book recommendations

Jenneapolis · 2025-12-14T15:36:50+00:00

The majority of the books we have listed on the wiki are intended to be read by you as a woman only, it’s best not to even tell your man you’re reading them. But I think if you wanted, you and your partner could read For Women Only and even follow it up with For Men Only and discuss the items in there. This is not religious and pretty fact and statistic based.

Sweatpant-Diva · 2025-12-14T17:43:43+00:00

The surrendered wife

ArkNemesis00 · 2025-12-14T22:44:30+00:00

A Man's Guide to Women by the Gottmans for your boyfriend. Not traditional but a science-based approach that considers gender differences.

Standard_Debate_1572 · 2025-12-15T14:45:01+00:00

I know this isn't exactly what you had in mind, but if you want something that you and your man can watch together and discuss, I suggest checking out Robert Sapolsky's Stanford lecture series about evolutionary biology. He spends a lot of time going over the differences between men and women, the science behind certain behaviors, and the reasons for certain inherent dynamics.

The series is not solely focused on male/female differences and relationships, but it plays a big role.

He's extremely good at explaining complex topics in an approachable/colloquial way, and he takes his time explaining things so that you never get lost. I constantly come back to this lecture series as a grounding tool in my relationships/understanding of basic human evolutionary psychology

anywineismywine · 2025-12-14T05:58:28+00:00

Following!

Jenneapolis · 2025-12-15T15:37:03+00:00

Ooh I just had another thought, try one of Esther Perel’s books. She is fantastic and all of her content is really intended for both genders. She will for sure get you 2 talking.

I also second Ark’s recommendation on the Gottman books.

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nnnmmmh · 2025-12-14T21:34:48+00:00

I’ve heard that The Proper Care of Husbands is good. I’ve listened to reviews but haven’t read it myself. May be something you could look into

Retired401 · 2025-12-15T16:42:00+00:00

In addition to agreeing with recs for anything by John Gottman and Esther Perel, I'd add every book ever written by Terrence Real. He is a no-BS relationship therapist who calls it like he sees it and I have found many of his specific recommendations to be very useful in my life and relationship. "The New Rules of Marriage" is probably my favorite. I even had my fiancé read it and he agreed.

Also, at the risk of being run out of here by a pitchforked mob, I would like to suggest you read The Value of Others by Orion Taraban.

It's a newer book and it definitely has its detractors, especially among women. But I truly believe the majority of men and women would benefit greatly from reading this book as young adults. I wish it had been around when I was in my 20s. It probably would have changed my life as far as some decisions that I made at key points in my life.

It can be rough going at the start of it as Taraban explains his Captain / Passenger analogy in great detail and then carries it through the next few chapters.

But if you stick it out and make it through the book, if nothing else it will give you a lens on male-female relationships you may otherwise never have. And believe me when I say that even if you end up not agreeing with it, I think you will be hard-pressed to write off the entire book as a whole. Its truths, while uncomfortable and maybe even discouraging at times, need to be known.

The Value of Others has been demonized by many, many people as sexist and benefiting men, as manosphere content, etc.

But I strongly disagree. While some women may not like what this book lays out, at age 52 I do very strongly believe Taraban's thesis and proof points are 100% dead on accurate. I would actually go so far as to say that if you don't read the book all the way through, even if it infuriates you, you will be missing out on crucial information you need to navigate adult romantic relationships, especially these days.

I wouldn't go so far as to say that there are not some relationships that are not inherently transactional. There are, of course. There honestly just aren't all that many, especially these days.

It's rare for me to praise a single book so effusively. But the overwhelming feeling I had while reading it -- I finished it in 3 days -- was, not only did I wish I'd had this book 30 years ago, but I also wished I'd been the one who wrote it.

matcha_cream_puff · 2025-12-15T20:47:33+00:00

If you enjoy science and find works that are based on anecdotes unconvincing, I recommend the work of Dr David Buss, who essentially founded the field of evolutionary psychology.

E.g. https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/files/2015/09/SexualStrategiesTheory.pdf

WestCoastCompanion · 2025-12-22T23:18:22+00:00

Leading and Supportive Love by Chris M Lyon.

Act like a lady, think like a man by Steve Harvey

Title	book recommendations
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