Thanks for nothing

Mysterious-Citron875 · 2024-12-20T15:00:14+00:00

Before you do something you'll regret: we hear your pain, you're not alone.

It certainly won't improve your mood, let alone your life, but it's better than ignoring your post.

johmsy · 2024-12-20T16:00:40+00:00

An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it’ll launch you into something great. Focus, and keep aiming bud! I don’t want to minimalise what you’re going through, just know that it’ll help you become resilient! I got my first hernia at 25.. by the age of 29 I was VERY bitter and angry.. but most of all I was hurting real bad.. guys will tell you to go to the gym.. maybe that works for them.. maybe not for you.. but the gym represents something much bigger.. it means to start “fixing” yourself, whatever that means.. sleep more, eat healthy food, READ (whatever interests you), work out, start seeming a physio to help with the back pain, join a group or join a sports team.. the solution doesn’t matter, it’s your path to the solution that will matter in the long run. Keep working hard bud you are SOOO FUCKING WORTH IT!!!

WV8VW · 2024-12-20T15:55:47+00:00

If somebody is at the bottom of the hierarchy at work or in their family then there is an opportunity to make a change. They are already disrespectful, think the guy is a fool or simply just does not care about him. Maybe it is time to tell the rude people how awful they act, maybe it is time to try to take the lead at work, to speak up, to make new plans.

There are so many not illegal things to do in difficult times when almost the entire world is against somebody.

alter_furz · 2024-12-20T17:26:35+00:00

Life is not something which happens to you.

You must make it happen.

Have you tried working out? Are your T levels low? Do you get enough sleep?

AirSailer · 2024-12-20T20:16:52+00:00

Looking at your post and comment history you are getting plenty of responses, and you've basically posted the same thing for the last 11 months. Except, you literally don't say a positive thing in any of your comments. It sounds like you don't even want to help yourself at this point.

You don't say much about your actual situation; but your responses imply that you were bullied at some point in the past (as in years ago), you have never been in a relationship, you're overweight, you don't have any friends (you also seem to think literally all people are shitty), you don't have a job, you get social anxiety, and you are possibly on the autism spectrum.

Does that sum up your situation?

thebig62200 · 2024-12-20T15:06:41+00:00

Brother the gym is the way. Atleast for now.

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Street_Conflict_9008 · 2024-12-20T18:30:31+00:00

I don't have any friends, getting out of a breakdown, but am married. Have had addictions and more.

Life can be rough.

Learn to draw lines on when to say "NO". Look at joining social groups that share your interest. Talk to people around you that are queuing in line, chat with the cashier, get a pet eg a dog(i am a dog person) so you have skills in looking after others. Dogs also show the affection i like.

I hope you can start looking for the silver lining of those clouds over head.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-12-20T21:26:00+00:00

I can see you have been unravelling for over a week, posting the same kind of defeated posts multiple times a day, contemplating suicide and everything in between.

You need to see a therapist to figure out how to move forward, it isn’t healthy to just vent and spew anger with no plan to get your life headed in the right direction.

We hear you, we understand that you’re going through it, but if you’ve got no friends, no meaningful relationships you can only blame others for so long before it’s time to look in the mirror and make some decisions.

You are in control of your actions, so start making a plan to get out of this hole you’re in, you deserve to be happy but you are isolated and just getting validation for your anger right now but not looking to improve things.

jjj2576 · 2024-12-20T22:59:59+00:00

What have you done today to take care of your body? What do you do proactively to minimize the back pain?

Quarto6 · 2024-12-20T16:50:49+00:00

Your comment history shows that for months you've been bemoaning what other people haven't done for you. But life and relationships are two-way streets. Have you ever listened to anyone else or tried to make them happy? Have you ever put anyone else first? Have you ever befriended anyone? Do you make other people feel seen and heard? Do you show love to other people? Do you reach out to people other than when you need something? Do you do any kind of volunteer work or charity? We need to put into the world what we'd like to receive, and studies show that concentrating on helping and reaching out to other people when we're down can lift the mood, increase self-esteem, create connections with other people, and boost feelings of joy and inner peace.

Embarrassed-Most-447 · 2024-12-20T19:56:17+00:00

Stop watching porn. Put down the phone. Start making your bed. Every day. Work out even if it's starting with a walk, men need to be physical. Learn an instrument or take up painting, anything. Especially if it's difficult to do. Invest in yourself. Listen to the other guys, it's all true and great advise. Lastly, i'll be your friend. Why? I've been where you are before.

Title	Thanks for nothing
Author	Apprehensive-Alps279
Upvotes	28
Comments	44
Date	December 20, 2024 2:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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