How to "get official"?

JackGoldsteinWrites · 2014-12-05T18:11:14+00:00

State your terms sexual terms. The best case, he respects you as a woman of dignity. The worst case, he moves on. He never liked you that much anyway.

A lot of TRP guys believe you need to be a plate, then a girlfriend. That is not entirely true. Even if he has options, if you're head and shoulders above them, he will negotiate. It's a market, after all.

I waited 3 weeks for my current girlfriend, and I don't regret it. It was probably the longest I waited since my teenage years ( 9 months for 1st g/f, never more than a week since that one until this one).

Katniss_Granger · 2014-12-05T19:13:40+00:00

When it comes to getting official, are dominant men really willing to do so without having had sex with a woman?

Absolutely. All of my sexual partners have only become such after we became official, and still not straight away. I've always made my position very clear by telling them that I absolutely do not have sex unless I'm in an exclusive relationship with good prospects of being long term, that way if they want to walk away they can before they invest and lot of time, money and effort only to find we're on different levels with regards to physical interaction. Personally I've always found that 1) they've never walked away and 2) it's made them more interested in me because a lady who waits and values her sexuality is increasingly rare. The "waiting time" (lol) has been in the range of 2 to 6 months for me *

There's no reason you can't be open and honest with him "I don't want to come on too strong but I'd love to have you round to cook for you."

I would be open with him and tell him that you don't have sex outside of a relationship, if he decides to stop seeing you then he probably didn't like you that much anyway (that sounds harsher than I mean it!)

*edit - I keep saying "they" as if I've had a hoard of men! I haven't, the above is just my experience with a limited few :P

eatplaycrush · 2014-12-05T22:01:16+00:00

When it comes to getting official, are dominant men really willing to do so without having had sex with a woman?

I think this is very subjective as one dominant man may not be willing to do so, but another may very well be willing. The ladies here all had SOs who were willing, but I did not. He looks at time as the most valuable part of his life and frankly he is not willing to waste time on people, or anything, if it isn't exactly his way and that's just that with him. He also did not offer exclusive commitment for about 4/5 months, but again, he had no reason for needing an addition to his life without being able to test the shit out of me and reveal the potential I could have.

-peppermint · 2014-12-06T01:53:12+00:00

are dominant men really willing to do so without having had sex with a woman?

if you're worth it, he will... and it's not worth it to give it up if he wont...

Cooking is very near and dear to my heart, but I don't want him to get the wrong idea with the "romantic dinner at my place" thing.

so make some snacks that you two can munch on while hiking :) you can never go wrong making him some food.

He agreed, respected it and that's all.

perfect!! so leave it at that, if he ends up making a move on you and you have to remind him, that's okay too, and it can give you an intimate moment with him to really explain how you feel.

it sounds like everything so far is so good :) keep us updated!

vintagegirlgame · 2014-12-06T09:26:19+00:00

Master the art of flirting so that he knows you're not trying to put him in the friend zone, is really turned on thinking about when you finally get to do the deed, but also doesn't get blue balls. A good flirtress can make the game fun enough for him to really draw out the preconsummated dating phase. Men like a challenge and the buildup makes the sex even more amazing and rewarding when it happens. Just learn the delicate difference between a good tease and a bad tease.

Synthtwo · 2014-12-09T01:08:57+00:00

I'm a dude.

This is gonna vary between guys. Be as up front as possible though so you can waste as little of one another's time as you can.

I'd personally think it's going nowhere without a physical relationship relatively soon in the relationship, but in the end you just have to prove to him you're worth the risk/reward scenario.

If he's actually a valuable man he isn't going to stick around and waste his time.

aguy01 · 2014-12-11T19:09:40+00:00

There's guys that want to have a great LTR, and they get lots of women but have had to next them all because they don't make the cut. There are guys that don't want an LTR and are just looking to fuck lots of girls. And then there are guys that don't really get pussy and will settle for any girl, even if she makes him wait.

The guys that don't want an LTR will bail, the guys that want to see what you are about will tolerate a reasonable amount of waiting, and you just have to watch out and notice the signs of a guy that doesn't get any.

cupcakesandyay · 2014-12-05T21:01:05+00:00

are dominant men really willing to do so without having had sex with a woman?

Yes. My husband did

Cooking is very near and dear to my heart, but I don't want him to get the wrong idea with the "romantic dinner at my place" thing.

I would wait on this. Next time on a date, bring him something nice you baked or better yet invite him to a family outing and go all out with your cooking skills. If he's unwilling to meet your parents imho then I would venture to say that an official relationship probably isn't on his mind, at least not at presently. If he believes in old-fashioned virtues of a man's position, then approach it from an old-fashioned methodology--meeting the parents ;)

cupcakesandyay · 2014-12-05T21:25:01+00:00

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Title	How to "get official"?
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Date	December 5, 2014 6:00 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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