How to react when he cancels

bittersweettruth_ · 2016-10-25T11:48:13+00:00

I am not his girlfriend but we are exclusive

No. You two aren't exclusive.

I offered to bring him soup and he said let's go out for ice cream instead.

Now, he might have been legitimately not in the mood to hang at his place, but this, coupled with the fact that he supposedly travels a lot for work, and refuses to call you his girlfriend, and then not even texting to cancel, reeks of plate-spinning behavior.

Oh and

I am soft and feminine (he tells me this).

tells me that he reads TRP. I would hard next this guy. Sorry.

VigilantRedRooster · 2016-10-25T15:29:16+00:00

Well we didn't see each other yesterday (Monday) and he didn't even text me to cancel. I understand he is studying and busy, so I won't burden him. I am just not sure how to react. This is the first time he has done this. I am upset that he didn't call to cancel, but he doesn't know I'm upset.

Classic case of "He's just not that into you." A rather caddish way of communicating this after weeks apart, but the silver lining is, it makes breaking it off easy and decisive.

The time and energy you were investing into him can now be invested in yourself, and a little bit of effort toward finding a better matched relationship.

Cardiscappa · 2016-10-25T17:49:57+00:00

I've been lurking here a few months and made this account to reply as I'm almost in the exact situation. Met him in August, 12 year difference, he travels a lot and is "go go go". He knows I am not seeing anyone else and he has said the same, though we have not had The Talk. He's also asked me probing questions about where I see myself in the future.

He came back last month, we made plans for a Wednesday but never heard from him. I texted him the mid day Thursday, he had fallen asleep from doing too much and asked him how he could make up for it. I asked if he was free to go to a show that I had wanted to see and talked about for sometime and he said yes. We had a nice time even though he was a bit distant as he was leaving again the next day. (He said he gets like that before he travels.)

When he comes back, he hugs me like he's been gone for years. I feel like a wife whose soldier husband has just come home from war. When together, he treats me like an absolute queen. He's incredibly thoughtful in the bedroom. He is an absolute gentleman.

Because my guy travels a lot, is very popular with people wanting to have drinks/dinner with him, and has essentially been a bachelor for God knows how long, I give him his space. I am not clingy or demanding his schedule. When he texts me, I text back and am warm and friendly, showing him that he is appreciated. This allows him to be the man he is and the man that I admire without fear from a nagging ball and chain.

I'd suggest, that if your man treats you well and is a gentleman with you, that perhaps try a similar approach to what I do. Continue to live your life, continue your hobbies and making yourself a better person. When he contacts you, be warm. Let him know that you're there but don't be over burdening.

rainyweathergirl · 2016-10-25T14:50:36+00:00

Sorry but he sounds dodgy and unreliable to me.

Boygzilla · 2016-10-25T23:11:27+00:00

You've done more than your share of setting up plans. I would say to fall back and let him demonstrate his interest in you. I seriously question whether or not you two are "exclusive", as guys typically don't blow off girls their exclusive with (at least not in healthy relationships). He should still be pursuing and earning your affection. Dial it back and let him do that. If he doesn't, there's your answer

Title	How to react when he cancels
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Date	October 25, 2016 9:51 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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