Hi.

I think that above all else, people want the ooey-gooey, highly affectionate romance above all else.

Yes, sexual attraction matters. Being an individual matters. The division of labor means that (typically the woman) ends up doing more housework.

Besides that, I think people want to play halves.

That means being attentive rather than playing dom/sub. Intensity can be established with rhythm.

I think that above all else, people (even men) want to feel protected.