Can this be turned around?

MuttonDressedAsGoose · 2025-04-12T14:21:33+00:00

I believe that men put us into a basket and there we stay. He's either just a guy who doesn't want a prize or he's got you categorised as easy sex.

I don't think you can change his mind.

HalfwaydonewithEarth · 2025-04-12T14:40:11+00:00

This sub bans moralism

At his age he is in the habbit of getting free easy cheap sex with just a few dinners and early dating.

Some men Men do the minimum to maintain sex.

If you tell men upfront you are saving yourself for your wedding night the men will disappear and the other ones that want to dote on you will appear.

It's a hard lesson to learn that men are players and can sweet talk for sex. Women have a game going also.

Men don't buy cows when they get free milk.

Simple_Sundae_4076 · 2025-04-12T16:05:01+00:00

Ghost him girl

Nerdslayer2 · 2025-04-12T15:07:16+00:00

I think Dr Taraban has some good points and I agree with a lot of his advice for men, but I disagree with his advice for women, and that advice also happens to not be in line with this sub. He tells women to sleep with men very quickly, because apparently that lets the man know she really likes him. I think this is horrible advice and causes the man to value you less, and puts you in a situation like the one you are in now. Honestly I would take his advice for women with a grain of salt.

There's a very low chance of turning things around in this situation. If he had romantic interest in you his actions towards you would reflect that. To be blunt, if you are looking for marriage and kids, you don't have time to try to turn around these types of relationships. Best to not get into bed with a guy until you know he has romantic intentions with you.

Also, just this guy inviting you over for sex doesn't make him a LVM. That's actually how HVMs behave a lot of the time. He just isn't invested in you.

Equivalent-Ad5449 · 2025-04-13T02:33:08+00:00

Commitment comes before sex. Sorry but this needs to become normalised. If have sex when a guy won’t even stop being on dating apps then only do so if accept he’s just getting off with you but has no deeper feelings whatsoever.

Sex shouldn’t be a thing till you know for a fact this man really likes you, you like him, are on same page, aren’t dating or looking at dating other people. 4 dates is nothing, you can’t even know if you really like him or are compatible yet.

serene_brutality · 2025-04-14T03:46:42+00:00

Don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy.

And it doesn’t matter how much you like or are attracted to, or even love someone, if they’re not good for you then you have to rip off the bandaid and find something that is good for you.

That’s a big problem with a lot of relationships, many of us, (men too, I’ve been there more times than I care to admit) we stay with people we want or love or sex us up really good, that we care about that don’t care about us. We set ourselves on fire to keep others warm, hoping they’ll see us, appreciate our effort and reciprocate. Honestly I’ve never seen that happen. The more you do, the more they take for granted. People only change when they want to, and usually only want to when they’re forced to.

Feelings are complicated, love is complicated. Love is more than an emotion, it’s also an action, and no matter what someone feels, it’s not conveyed unless it’s shown, demonstrated. If some isn’t willing to act with love they don’t deserve to receive it. Find someone who is.

AutoModerator · 2025-04-12T14:09:10+00:00

Title: Can this be turned around?

Author paper_cutx

Full text: New to this community but a lot of the teaching here is synonymous with Dr Orion Taravan

I’m 35(f) seeing a 40(M) from Bumble and after giving him access to sex , he has now become a LVM asking me to go back to his home and he never takes me out. He also hasn’t planned anything with me. I have also previously asked him if he was on the same page and wanted to get off the dating app but he said it was too much too soon (with him staying over) and he wants to take it slow.

I have used the search button but haven’t found any solution. Can this be turned around?

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paper_cutx · 2025-04-17T00:30:21+00:00

I genuinely felt like he took me for granted. And this is not an attack on men but applies for both genders. If youre going to invite someone to your home, you should be a gracious host to ensure they’re comfortable and having their needs met. He said his house was my house but I wasn’t being treated like a guest. He had no groceries and didn’t bother to buy groceries or order me a proper meal. He was mostly focused on his tv.

If I was to give him another chance, he really needs to put in more effort. After I returned home He didn’t even follow up with me until four days later. Conversation has been sparse with no plans for the next date. He is not a HVM but a LVM .

Title	Can this be turned around?
Author	paper_cutx
Upvotes	4
Comments	20
Date	April 12, 2025 2:09 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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