Feeling shame

HappilyMrs · 2021-12-06T11:27:05+00:00

Look, you're two years into a global pandemic that has turned our whole world upside down. You absolutely need to be gentle to yourself. So things are dirty and messy. They can be cleaned. You have the ability to deal with it. If you need it, tell your husband how you feel, let him forgive you, and trust him when he says it's okay. Noone is perfect.

anothergoodbook · 2021-12-06T11:46:00+00:00

That’s so tough and I’ve been where you are. The one great thing is that you are taking notice and doing something about it! That’s awesome. If you need any inspiration (I know you didn’t ask for it), but the book How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind is a great one!

Happy cleaning ☺️

Sea_Bookkeeper_1533 · 2021-12-06T14:29:48+00:00

Bless those sweet husbands and their subtle hints... 💕

Luthien--- · 2021-12-06T20:39:26+00:00

We bought a house in October (feels like yesterday) and we have an almost seven month old baby (also feels like yesterday 😭) and we’re all getting over some virus.

Needless to say our house isn’t looking too great...my husband went from saying “it looks better every day” to “it looks better every week” ahahaha goodness.

Just take it one piece at a time. Some days I just get maintenance done (laundry, dishes, dinner) and some days I really make progress unpacking or cleaning.

But we’ve all been there. Sometimes priorities change or we get in a rut. It’s good you’re taking notice and tackling the problem. Good luck!

palewaterwoman · 2021-12-06T10:07:58+00:00

I completely understand how you are feeling. My house is a disaster right now. Since I got pregnant I've been exhausted and I've really been slacking on the housework. Some slacking is to be expected because the past few months have been really difficult for me with fatigue and nausea, but there have also been times where I felt okay, definitely could have cleaned a little bit, but didn't do it out of my own laziness. My house is so cluttered and dirty, I barely know where to start. I'm so embarrassed because I used to take such pride in having a perfect house and cleaning routine, and now I just... don't.

Be honest with yourself about how dirty your house is and how much you need to get done but also don't beat yourself up over it too much. It happens to us all at some point. Best of luck to you and your cleaning! <3

Environmental_Ad5867 · 2021-12-06T15:04:39+00:00

The fact that you had that moment of reflection and taking active steps to amend it, it’s such a positive thing OP! Well done for that.

Im moving in together with my partner this January so I’m both dreading and looking forward to the packing so I can do a nice deep spring clean and inventory of items to be disposed, donated and kept in easily searchable/unpacking categories. I love fresh starts.

Pola_Lita · 2021-12-09T16:23:41+00:00

Yike. This might have been as much as a year ago, but someone in one of the women's subs here on Reddit gave a link to a free (I think) app that could be set up to include all the housekeeping tasks you wanted to list, along with how often they should be performed. If I remember right, it gave a bit of warning for the bigger things as well as a daily reminder for each.

Does anyone else remember this?

Title	Feeling shame
Author	acgs1995
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	December 6, 2021 7:01 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
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