I need help choosing between 2 guys 😔

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-02-18T02:11:29+00:00

Guy 2 told you, point blank, that he doesn't want to think about the future. At the very least, your answer should be "Not Guy 2". If you want to see how things develop with Guy 1, there are far worse attributes than awkwardness. Maybe he can learn to kiss.

countrylemon · 2024-02-18T02:13:32+00:00

Just based on how you’ve written this, Guy 1 is the better option and you even compare guy 2 to guy 1, meaning there’s something about Guy 1 you consider better overall even if something is drawing you towards Guy 2

BudgetInteraction811 · 2024-02-18T03:39:34+00:00

I’d say neither. It sounds like you’re lukewarm about guy #1 at best, and #2 is just obviously a no because he told you straight up he won’t give you what you need.

zaftig_stig · 2024-02-18T03:18:46+00:00

If you’re thinking about how to talk to Guy 2 to end it, it might be that you two aren’t a good fit.

If he’s not wanting to think about the future and you’re looking for more security in a relationship, you have a major mismatch right there.

Tasssen9 · 2024-02-18T09:13:41+00:00

Ok so if the guy says he doesn’t want to talk about the future it means he doesn’t want to settle down. There’s this belief that women commonly have that ”when he falls deeply in love with me he’s gonna want to settle down” or ”maybe I can change his mind”. No, you will just end up wasting a lot of your time.

I would personally feel that it would be hard to fully trust and surrender to a man that is so much younger than I am (as most often that means he has less life experience than you do). However, that all depends on your both’s level of maturity, intelligence, abilities, and so on. Though you describing him as awkward made me think of this. But yeah, maybe doesn’t hurt to continue dating for a bit and finding out if he is for you?

TheBunk_TB · 2024-02-18T14:46:25+00:00

Do you want to know the third option?

Competitive-Yam-1384 · 2024-02-18T14:53:02+00:00

I’d say neither as well. Would you want to be with someone who was lukewarm about you?

violenceyoshi · 2024-02-18T11:52:38+00:00

I think you should look for different gentlemen. It is neither fair to them, or to you, to pursue what you don't ACTUALLY want.

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Title: I need help choosing between 2 guys 😔

Author CalligrapherAway1101

Full text: I feel awful. I have never been in this situation before and… it just happened.

I’m 32 F. Guy 1 is 28. He is so sweet, tall, skinny, and he hasn’t had a whole lot of experience in relationships since his ex broke up with him 4 years ago. However, he wants to move to the city eventually and so do I. He wants to settle down and that’s what I want. He’s a bit awkward, not a good kisser, and I don’t feel super passionate towards him like I did my ex (but ex was abusive so that’s not super important to me).

Guy 2 is 34. We went to high school together and had mutual friends growing up. He’s really sweet and cute and tall and skinny like Guy 1. And like Guy 1, I recognize that he’s attractive but I don’t feel super horny around him (most guys don’t make me feel that way but I have a high libido anyway so I know our sex life would be good enough). I can talk to him about basically anything and we agree on a lot. However, you does not seem to be the type to settle down. I asked him if he saw that happening and he said something about not wanting to think about the future 🙄

They’re both equally kind, respectful, attractive, and they both like me a lot and I am not used to that, at all.

Anyway. I need to choose. I do not want to cheat. I don’t want to hurt anyone but definitely will. I am going to choose one of them. I’ve been with too many POS’s to not be happy with one of them. Please don’t be mean and help me out.

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Marissa_Smiles · 2024-02-18T06:04:12+00:00

RoseSung · 2024-02-18T23:24:16+00:00

Definitely not guy 2 because you have two different goals in life. You two dating wouldn’t make any sense and would be a waste of time because you two want different things.

Guy 1 sounds like a good contender because you two have shared goals for your futures. If it ends up working out you two could end up married with kids and living in the city together just like you both wanted. He sounds like a great potential bestie/lover/partner. The lack of experience thing would go away with time. You can just tell him what you like and he’s going to learn your body overtime.

Title	I need help choosing between 2 guys 😔
Author	CalligrapherAway1101
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	February 18, 2024 2:03 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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