Heartbreak

OsmiumZulu · 2020-01-27T18:40:49+00:00

You caught oneitis and got burned; you aren’t the first and won’t be the last. Lesson learned hopefully.

The question is: what are you going to do about it?

Lairhoss · 2020-01-27T19:04:23+00:00

Beware who you give your heart to. This girl wasn't anything to you, just a stranger, and you assumed a bunch of stuff about her and then you got hurt when you found out she isn't the princess you thought she was. There's no cheating, no betrayal, you brought it on yourself.

Since it seems you're in a bad place right now, i don't see the point of torturing you with words, specially because your situation is what brings most people to TRP. Now it's time to accept personal responsability to learn what is taught around here, starting out with the nice guy stigma and how to get rid of it.

Platinum247365 · 2020-01-27T23:18:15+00:00

I would look at this optimistically. You found out who she really was now rather than later. If you had already been in a relationship or married with this girl, the hurt would have been a whole lot worse. You dodged a bullet - big time.

ENTPunisher · 2020-01-28T13:47:34+00:00

Lmao of course the girl leading Bible study ends up being a thot. Why would you ever attend a woman-lead Bible study when Timothy 2:12 exists? And of course she's swimming in orbiters, genius con for her.

Billy_King · 2020-01-28T07:17:50+00:00

A side note: you say she wants to mess around and she’s anything but a Christian, but she also organizes Bible study and such? Definitely not a good look for her and the fellowship group. People involved need to do something about this.

RunawayGrain · 2020-01-27T18:54:45+00:00

Sometimes God has to remove an Idol that stands between us and our relationship with him. When that happens, it's usually not a pleasant experience. Think of Jacob or the rich young ruler here. Read your Bible, and then realize you've been handed a blessing, but some pain usually accompanies those blessings.

So let me ask, would you have rather found these things out now while you can still pull your irons out of the fire unscathed, or after marriage when you are spiritually and legally bound to that person?

PrincepsOmni · 2020-01-30T08:10:34+00:00

A woman who follows the teachings of Christ will as a minimum:

Not 'date', let alone date 'casually' - she will engage in courtship with suitors.
She won't have any non-Christians as close friends, and will not entertain men who are not Christians for courtship.
She'll be in a church that doesn't let women preach as well. And will dress and behave modestly....she's saving herself for her husband both physically and emotionally.

And as a Christian man you are supposed "Fear God, and honour the King" - not pine over fake Christian women who have demonstrated a lack of seriousness in faith and interest in you.

These women are like the Pharisees described in Mathew 23:37 - they might look pretty on the outside but the insides are full of impurity and death.

And for heaven's sake, do not put any woman on a pedestal. That's idolatry. Even if you marry the most amazing wife don't worship her...ever.

Don't even entertain a woman who doesn't meet the above criteria and who demonstrates a willingness to submit to your headship and masculinity.

You don't need counselling. You need boundaries.

DigitalScetis · 2020-01-27T21:28:16+00:00

There was an old Benedictine abbot that once claimed that every thought, every feeling, that enters you comes from one of three sources:

God, as the Holy Spirit.

Satan, trying to tempt or mislead you.

Yourself, which is most likely self serving.

So from what source did the positive assessment of this girl come from? Probably from number 3, although I wouldn't discount number 2. It's possible it came from number 1, but if it did, it was put there for His purposes, and not yours, that you'll only understand in due time.

The point is, a lot of Christians think that just because a situation feels so right to our souls, it is necessarily true. That's a bad assumption. Because there's a whole lot of stuff going on in our souls; it's a battleground. And Satan, or even our own sinful selves, aren't above pulling a great deception in order to lead us into misery.

You might of been led to think one thing, when the truth was something you didn't allow yourself to see. Or (and I'll give the girl the benefit of the doubt), she really is a strong Christian, and the Holy Spirit will let her see the error of her ways before she does real damage to her soul.

But that is not up to you to have any hand in; that's her burden, and I say that, outside of prayers, you ought to leave her to her choices.

What you have to do is look after your own soul with prayer, Christian counsel, and perhaps some penance or charitable works in order to get your soul in order, and away from this mess.

Rightwater · 2020-01-28T19:11:17+00:00

Yeah this sucks dude. Its rare enough finding a girl around where I live that even says she is christian. So I understand getting the hopes up when you seemingly find one who may be and the frustration when she isnt.

I do not know how close you both were but if it was just a girl managing your bible study feeling cheated and betrayed by getting to know who she really was is too extreme. Disappointed or discouraged yes, but not cheated. She didn't owe you anything yet.

redwall92 · 2020-01-27T20:03:24+00:00

Brand new user; account 1 day old; no history; no stats. Comes in here whining like a 14yo fangirl.

And you guys are actually answering this crap?!

Come on RPC.

Title	Heartbreak
Author	rohitprab
Upvotes	0
Comments	21
Date	January 27, 2020 6:25 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RPChristians
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