One person mentioned this in my other post as the qualities that a lacking in modern men in relationships. I’m his words, the lack of these qualities is the very reason for a dead bedroom. I wish there was a way to learn and practice this for guys like me who grew up in very cold and passionless cultures and families and were trained to not show any emotions. How can you even change your personality so radically, going from reserved/shy to that type of boyish adventurous person? Even if could simulate it for a while, can you really sustain it long-term? Personally, I can describe myself and very “stiff” both emotionally and physically. I just cannot go outside of this “maverick/lone wolf/strong silent type” persona, I feel very unnatural and clumsy doing things outside of this boundaries.