49:43+00:00

I had to look up the definition of mansplaining, so if wikipedia has it wrong than so do I. As I understand the term, it appears to be a man confidently and condescendingly telling a woman about something she knows more about than he does.

So the obvious way to attack a charge of mansplaining is to show that you know more about the topic, or that you are at least as well or better informed about specific parts of the topic.

Suppose I find myself in a debate about the new 2012 guidelines suggesting that men not be screened for prostrate cancer. I'm not a man and I have never had prostrate cancer. However, even if my opponent is a male survivor of prostrate cancer, I still have a lot of medical knowledge which may very well trump his personal experience in a reasoned debate on this issue. I'm not going to tell him that his feels on prostrate cancer are irrelevant. I'm going to point out that I have a greater knowledge about prostrate cancer in some ways than he does.

Now if he still insists that all of the medical facts, statistics and literature are of no value, and only his personal experience is what counts, the debate is over. I think it is important to at least make the attempt first though in order to maintain a dialogue.

MRSPArchiver · 2014-07-13T13:07:37+00:00

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Underfolder · 2014-07-13T14:25:55+00:00

Because if I can establish a dialog they'll abandon their asinine ideas.

Title	Feelsplaining
Author	ConfirmedCynic
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	July 13, 2014 1:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/mensrights/comments/2akxsw/feelsplaining/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/feelsplaining.1619227 https://theredarchive.com/post/1619227

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