How to stfu?

radioactivities9 · 2017-04-19T12:50:15+00:00

Find a man that likes women who talk a lot. Self-Esteem is right, you might actually be very fun and pleasant to listen to! Go figure! :p

crownoffeathers · 2017-04-19T16:53:25+00:00

I think STFU is mostly about not nagging your SO. If you have a valid request, make it, then don't "remind" him every 20 minutes.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to chat about your day and ramble a little, as long as you can return the favor and listen when it's time and not hog the conversation.

teammeli · 2017-04-19T13:29:20+00:00

practice makes perfect. it gets easier with practice. when i first started i felt like i was constantly on the brink of blurting shit out every second.

once i started realizing that you don't have to apologize/backtrack/explain yourself if you don't say every single thing that pops into your head, and many times if i give careful thought and consideration to my words, i get a much better outcome (in all areas of my life)

testmypatience · 2017-04-19T20:04:57+00:00

Please for the love of all that is good in the world, don't take medication to curb your talking.

STFU is about knowing what you shouldn't say. It's ok if you like to talk, but you have to know your audience. When you around family you feel comfortable being yourself which as with everyone includes things that may bug people that you don't know well.

I feel like there needs to be various conversation examples in a video and then have someone break it down.

There is a video series like that. Charisma on Command and it teaches various social behavior skills and is genderless in practice. Would be cool to see a video done in the style he does them.

akanachan · 2017-04-19T14:07:05+00:00

Using a (digital) diary to pour everything into would help the transition from rambling anything that comes to your mind, to be more mindful of what you say.

I only speak up immediately for things that need urgent attention, like "please remove yourself from the BBQ grill, because your pants are on fire".

Anything that isn't immediate, I'd chew over it in my head first, to organize it properly, and decide if it's worth mentioning (in a TL;DR version) at all.

I rarely lose my temper, but I have a crazy temper, and I use a diary app to vomit my emotions into when that happens. Every time I read back on what I wrote (after I've long calmed down and got over it), it always sounds completely ridiculous, and I'm always glad I didn't stress anyone out with it unnecessarily.

teaandtalk · 2017-04-19T05:16:23+00:00

Meditation + therapy (if you can) to work on the self-esteem issues. Then, practice practice practice.

Landry86 · 2017-04-19T15:58:00+00:00

I maybe wouldn't curse so much too... lol

Title	How to stfu?
Author	beastyeast12
Upvotes	10
Comments	24
Date	April 19, 2017 5:09 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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