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Misconceptions about men that women still refuse to accept..

nharan

February 8, 2014

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Title	Misconceptions about men that women still refuse to accept..
Author	nharan
Upvotes	16
Comments	34
Date	February 8, 2014 1:09 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/mensrights/comments/1xbjqw/misconceptions-about-men-that-women-still-refuse-/
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It doesn't have to say "all men", there are a number of occasions where the OP refers to "Men" as if there's some sort of general consensus. What particularly disturbed me was this part:

"Sex is the base of a relationship to us. If we’re not having sex with you, there’s no relationship or point. There are however exceptions to this, like after you’ve given birth and/or are medically ill. But in other cases, if you’re with us and not fucking us, the relationship is pointless and a waste of time."

It's basically saying that "men" (i.e. him) treat relationships as a formal sex-negotiation, instead of you know a mutual friendship that involves emotional and sexual intimacy. Maybe that's how some men feel, but it's not how I feel and I really don't feel like lending my support to a statement as immature as that.

Similarly, Myth 7 where the OP could have made a very good point about how "strong and independent" women do not turn off men. There's a little tidbit in the beginning about that, but it quickly devolves into a rant about women who act controlling and manipulative. Essentially making the assumption that women who consider themselves strong and independent are controlling and manipulative, stereotyping a group of people and then extrapolating from there.

Take Myth 8, which could have been about how men don't necessarily hate talking about their partner's problems, but dislike when it becomes obsessive. Instead, we get a lecture on how "men are not as emotionally complex as women" (stereotyping men) and how we don't care about hearing about women's problems. Again, maybe you have a problem with that, but not all men do.

I could go on, but this post is not helping. It's not putting forth positive information or solutions or advice, it's just a big dump from the author on how he's frustrated with women. A lot of the post just seems to be undirected anger at his perceptions on women as these dispensers of sex who toy with him and waste his time with things other than sex. Myth 5 basically outlines this, assuming that any woman who decides to withhold sex is doing so out of malice and as a need for power. There are women who do this, but not all women do and it's wrong to imply that.

I get where he's trying to go, but he's reaching the right conclusions with the wrong evidence.

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Male, and I'm glad you've clarified the fact that a relationship is more than sex, because that's not the vibe I've been getting. I'm not saying sex is a bad thing, because I love having sex with my girlfriend and she loves having sex with me. If she stopped having sex with me for some reason, I would probably still be with her. She means more to me than her vagina. Granted, if she had no reason to stop having sex, we'd have an issue, and if it were the fact that she didn't find me sexually attractive anymore, then our relationship would probably have to end.

I suppose we're probably on the same page as one another, I just dislike your wording. The way it's worded makes it sound as if sex stops, regardless of circumstance, your relationship with them would be over. I apologize if this is not the case, and I further apologize for creating a strawman of you and then arguing with that. That's wrong of me to do.

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