A cry for help from a young dysphoric man

brightsideblue · 2022-03-19T23:38:56+00:00

I strongly recommend watching the testimony of former trans woman, Walt Heyer, which is available on YouTube.

There is also a tidal wave of detransitioners coming, with many already speaking out about the trans cult.

Sure you could go ahead and transition but you'll always be biologically male and therefore living a lie and against God's good design. This will lead to more unhappiness than you can imagine.

Always remember that the devil is a liar. Of course he is in your ear about changing who God made you. Satan hates you and seeks your ultimate destruction. Don't let him win. The Lord Jesus Christ has victory over your life.

And as a side note maybe consider cutting your hair to a shorter, masculine cut to remove any unnecessary temptation to think a disorderd way.

God bless and all the best.

cavemanben · 2022-03-19T20:41:08+00:00

Transgender ideology is a social contagion and a very recent social phenomena. Meaning you may need to cut off all social media, sever ties with your friends, anyone who might affirm the delusion and also find a normal Evangelical church, as the Episcopalians are Christians in name only.

Unfortunately it's too late to excise the ideas from your consciousness but you can try and find meaningful ways to engage with the world that can distract you from these poisonous thoughts.

You may also consider talking to an evangelical pastor or elder to try and get some discussion going and maybe find the root of this issue.

sliprymdgt · 2022-03-20T01:08:11+00:00

The “cure” for you is probably going to come about not by attempting to address it directly, but by abiding in and growing in Jesus’s deep and inexhaustible love for you by grace, not of your own efforts. Even your efforts to do everything righteously and become a “biblical young man”.

If you are in Christ, you are already a Biblical young man, because Christs sacrifice is better than your sin and dysphoria.

By all means find a Christian counselor, and that’ll help, but God has to do the heavy lifting here. Thing is, he’s good for it.

We heal and become happier the more we surrender to, walk with, and rest in Christ. This is why you can’t “pray the gay away” (or dysphoria), because Jesus said only those who lose their lives will gain their lives. We can’t heal ourselves.

Are you fully surrendered to Christ? I am, some days. And it’s incredibly easy to just fall back into my own self.

But I am not my own. I am DEAD in Christ. And it is no longer I who live but Christ in me.

Can you say the same - and does that have a gravity to it in your own soul?

First step: find a healthy church that is Biblical. They are hard to find and you’re not at one now.

DM me your city and I will research Biblical churches. Everyone NEEDS community. The Christian life can’t be lived on your own.

Do you have any scripture memorized? A very little bit can go a really long way.

Know that God’s love for you in Christ never leaves. It doesn’t change based on how you’re feeling.

Read 1st John, and meditate on these:

O LORD, my heart is not lifted up; my eyes are not raised too high; I do not occupy myself with things too great and too marvelous for me.

But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child is my soul within me.

O Israel, hope in the LORD from this time forth and forevermore. - Psalm 131

. . .

This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.

But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. - 1 John 1:5-8

. . .

So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.

By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world.

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. - 1 John 4

Edit: unfortunately, I must emphasize that there are no clear, strict steps you can take that will heal this. Discipline is needed, but discipline, philosophy and religion are all powerless to save you. They cannot love you.

Only Jesus, who loved you and died for you, can. Let him give you rest. I’ll pray that for you. I need it too.

Have you watched the videos where older people who transitioned talk about regretting it?

TheGodofOrphans · 2022-03-20T14:18:44+00:00

On a practical level I would recommend going to get your testosterone levels tested. If your hormone profile looks like a girl (and that appears to be more and more the case with the male population every year) you are going to feel like a girl. If that happens to be the issue from there you can decide if you want TRT or to find natural solutions.

Additionally I would like to ask what are your stats? This is not a relationship post so they are not required but I can tell you nothing has helped my history of depression, low energy, and increasing my feelings of masculinity than starting and maintaining a heavy lifting program. Highly recommended!

God made you a man! This is a good thing! You get to be one who moves the world instead of just watching. You get to build value rather than just maintain a deprecating asset. You get to build your world, you purpose, into a life well lived for God! That is an incredible thing!

jayval90 · 2022-03-19T21:51:52+00:00

Your inner thoughts do not define you. The larger culture will tell you that the "true you" is to be found inside your being, and everything that lies in conflict with that must be a lie. This is a poisonous way to view self.

It sounds trite, but your Identity really does come from God. Focus less on your internal thoughts. Don't try to fight them, as your thoughts are "desperately wicked" and will only twist the "real you" (aka, who God created you as) into something that confused at best and malevolent at worst external forces have manipulated your mind into thinking. Either way, it is the work of Satan.

Pray (focusing on God), surround yourself with positive influences (Orthodox/conservative church, read Scripture, read solid Theology, etc), and reject the idea that transitioning will make it better. That is a complete lie and manipulation.

Samonites89 · 2022-03-19T20:26:05+00:00

Are you part of a local church? This is a very complicated situation and our ability to help is limited. You need serious pastoral care. If you're not in a church and you're comfortable, PM your location and I can try to help find a place.

Praexology · 2022-03-20T14:24:24+00:00

Every week, I suffer from dysphoric thoughts, and they are constantly trying to convince me that I am a woman and that I need to transition in order to be happy.

The stats do not seem to support this, but let's ask a few other questions first.

1) How old are you?

2) Do you have diagnosed autism?

3) Are friends in your friend group also trans or LGBTQIA+?

