Why does society constantly label men who date younger than their age as creepy?

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-04-14T02:02:57+00:00

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96tillinfinity_ · 2023-04-14T01:15:28+00:00

Shaming tactic because we live in a gynocentric society

Theres a reason a show like “Milf Island” can exist on TLC where 40-45+ year old moms flirt with and fuck eachother’s sons on a beautiful resort island

Could you imagine a show called “Dilf Island”? Where 40-45+ dads flirt with and fuck eachothers early 20s year old daughters?

Nope didnt think so

WilliamWyattD · 2023-04-14T01:14:05+00:00

While we all understand that raw sexual attraction is important to people, we also understand the dangers of overweighting it in relationship decisions. Most of the time, men who date much younger are thinking too much with their dicks, simple as that. So society punishes them a bit because they are doing it so obviously.

Furthermore, age-gap relationships tend to encourage an undesirable female trait: whoring their sexuality for money and lifestyle.

This does not mean that there are not some good and real age-gapped relationships where she truly finds him attractive, and where she really is a good partner for him beyond her youth-based sexual attractiveness. But on the whole, these types of relationships are not usually about each gender being their best selves.

Asatmaya · 2023-04-14T01:19:03+00:00

Men get criticized regardless.

Dating younger women? You're exploiting her naivete.

Dating older women? You're exploiting her maternal instincts.

Dating women your own age? You're stuck in the past. And probably exploiting her, somehow.

You can't win, so don't play that game.

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Opening_Pattern_301 · 2023-04-14T01:37:17+00:00

a lot of women just love to label whatever doesnt validates them as creepy or just shame in general, i saw it once when some trad woman was uploading videos about her life as a SAHM, all women who reacted to her content automatically labelled it creepy like npcs.

So if i were you i would pay no mind unless they actually give you a convincing reason why it is creepy.

Listen-Natural · 2023-04-14T01:38:52+00:00

It’s typically older women that do the shaming because “they have been there and done that”, but it’s funny if you asked them at 23 they were probably hooking up with older men. That period is short lived so they are just salty

myrosieredcheeks · 2023-04-14T01:48:53+00:00

I think it depends how big the age gap is. 5 years not that bad, 10 years how much are you going to have in common? 15 years 20 and 35 are just in completely different areas of life. A 20 women year old dating a 35 year old man is seen as creepy because she should be a college sophomore and he should be a dad with a wife, two kids and mortgage.

I don't think age gap relationships should be not allowed or necessarily shamed but they always will be not the norm, and that's normal. I think redpill likes to push that this is the way and everybody should be in age gap relationships. That is obviously so men have a extra 15 years to mess around and women just don't know any different. I personally would not date a man over 7-8 years older that me but would prefer 2-3 years older.

gymbronyc718 · 2023-04-14T01:19:22+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/NpaInvq

megacope · 2023-04-14T01:45:12+00:00

I think it’s jealousy in a lot of cases. And dare I say there’s a dash of that insecurity that we are told we have when we don’t like something that women do. Just a thought.

Comfortable-Regret · 2023-04-14T02:00:09+00:00

Much of the same reasons an adult "dating" a child is creepy. There's a gap in power, maturity, and experience. There's no arbitrary age where you suddenly snap into adulthood, a 17 year old doesn't gain enlightenment on their 18th birthday. So even if they're technically legal, an 18 year old isn't much different from a 17 year old, so I find it simularly disturbing when a 40 year old wants to date them. Why would you want to be with someone so much less developed than you anyway? Obviously it's not always wrong to be with someone younger, but I think in most cases where one is practically a child there's something nasty going on.

Thekurdishprince · 2023-04-14T02:02:54+00:00

It is a shaming tactic in western female first society. Where i come from it is the norm and in fact most women want a man older ! Try asking a middle eastern womens hand in marriage while being 1 month younger than her and see how she will reject your ass.

In most societies throughout all of history older men were more attractive because the traits that are needed to be an attractive man ( aside from being handsome) comes with time.

As a newly adult male you do not have the things that women find most attractive. For most young they don't have the following things : - Status - Money - Experience - Amazing social skills - Accomplishments - Great stories and experience Among 101 things that usually comes with age ! So in order to become a full package it takes time. Now in a lot of societies they tried to solve this by marrying off their daughters to men with potential to get those things so the marriage was built on the promise of the man becoming more attractive ( not physically per say ) with age while the woman gave him his youth and beauty while young. It was an exchange of value that helped society build strong units.

The men who did not get married young on potential and realised that potential later on went to cash in their chips on a young women. Now the sexual revolution destroyed how marriages/relationships were created. It gave women the option to sleep around with a handful of men while expecting that later on in life some chump will take them as they are.

Now let's get back to why age gaps relationships are very hated on in western societies. It comes from the fact that the woman who is older that wanting to cash in their chips after being promiscuous and they still want the things in a man i listed. In the olden days she had to give him his youth and beauty but now she just wants him cash in his chips for her which the guy does not want to. He still wants to cash in his chips for womens youth and beauty like the old times.

This leaves a lot of women without a mate since she has to compete with a younger women so as always women go back to reputation destruction ( their favourite tool ) in order to limit competition.

Now on the male sides the young man is pissed because he cannot compete with the older man on most things. Yeah maybe he is younger maybe even slightly more handsome but what fucking else can she offer at the moment ? Not much but a promise to be fulfilled decades later.

Personally i tell men if you can build with a woman while young do it but if you cannot then once you become successful you better cash in your chips for the best option which is the young woman.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-04-14T02:08:25+00:00

Its not creepy. Most guys date women 2-5 years younger as a general rule. Larger gaps exist and yeah its a little sus if a guy continually dates girls 20 years younger than him, but if he typically dates closer to his own age, he might have just found someone younger who seems compatible with him. Patterns are more important

DisasterPeace7 · 2023-04-14T03:43:24+00:00

Shaming tactic, both genders have sexual double standards, some beneficial, some not, it is what is

Title	Why does society constantly label men who date younger than their age as creepy?
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Date	April 14, 2023 12:55 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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