I don't cater to men

wtknight · 2022-07-24T15:47:37+00:00

Removed. No men asking men or women asking women questions.

Prryapus · 2022-07-24T15:29:18+00:00

toxic feminism

This is it, where you can't even do something nice for a bloke because you think it might ruin your feminist credentials

goatismycopilot · 2022-07-24T15:38:07+00:00

So the " guy you know " got you to buy drinks for women he was interested in and your takeaway is her comment not that he got you to spend money on his behalf after you said you do not buy drinks for random women?

EulenWatcher · 2022-07-24T15:30:16+00:00

First of all, I'd never get in a similar situation. I'd never drink with men I didn't know well, accepted drinks from them or offered anything to them.

Secondly, I have no issues with catering to men I know. If I'm pouring drinks, I'm gonna pour to everyone, I don't think it's really gendered. But I'm overall into egalitarianism and I try not to subscribe to gender roles.

Thirdly, I've seen multiple women pouring drinks for men without any issues. I think it is traditional for men to do it, but it isn't a rigid rule nor a lot of people stick to it.

PCSX217 · 2022-07-24T15:26:35+00:00

I don't even have/let men by me drinks unless were going round for round(splitting even). I don't want there to be any expectations and I have my own money. I would pour a drink for a dude though yeah. Like if we got a pitcher and I was pouring mine I'd top off anyone's glass who wanted, man or woman.

sarkington · 2022-07-24T15:28:34+00:00

She was just fucking with you so she didn’t have to be nice

KombuchaEnema · 2022-07-24T15:31:55+00:00

I think she might have just been making a cheeky joke.

A lot of women feel insecure/powerless in society, so they make subtle jabs at men to “even the score.”

If a man said the same thing to a woman we’d call him a misogynist or an incel because it’s viewed as “punching down” versus “punching up.”

Not saying I agree. Just explaining how it is.

Pouring a drink for someone can be seen as a submissive act, a form of service. Some women avoid serving men no matter how small/meaningless the gesture.

athlete2biz · 2022-07-24T15:32:12+00:00

sounds like they viewed you as a sugar mama/simp type of woman

nothing about this interaction makes me think the man is attracted to you in the slightest.

if men thought like you, society would collapse

impregnatingimp · 2022-07-24T15:38:42+00:00

There have been more women like this over the last few years,

Some out right hostile and nasty

Others who make something as simple as pouring a drink about "traditional roles" or "power dynamics". It's pretty obnoxious but probably best you just shrug it off and let her buy her own drinks in the future (assuming you see her again)

gofigure62 · 2022-07-24T15:42:01+00:00

I'm a generous person, and typically am more likely to be generous if someone has already been generous to me.

I've gone out where random people have purchased bottles and I think it's common courtesy to pour for whoever purchashed the drinks.

Common courtesy is behavior associated with human bonding. In my opinion. I'm not going to avoud being courteous to someone simply because of their sex.

GoobleGobble_OneOfUs · 2022-07-24T15:44:30+00:00

Women that see power dynamics in every tiny thing are insufferable cunts.

If you're looking for ways in which to be oppressed, you're going to find it, even if it's only in your own fucked up reality.

wingsandeyes · 2022-07-24T15:47:41+00:00

This is how they think. They view men as inherently evil and for us to serve them while they indulge and watch. Especially younger women on social media. Spend 10 mutes on TikTok (which is huge among Gen Z) and you'll see tons of videos of women shitting on men. Hashtagging "IHateallmen", complaining about how men are toxically masculine for wanting to go 50/50, making broad generalizations on males all while still expecting men to do everything for them. Honestly with this new generation of women you're better off moving to another country if you want to find a partner, the women here view men as the enemy, that is not someone I'm trying to spend my life with.

Ok_Razzmatazz_1751 · 2022-07-24T15:52:40+00:00

Lol , I'd be hated by these women. When I'm home off from work . I'll cook a whole meal .Then make my man a plate plus his drink . Taking it to him. Personally for myself I enjoy catering to my man on my days off. Actually enjoy seeing him happy. Which in turn he'll make me coffee, and pancakes in the mornings I'm off. We cater to each other . He's very helpful on my weeks I'm working long shifts.

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Title	I don't cater to men
Author	tensatailred
Upvotes	7
Comments	29
Date	July 24, 2022 3:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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