Positive stuff?

Gaki-San · 2019-03-19T04:22:01+00:00

My girlfriend just graduated a few years ago, and in her final year, she came to me and asked me if I would be willing to give her access to all my research into male victims of domestic violence I'd collected. She'd read some, saw a little bit of why I cared about it, and decided to write her final paper on that topic.

She educated a room full of young women that had never heard those statitistics, had never been exposed to precisely how slanted that industry is, and told them how many men in our country have gone without help, for decades. She showed them the letters I'd written to our provincial shelter organization, and their essentially bigoted replies back. She showed them the AHRT cases with the province and Earl Silverman. She showed them all our General Social Surveys, back into the 1980s, showing men as a significant proportion of the victims.

It was a drop in a desert, but it was a drop. No one had ever given a shit about it in my family, but me.

So, I let her in. I showed her the letters I'd written my son that he'd never seen. I showed her all the court documents. I showed her all the emails with my ex, trying to get him for visits. She got to see it all, and I was terrified she would bolt, but she didn't. Instead, she moved in.

She was with me when he picked up the phone and called me at 16, begging to come and live with me. She was with me the day I picked him up at he airport and saw for the first time precisely how damaged he was, and she held me when I had to put him in psychiatric care half a year later because he was failing. All my hopes for that boy utterly vanished in six months, from the peak of excitement to the utter depths of despair, and she kept me together.

She's in the other room, now, getting ready for bed, and I love her to bits. If anyone ever tells you that there aren't any decent women out there, they are lying. I have one.

DJ-Roukan · 2019-03-19T11:59:52+00:00

Hell yeah.

My wife, for one.

and there is a whole list of females on our side From Helen Smith (men on strike) on down. Elisabeth Hobson often posts on Avoiceformen and is working to battle for us on the highest levels of government. Janice Fiamango is constantly producing video exposing feminism and male hate.

The Honey Badgers (a female MRA group) is hosting the international conference on men's issues, in Chicago this august. Many of the keynotes will be women.

Karen Straughan has blown up more feminist dogma then a balloon salesmen.

Casey Jaye made the RedPill movie that lit the fire in America...and she has taken a great deal of heat for us

During my membership in the father's rights movement, most of the leaders of the strongest groups were women.

Women have been instrumental in putting us on the board, and as more and more go redpill, the moment is growing exponentially.

Move away from ungrateful, entitled little college girls spewing and regurgitating the idiocy of their feminist teachers, and start reading adult women who are out there every day fighting by our sides. It will bring you great hope and restore your faith in women...real adult man loving women.

Remember something, most feminist are women, but most women are not at all feminist.

MensActivism · 2019-03-19T18:29:19+00:00

If it helps, I'm a female MRA. My mother doesn't use the label but supports everything a MRA does. I have female friends who are MRAs.

I ran a MRA Instagram (not self promoting) that hit 5k, just under half of my followers were women. (It ended up being taken down by Instagram, but I made a new one.)

Lion_amongst_gods · 2019-03-19T18:29:34+00:00

A female friend of mine has been wishing me on Men's day for a few years now. So, that's pretty nice.

14b755fe39 · 2019-03-19T20:11:17+00:00

I was at the vet for my cat, my vet and his wife are both vets; they run the place. They just had a baby boy, the wife asked me when is it ideal to circumcise(muslim countries don't generaly do it at birth). I (a physician) said never and explained that it's irreversible and unethical etc... The grandma tried to oppose me but I shot down her arguments and that boy probably won't be circumcised. :)

LettuceBeGrateful · 2019-03-20T01:04:20+00:00

My last girlfriend was pretty much a quintessential egalitarian. Split the bill from the first date, accepted my invitation to watch The Red Pill without hesitation, etc. We were struggling to take the next step and move in together, and at one point she said, "I'm not going to marry you just to take all your stuff, if that's what you're worried about."

Hearing that kind of broke my heart a little bit. Good women get grouped with the bad, same as men, and the fact that my ex even felt she had to reassure me that she wasn't a greedy golddigger bummed me out. We've been broken up a while, but she's a good person and I hope she finds her happiness.