4) How would you describe your main relationships? (Parents, Schooling, Peers etc.)

Zach8171 · 2022-03-24T20:50:40+00:00

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RaidenDark · 2022-03-20T01:57:17+00:00

Transitioning isn't real. There's no way for you to become a woman. It isn't possible. You will always be a man no matter what you do to mutilate your body into a cheap facsimile of a woman. You will always know this to be true and that will make you even more miserable after the honeymoon phase ends, should you go through with the mangling of your body.

We have to make the best of what we've been given. You were given the body of man. Be the best man you can be be. There's no checklist. Take care of your body and tell the truth. Tell yourself the truth: you are a man. You can never know the truth if you lie. Never speak or think a single one.

The depression is a serious issue, and speaking from experience it makes you believe stupid things with extreme conviction. What are you doing about it?

nigmondo · 2022-03-19T21:38:49+00:00

Could you have ocd?

Irrational and intrusive thoughts are certainly a symptom.

https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/transgender-ocd-symptoms-and-treatment

strawbunnycupcake · 2022-03-22T23:53:56+00:00

Contrary to what I see other people on here posting, your gender dysphoria will likely never go away, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with how you feel. There isn’t a cure that will suddenly make you happy to be a cis male like there is no cure for same sex attraction. It’s how your body has developed. Being trans is not something new. If you look up different cultures, you will see that it’s something felt across the world.

If you want to believe there is something wrong with you, you’re free to do so, but I strongly encourage you to at least get some perspectives from people outside this group, if only to help you make the decision that is right for you.

I recommend seeking professional help through a therapist experienced in gender dysphoria/identity because the people here aren’t the ones who have to live with what you’re feeling.

I hope you know that you aren’t alone in how you’re feeling, and I don’t think there is anything unusual or strange or wrong with you. I wish you the best. It’s not easy with what you’re trying to cope with.

HistoryCorner · 2022-03-26T03:44:11+00:00

There's nothing sinful about transitioning.

VideoGameTourGuide · 2022-03-20T16:30:47+00:00

You have a mental issue, seek help

plaudite_cives · 2022-03-21T11:48:02+00:00

you say that you have untreated depression, you should definitely treat that

Part of gender dysphoria in the west world in recent years is IMHO about young people who have basically everything (definitely more than 99% people who ever walked this earth) still feeling like shit (which may be partly hormonal but definitely normal thing in life) and without outside problems they turn into themselves to look what is wrong with them. And we all are prone to imitate people around, so if you know/read about people who (think they) found out that they are dysphoric and now they feel better (often it's about action making you feel better or just time) it's natural that part of people will start to believe that too...

Regarding the "imitation" of mental disorders, I recommend to read this https://astralcodexten.substack.com/p/book-review-crazy-like-us?s=r

Visual_Pack_2206 · 2022-03-24T11:00:26+00:00

Sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this. It’s super difficult and no fun.

Few questions—

Has and is Jesus becoming more and more clear in your mind so that His joy is more pervasive in your life? Too much of “Christianity” is just rule keeping. I’ve seen massive changes in myself when I stop asking “how do I feel?” and instead seeing how Jesus feels and finding my identity in that.
Are you in a solid church with a pastor that can support you and hold you accountable?

H8sawpalmetto · 2022-03-30T16:04:53+00:00

Nobody is truly happy. If they say they’re happy it’s a front or very temporary. So assuming a transition will make you happy is a fallacy.

You’re assuming a transition would stop these thoughts, but maybe you’d have the same thoughts about switching back and regrets too

my_name_carmen · 2022-03-31T04:13:39+00:00

get off the internet

EthicallyIlliterate · 2022-04-03T13:12:34+00:00

Chiming in here, lift more weights. How old are you?

NoWakeZone7 · 2022-04-05T19:38:25+00:00

Read bondage breaker.

Go see a pastor.

Join a mens group.

SafetyShoe72 · 2022-04-07T06:17:01+00:00

Breathe

God fashioned the world. Then he said it was good.

Men and women not only have different bodies, but different brains. Nothing can change your spirit.

You’re having a spiritual crisis. Your male spirit and your feminine side are becoming confused. This is normal. The Lord fashioned the world from Chaos. Our premature consumption of knowledge enables us to undo that order. It’s perfectly possible for us men not only to become like women, but animals. Chaos is unlimited potential. God created the world to be in perfect balance. By coming out of our masculinity as men we upset the entire world.

Women used to say men are dogs. Then they say men are pigs. Now they say there are no men. This whole thing is a chicken and egg thing. I for one am a Catholic. That means I have investigated and align with the Adam and Eve trope. Adam listened to Eve. This is mans fall. The masculine listening to the feminine as authority.

Come back to your male authority within yourself. Your thoughts are like Eve, nagging you. Do not be like Adam. Learn from his mistake or be cast out of Heaven into the wilderness.

Dharmsara · 2022-04-07T08:00:24+00:00

You need to be yourself bro

ida_shh · 2022-04-13T01:32:07+00:00

this is heartbreaking. in my opinion you need to talk to a medical professional not the church. you should choose what makes you happiest. a religious lifestyle shouldn’t be making you feel so depressed. it sounds like transitioning would be best for your mental health and overall life. if you choose to stay in your religion , you shouldn’t listen to what these people have to say.. live your truth!

Title	A cry for help from a young dysphoric man
Author	Zach8171
Upvotes	29
Comments	46
Date	March 19, 2022 8:11 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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