This is especially to American women. If women understood that sometimes what they look for is rare they would have more appreciation for the common great things that are in front of them. It is so strange to me that across my dating in many different countries that American women who have the least amount of pressure for gender obligations also have the most requirements for the men they date. A coffee date for a first date and most countries even in very rich countries like Dubai is considered a good standard. However more and more women are considering coffee dates to be a low standard. They are better than that. But also will want a man who is aggressive and pursues what they want. But also women have consistently said they don't want to be bothered and left alone. Often on dating subs are even on dating profiles themselves they will not accept a high or hello as a good response. However on bumble where women have to post first more often than not the first message is hello or hi. For overall in summary I feel that there should be clear cut low standards good standards and high standards That women agree on. And then individually the women can say it they either have high standards or good standards.