How do we "Fix Inceldom" among boys?

World-Three · 2026-02-14T13:52:36+00:00

Hold a mirror up to it.

When women complain about men, say they hate men, want them to die, that they're all ugly, violent, misogynists and sex crazed losers who need to go to war or jail to prove themselves worthy of being a man... Do we feel the need to "fix" them?

That's the problem. One side does something, it's cool. The other side does something, even if it is a mimicry of what they experienced, it's a problem. Why?

When women were falling behind in school and college. They were helped. When men fall behind now, we don't do anything but say boys are struggling. Guys get ousted for incel takes, banned, etc. What about radical women?

If someone holds up a mirror to something and it suddenly is okay, then something is wrong with their eyes. I don't think people actually want to talk about this.

Suspicious_Track2173 · 2026-02-14T13:55:00+00:00

As a cel myself, I don’t think this is something you “fix” entirely. We live in a dating market shaped by social media, apps, and status comparison. Competition is amplified, standards are more visible, and below-average and even average guys feel it. At the same time, struggling men are often mocked instead of helped, and even when they are helped, it’s more so performative. If you combine isolation, shame, and zero emotional support, you get what we get today

ProfessionalGoat551 · 2026-02-14T14:40:36+00:00

It sounds easy but it’s hard.

You know yourself as a man. Don’t live in your head. It’s okay to have thoughts but don’t let those thoughts shape your actions and reality. One thing an older cat taught me was part of the “game” is to find women who like you.

You’ll never really talk a woman into liking you.

If a woman rejects you or ghosts you. That’s not indicative of you as a man. There’s nothing wrong with you. You were a Demi god before her and you’ll be Demi god without her.

TL;Dr

Know yourself. When you know yourself and “self” isn’t shaped by rejection or success the big part of the battle is already won.

AskTight7295 · 2026-02-14T16:12:36+00:00

It doesn’t actually exist, they are victims of systemic psychological ignorance afflicting both genders. The problem is not understanding anima and animus projections contrasexual projections. Boys project onto women an anima fantasy of perfection, fulfilling sexuality, beauty, loyalty, purity etc and don’t realize there is nothing real actually there. That’s all fantasy. When the projection is withdrawn women appear as they are: ordinary people with specific and often lists of extremely unappealing demands. The only real solution is ending the ignorance and teaching them but since most adults are just as ignorant it won’t happen for most except through “the school of hard knocks”. People cannot find true completion in relationships, it literally only happens internally. Then it might be possible, but still highly unlikely… but it can never be achieved externally even in a relationship. The other person is not a fantasy object and will inevitably fail you, get fat, sick, grouchy. lose a job. There is no fantasy.

Serious_Weather1724 · 2026-02-15T05:02:40+00:00

I don't know the complete answer, however, I do know part of the answer. The first and most important part of the answer is to allow men to have sex toys and porn rather than demonize male sexuality. Secondly, women, especially attractive women, shouldn't be allowed to have sex with evil men, especially attractive evil men. Thirdly, society, especially powerful men, needs to stop discriminating men not ever having moneyless heerosexual sex.

There some things that all men need to do as well. One of those things is for men to stop slut shaming. There's more logic in opposing slut shaming instead of supporting it because there's more logic in attractive women having moneyless sex with physically and mentally unattractive men than the complete opposite. It's more complicated than this and I don't have the complete solution yet but I know that these things are true. Men also need to stop being simps which includes men need to especially stop being amogs and white knights. Lastly, men neess to stop demonizing other men who doesn't have a moneyless lay count.

Speedy_KQ · 2026-02-14T16:06:47+00:00

Women are evolved to be pickier than men. This can't be "fixed" except maybe through some horrible form of coercion, which is a non-starter. Having more difficulty finding a partner is a challenge inherent to being a young straight man.

But we can still help men who are suffering through this by giving them emotional support. Try to build up their self-esteem and resist the idea that their worth is tied to their ability to find a partner. Help them get out of the house, meet people, and be social. Give an alternate viewpoint to the dark defeatist self-fulfilling prophecy of the black pill.

JustJ42 · 2026-02-14T20:46:19+00:00

Idk it’s hard. Inceldom is more of a mindset issue that ironically just makes their problem of isolation and rejection even larger cause people really don’t wanna deal with all that baggage. It’s just a doom and gloom mentality where they feel like people who just aren’t into them are enemies, completely ignoring the fact people can be kind to you, they don’t have to date you tho. It would also help if a lot of boys or men in general would stop chasing after women who’ve made it clear they don’t want them. If someone rejects you, cool move on.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2026-02-14T15:20:47+00:00

This one's easy: improved dictionary ownership.

Unfortunately, the replacement problem won't be any better.

Title	How do we "Fix Inceldom" among boys?
Author	Maleficent-Toe1374
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Date	February 14, 2026 1:36 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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