Feministing.com comment highlights why feminists are not our friends

redditbannedmeagain · 2009-09-19T02:05:52+00:00

There has been a lot of pressure on members of this subreddit to "call out" our more...radical elements. I think it's time feminists started doing the same. There are some good, balanced comments on that thread, it's dissapointing that this one got so many more points.

I submitted a rather vitriolic reply, but that blog entry currently requires comments to be approved. I encourage everyone, particularly those with more a polite writing style, to respond also.

IHaveALargePenis · 2009-09-19T04:03:22+00:00

Has nobody here thought that these young men (or indeed their friends at college) may have put pressure (verbal or physical) on this woman to recant?! Perhaps they - or people they knew threatened her. You don't know. Neither do I...but to just assume that the sex was consensual and she just lied is very unfair.

So false rape accusations can't possibly ruin a mans life, but apparently he will always be seen as a rapist no matter what has or has not been proven.

My college boyfriend had broken up with me and I was furious. How could do that to me? So, I reported to the campus police that I was raped, hoping he would be arrested so I could get even. I didn't get my story straight and it only took a few minutes worth of questioning for my sad story to fall apart.

I find this comment most disturbing of all.

Edit:

After reading some more comments, I'm amazed at the "women are always innocent no matter what and men are always guilty no matter what" mentality. Apparently even the video tape of them having consensual sex isn't enough proof to get these guys off the hook, but and I quote

Perhaps she made up the tale of being tied up to make her claim more credible

any lie thrown out by this girl seems to have some form of "purpose" and we should just give her the benefit of the doubt.

PierceHarlan · 2009-09-19T02:46:33+00:00

They need a remedial course on consent. More than they, most of 'em need a boyfriend.

kru5h · 2009-09-19T07:17:27+00:00

How about this comment:

I am a bit older than most here. I have two sons, one 16 and the other 24. I have tried to teach them about the risks associated with their sexuality. Of course there is the specter of SDCs. But there is also the risk of rape accusations. I have told them (especially my older one) repeatedly that "no" always means no. If a woman is drunk or even slightly drunk, then they should not try to be sexual with them, that they should turn and walk away. I know my lessons are unrealistic, but I worry so much about my sons.

They could be part of rape culture and that really frightens me. I am also frightened by the reality of false accusations. Despite what we might believe as women, there are incentives for women to cry rape when, in fact, there has been no rape. I am ashamed to admit that I tried that when I was younger. My college boyfriend had broken up with me and I was furious. How could do that to me? So, I reported to the campus police that I was raped, hoping he would be arrested so I could get even. I didn't get my story straight and it only took a few minutes worth of questioning for my sad story to fall apart.

I am so terribly ashamed of what I had done. If a woman did that to either of my sons, they might be thrown in jail, tried, convicted and sentenced. All on the word of a jilted girlfriend, as I had attempted to do so many years ago.

Lying about rape is awful. It is about the possibility of ruining a man completely. Lying about rape is about lessening the believability of real rape victims.

I am teaching my sons about this possibility and I hope so much that they are careful about their sexuality within the context of rape culture.

Raising sons has truly raised my consciousness about these types of issues.

She ADMITS to a false rape accusation in order to imprison a man for a petty fucking breakup. Only when it comes to selfishly protecting her own sons does she realize the wrong in her ways.

Feminists should be PISSED at this woman for making real rape victims less likely to be believed. What's that? No. It's rated +16, while "hateful" comments from men need to be censored.

rmbarnes · 2009-09-19T11:01:21+00:00

Has nobody here thought that these young men (or indeed their friends at college) may have put pressure (verbal or physical) on this woman to recant?! Perhaps they - or people they knew threatened her. You don't know. Neither do I...but to just assume that the sex was consensual and she just lied is very unfair.

Read the facts ffs. The police got hold of video footage of it, told her they had it and she immediately recanted. But I'm sure the real reason she recanted was the men who were in cells with half a million dollar bond keeping them there managed to intimidate her.

Title	Feministing.com comment highlights why feminists are not our friends
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	28
Comments	33
Date	September 19, 2009 1:40 AM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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