I need advice.

Foot_Herpes · 2013-01-26T23:43:13+00:00

If a chick ever says: "no... dont..." never dismiss it. Did she say anything after you two had sex?

yasee · 2013-01-27T00:13:38+00:00

She withdrew consent and you kept going; doesn't really sound like you're the victim here. In the future, don't have sex when you and/or your partner are too drunk to communicate properly.

rightsbot · 2013-01-26T23:42:17+00:00

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2013-01-27T00:34:56+00:00

By all current legal standards (and essentially all proposed MRA standards) you did rape her. This is really not ok and hopefully you will not get much sympathy here.

CosmicKeys · 2013-01-27T00:49:06+00:00

From the information here (which is next to nothing), she withdrew consent and you made no attempt to ask again, and had sex with her. That's rape.

edit: seems like a troll, probably an SRSter fishing for mras to take the bait and defend rape or something.

memymineown · 2013-01-26T23:45:46+00:00

Lawyer. NOW.

PartTimeBadman · 2013-01-27T01:13:32+00:00

Tell your parents. I'm afraid that even from the way you've told the story, she withdrew consent and you continued; that is rape. Assuming this isn't a troll, this is going to be a lesson you're going to learn very hard. Tell your parents, lawyer up.

NemosHero · 2013-01-27T01:29:15+00:00

Ok I lul'd. Well played

smalrebelion · 2013-01-27T00:26:30+00:00

Dude lawyer up fast. Contact any of your friends or people at the party who might be able to vouch that she went with you voluntarily and there wasn't any threats or anything. If the prosecutor is a dick they'll try to make it seem like you forced her home with you and/or drugged her ON TOP of ignoring the word no which is MUCH worse. Unfortunately any time the word no is said you should pretty much pull out and put your clothes on. This is going to be a bumpy ride. Have you tried to talk to her and explain what you remember? There is a good chance you raped her without knowing it. It's scary that "accidental rape" is a thing and I'm sure had you known that's what was going down you would have never done so but it's potentially true. Try to talk to her and explain that you had know idea that's what she was saying. That you were drunk and it was a mistake. Explain that this will cost you pretty much your entire life over a miscommunication. Explain that you know from her perspective it's more than a miscommunication. That you know she feels violated in the deepest way possible and that you would never have continued if you had any suspicion that she wasn't totally willing.

Overall though ignoring "no... don't..." was a terrible idea. She could've pulled your dick into her while screaming the full script of a bad porno before saying "no" and it would've still meant stop.

Also, if anything I've said is contradicted by your lawyer ignore it.

Title	I need advice.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	January 26, 2013 11:38 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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