Hello everyone :)
I wanted to ask for advice about dating a man I don't feel a strong attraction for yet and am wondering if I should keep seeing him or not.
I'm 23 years old, recently graduated from college and on a gap year before pursuing further education. I had a 2-year long relationship that ended last year. I dated one man around 3 months ago and the connection was amazing but he broke things off due to us being in different life stages.
Since then, I have been on a fair number of first dates but haven't felt a connection like that. In two cases I even cried after coming home because I kept being reminded of how rare it is to actually connect with someone. I have recently been on two dates with this man who is perfect on the paper. He is educated, very smart, has a stable career, is affectionate and empathetic, etc. But the problem is that I don't feel the same level of attraction towards him that I felt with the previous man.
Also, the topics we talk about are different. For context, I'm from a Middle Eastern country and both of the men I dated before had an extensive knowledge and interest in talking about political issues but this man gets bored when I even hint at political issues. Furthermore, he comes from a rich family and can be a bit ignorant at times (he has maids, looks down on people from lower income brackets, etc) while I would say I'm a very sensitive person who loves putting herself in other people's shoes, understanding them, etc.
Now I'm wondering if I'm being too hard on him or not. Should I keep dating him to see if anything will develop or should I stop going out with him? I just can't stop comparing him to the previous man I was dating and remembering how much more masculine he was and how awesome the connection was makes this man seem less attractive to me. I also don't like the idea of dating multiple men at the same time but should I explore other connections to compare it to this one so it's easier for me to make a decision?
I would appreciate any insight. Thank you so much :)
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