On a more sub-specific note, the two people who first opened my eyes to the flaws of feminism were women: my female cousin, and a friend-of-a-friend who identifies as a feminist. In the same week, my cousin said she "hates" feminists (which took me aback at the time), and later that week, when I mentioned the wage gap, the friend-of-a-friend immediately corrected me. I wouldn't even be aware of men's issues if it weren't for those two women speaking up.

throwaway925093423 · 2019-03-19T15:05:45+00:00

All I have to say is that my wife has a handful of female friends, and from my experiences with them, they are some of the most pleasant people I know of to be around.

The nastiest people shriek the loudest!

Kanonizator · 2019-03-19T12:23:37+00:00

If you want positivity you have to look for it, or even better, create it in your own life. You won't find much of it in the social sphere or in the media. Choose the people who you spend time with carefully, and you'll get all the positivity you need. There are tons of good women out there.

illnevertell89 · 2019-03-20T03:56:53+00:00

I’m a female and I fully support TRUE equality. I can’t stand this #metoo bullshit. Or that dads have less rights and moms are assumed to be the better parent. I hate that men are guilty until proven innocent.

Story time: I’ve known a guy for 2 years now. Due to the sensitive nature and currently still pending charges, I’m going to be somewhat vague so as to protect him. Sometime in the last 2 years, we were texting one afternoon and he told me he had just been fired from his (really good) job because this girl was accusing him of raping her the night before. He told me exactly what happened that night, and I knew in my heart that he didn’t do it, even though at the time, I really didn’t know him that well at all; I just knew. The next day, I texted him to see how he was holding up. I didn’t hear back, but didn’t think much of it. Over the next few weeks, I would try every couple of days to text and check in on him. I can see when he reads a message, and none of it was showing as read. So I eventually decide to look him up, and sure enough, he’d been arrested. After contacting the jail and verifying he was still there, I wrote him a letter. I felt like a creeper given we really didn’t know each other that well, but I didn’t want him to be alone and had a feeling I was the only one who knew. He wrote back, and that was the beginning of a year of writing letters that turned into visits and almost daily phone calls. He’s home now, though charges are still pending. I’m very happy to say that over the course of this time, he and I fell in love (which holds a lot of stigma and is hard for me sometimes because I fell for a guy in jail, but I don’t care).

Man...if y’all think it’s hard in jail, it’s even harder trying to rebuild your life after when the case is still pending. We’ve been told that the prosecutor is saying he’s going to drop it and does not want to go to trial, but it’s a waiting game. In the meantime, he can’t find a job. His car was repossessed due to non-payment while incarcerated, so naturally his near perfect credit is now only fair. He is on extremely strict bond stipulations. He is 100% dependent on others for all his needs because no one will hire him right now. He is extremely depressed.

I hate that this female will face no consequences for destroying his life like this. Despite witnesses backing him up and zero evidence, she will walk away from this unscathed while he’s left to clean up the mess she made.

I’m trying to find every possible way I can help him. I’m trying to be strong for him. I’m not going to leave his side. We’re a team now and if I need to carry the burden for a while, I will gladly do it. I plan to write state legislators. I wish I could afford to get him a private attorney instead of a public defender, but that’s not likely in the cards.

Anyway, point is, there ARE women who believe men deserve rights and protection. True equality, not this feminist version that really pushes for women to be above men.

tenchineuro · 2019-03-19T22:39:22+00:00

She thinks they want to reverse who has the power instead of gaining equality

Men never had much power in society, but today what little they had is gone. And feminism has always been straight-up female advocacy and not much more.

Necrullz · 2019-03-19T13:44:12+00:00

RemindMe! 1 day

canonsnapper13 · 2019-03-20T04:54:23+00:00

I got snipped in California for free. I control my reproductive organs.

surprisemeatballs · 2019-03-20T20:30:13+00:00

Can you link to the feminist on Twitter who tweeted about female rapists? I would love to see it. Thanks!

Title	Positive stuff?
Author	jorfed
Upvotes	67
Comments	35
Date	March 19, 2019 3:30 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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