Little bit of background: virgin 27 old man. I consider myself a little above average in terms of looks, higher education, 3 languages, etc. No social circles besides a couple friends, was bullied in university by my crush and her friends, bad experiences with women in general.

I want to share what i have learned from my only two dates so far.

  1. I don’t know if my first date was a date. Since I have no way to meet women in person at the moment, I have been adding random women on FB (who I consider pretty). After talking to this girl for a while I told that I would like to meet and just kiss (she was my first kiss). Surprisingly she said yes. We bought a couple tickets for a movie because I value privacy. We start kissing but she moves away 3 times. She said “we didn’t know each other”. Lesson learned: for women it’s important to get to know you a little bit for any kind of sexual relationship. How much depends on the girl I guess. Also, don’t forget anything she has told you before like her birthday. Memorize details even if you don’t care about them, she will appreciate it. Overall it wasn’t a pleasant experience, the kiss was bad, I felt guilty for a while. But earned experience.

  2. Girl I met through FB again. We talked for a while, asked her out for some coffee. Told her I wasn’t looking for any relationship just fun. We spend some quality time together talking and eating , going to an event nearby about entrepreneurships (she was into fashion and makes clothes that she sells). Lesson learned: contrary to my first date, I decided to get to know her deeper. Talked to her about fashion, about her business, future plans, etc. She seems to trusted me (she said it) and even shared stories about her personal life. I felt something warm in my chest that lasted for days. I don’t think it was love, but rather just the result of a fond experience and my lack of social contact, specially women. I think she was expecting me to ask her for a kiss or something, but I just didn’t feel enough attraction. I was waiting for her to be more direct too. What I learned from this is that, as man, feeling strong sexual desire (need to touch her, kiss her, fuck her) is necessary, as that will motivate you to go for the next step. She was pretty, but the desire wasn’t there. Overall it was a pleasant experience. Learned a lot, feel more confident now, and looking forwards for new experiences.

Just wanted to share my experiences so that you might learn something too. I think going out with girls let’s you learn about YOURSELF and improve your game. Don’t let bad experiences hold you back.

PD: I know it’s weird that my two dates have been with random girls I added on FB, but it worked and I’m pleased. Tinder doesn’t work in my country (I’m not from USA). And I spend most of my time at home so I can’t meet women in person. I’ve been considering hobbies and activities to meet women.