I used to be in a D&D-related group some time ago.

I had fun there overall, but there were some really nasty women there who were saying shit like "Man, I wish we picked up a thing or two from the Drow.", and dismissing my discomfort, saying they were only kidding, but the comments of that sort were far too frequent and venomous to be ironic.

For those not in the know; the Drow [dark elves] in D&D are sworn to the Spider Queen Lolth. Their society is a strict matriarchy where only women can be priestesses, and men are glorified servants at best and rampantly-abused sex slaves at worst. If you want a good source on it, you should read the Drizzt Saga: a series of novels about a male Drow growing up in- and eventually escaping from his oppressive society.

It is absolutely insane how people can say shit like that about men, and somehow I'm the problematic one for pointing it out. I ended up leaving that group because said people were petulant adult children who couldn't bare to have a discussion with someone that has a different opinion, even just about D&D lore. They raved at me for "making them uncomfortable" and "dismissing their life experience", so I hit them with screenshots of all the horribly misandrist shit they were spouting before leaving.

The sensible people there were quite enjoyable, but the very loud small group made it almost entirely unusable. They blocked me the moment I disagreed with them, so I was categorically excluded from any conversations they were having. Since they were the most active users within my time zone, that meant I was essentially excluded from the server wholesale, and it completely killed my desire to engage with the group.

Worst part is, I ended up being the one that got temporarily muted for being "disruptive" because I started arguing with them about misandrist comments despite only ever engaging in actual debate, while they were screeching and hurling insults left and right. These people are absolutely insufferable.