Ex wants me back

No-Comfort1229 · 2024-09-09T07:50:04+00:00

you should totally not get back with him, a man that makes you feel like that so strongly that you’re scared to date even a different man, is surely a man not worth the time.

not all men are like that, there’s plenty of loving ones that’ll make you feel like the most beautiful woman alive, just because they’re in love with you.

you should aim for that, and in the meanwhile, focus on yourself and on healing your perception of men.

Jenneapolis · 2024-09-09T15:57:30+00:00

This is a perfect example of why casual relationships are so damaging to women. You get all the pain and heartbreak of a relationship with none of the benefits. Chalk it up to learning experience and move forward.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-09-09T09:26:11+00:00

So you don’t wanna get back with him, and he wants to get back with you because he can’t do any better. Yeah, that’s not really a recipe for success.

Also, it sounds like he’s the “modern girl” in the relationship since he didn’t want to commit because he wanted to rack up bodies and damage. Except men don’t really get as much damage in that way, but still.

AutoModerator · 2024-09-09T07:45:30+00:00

Title: Ex wants me back

Author Soggy-Cornflakes

Full text: Hello. So, just recently I (f27) broke up with my ex (m29). We were in a F+ relationship with set rules for around 4 years. We both wanted a closed relationship, not involving any other people. (Basically like a demo version of a relationship) I broke up with him, because I was increasingly getting unhappy with this relationship, he had very manipulative tendencies by putting me down and over critizing me. Plus he never was loyal to me.

What really sticked to me was: the one reason, why he never really wanted to turn this into an official relationship with me was, he thought he would miss out on experience and would be able to find somebody better than me (more attractive). He was not sure, if he could show me off to his friends and family. He wants me back though, because I have other qualities (loyal, low bc) and he thinks he will never ever find somebody in this day and age with these qualities.

I honestly dont want him back. He was my first relationship ever, all my first times I had with him so I entered this relationship quite naive and inexperienced.He introduced me into RedPill. But I can't even imagine getting into a relationship ever again in my life. I just feel, I will always be an afterthought to men.

I really wanted to post this here on this particular sub, since you guys have a different view on men and dating than any other more "feminist" or "liberal" sub.

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Dionne005 · 2024-09-10T03:04:18+00:00

No no no

Independent-Story883 · 2024-09-09T10:05:48+00:00

Of course verbal, mental abuse should not be tolerated.

However you don't mention what he was willing to do possibly change.

You don't mention if he was or was in track to be a provider.

Those would come into play if you are trying to get an alternative to the feminism, liberalism opinion.

If he were a 100 percent provider AND he wanted you, saw the error of his ways and organically wants to change them- I could see giving him a second chance.

Marriage and relationships are not based on comfort and convenience. There is always some sacrifice. He has to learn he is not getting runway supermodel of the year, instead a loyal, caring female. You must deal with unloyal, jerk personality but he hopefully is being a provider and protector. Marriage (should be) is for life. Only you can decide if he is worthy of such a commitment.

If you think trade off and sacrifice is ridiculous. Then you commit to either forever wandering the streets of fairytale land looking for a prince OR back in the feminist forum learning to do without compromise and making a life for yourself. All 3 are not bad choices. Just choices.

Title	Ex wants me back
Author	Soggy-Cornflakes
Upvotes	7
Comments	17
Date	September 9, 2024 7:45 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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