Is it too late?

FucknaughtTheElder · 2013-08-07T03:45:23+00:00

Hell no it's not too late. Look. Don't take all the alpha-male chest beating you might be hearing from Red Pill dick-waggers about young women/hot bodies too seriously. It's not terribly difficult to attract a good man if you're A. healthy B. actually like real men (not pussies) C. know how to make a man feel respected and D. Follow DanaB's golden rules --- Feed 'em, Fuck 'em, STFU and lots of blowjobs, preferably with eye contact.

As for getting healthy...eat better, and smarter, and get hooked on endorphins...Zumba, bike riding, power lifting. . .who cares as long as you're moving your ass enough to give yourself nice, healthy endorphin buzz 3-4 times a week. Stick with it and the low self esteem/depression problems tend to go away.

It's not even CLOSE to being over . . . All the "good men" haven't been snapped up . . . lots of them married too young, fucked it up and are looking for someone like you to do it right. Others were smart and waited until they were financially capable of properly supporting a wife . . . and don't want to put up with immature women. Those 'hot' women in their 20's who are also capable of being a decent wife are few and far between.

So maybe your career aspirations of a being a swimsuit model are over. A 'real' man places a lot more value on your DanaB abilities than your impact as a trophy. We have cars and other crap for that.

So Bring It! Cuz being a Red Pill Woman isn't being some low-esteem doormat. Its being the highest form of kick-ass woman, the one who knows how to take care of HER man and her family, and takes no shit from anyone else. Do you WANT to be that woman? Well like everything else, you gotta visualize it as a goal and work toward it. And that might require a less-passive approach to your life (I'm being presumptuous, perhaps).

FleetingWish · 2013-08-06T17:17:09+00:00

The wall is not a specific time. It's not like people magically become unattractive the day they turn 30 because they are 30. The wall is the decay that makes a 30 year old distinguishable from a 20 year old, but you can control that decay, and how slow it is, by taking care of yourself. The truth is your age does have an effect on your smv, but there are other things that have an effect too. The wall is hit by women who were physically attractive at some point in their lives, and expect that they will continue to be so, even as they age, even if they don't take care of themselves. And then they become disappointed when all the sudden men aren't interested. Do you see? The wall is the phenomenon of women who are attractive becoming less attractive and having to choose from less attractive men because of that.

You have the opportunity to go the opposite way. Because you are currently less attractive, you can actually work to make yourself to be more attractive, and get more attractive men than you had before. If you work hard to improve yourself and lose some weight, your smv will actually be higher at that future time, even though your age is slowly decreasing it. Because those improvements will work faster at increasing your smv then your age decreasing it. (Not to mention improving yourself will also actively slow down the process of "aging"). The thing is, as a hot 30 year old, you won't be as attractive as a hot 20 year old, but you will be more attractive than the 20 year old version of yourself, meaning that you will receive more attention than you ever have even though you're older, and get attention from better men then you ever have even though you're older. You will experience gains in your own self-worth, and be able to see that reflected in the eyes of men.

redpillschool · 2013-08-06T13:38:40+00:00

Get yourself into shape. Hit the gym. Diet. Learn to cook. Be complimentary and pleasant. Go on dates.

margerym · 2013-08-06T14:51:10+00:00

Ian Ironwood has a good blog post about this he wrote about a woman in her 40s- Girl Game: Why It's Not Hopeless. 30 isn't too late however if you want children and he wants children time is running out.

Like what redpillschool said hit the gym (or workout at home), change the way you eat, care about your appearance, etc but also work on that depression of yours. None of this is going to happen if you are still down on yourselves and people with depression can't just shut it off. Be patient, this is going to take time.

swishman · 2013-08-06T13:29:01+00:00

there are plenty of single guys who are 30 as well but they probably are going to look for younger hotter chicks. add value to yourself over them by being interesting, supportive, have some money and independance

sugarcrush · 2013-08-06T14:15:50+00:00

Of course it's not too late. My mom is just getting married again at 57. Now, it will be harder, and you might not get your first pick, but don't give up hope. If youre decent looking and keep your game up you should get a guy without too many troubles.

TempestTcup · 2013-08-06T14:43:30+00:00

It's never too late to become the best person you can be. A good diet of unprocessed foods & a regimen of lifting weights should be the first step. Those two things, once they start showing results should lift your self-esteem & depression (especially eating saturated fats like coconut oil & pure butter; it's like eating a happy pill).

Maybe try dating once you have seen results from diet & exercise. The Private Man has an excellent site Red Pill Dating, which will give you some necessary pointers on how to go about setting up the best online dating profile.

The-Self-Post-Guy · 2013-08-06T15:40:57+00:00

As an avid male gym goer, let me give you some advice. Get in shape, and expect nothing less from your partner. He needs to be in shape for you as well. But while in the gym do not cheat yourself. Do not make excuses, if its easy for you to do its not going to get you in shape. No pain no gain right?

I had a friend whose mom was a tad bit overweight and was walking daily, she made the excuse that walking the same distance as you would run burns the same amount of calories, sad to say that's a myth. I've told her this and tried to help her to no avail. She hasn't lost much weight in the past year even with a good diet (maybe 5-10lbs, but that's in a year's time, if your doing things right it should be about a pound, maybe two if you really work hard at it, a week). It was because she's not pushing herself. No pain no gain right?

So if you want to make gains in the gym, and gain a tremendous amount of confidence (the stares from men will come,I promise) push yourself. Maybe this next bit isn't for you, but if I don't feel like throwing up after a run, then I didn't run hard enough. If you feel like puking (even better if have puked) that was a good workout. Let the weakness leave your body. No pain no gain right?

Disclaimer: DO NOT intentionally make yourself puke, but if its related to how hard you've worked out, its a good sign. Always drink plenty of water afterwards, sip don't gulp.

theuntamedshrew · 2013-08-06T16:40:12+00:00

I didn't get married until I was 30.

Whisper · 2013-08-06T18:40:53+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1j9tg3/too_concrete_too_literal_take_a_step_back/

2013-08-07T00:12:17+00:00

It's not due to high standards, but rather low self-esteem and depression.

Same thing.

You're simply dumping all your aspirations unto some fantasy boyfriend that is so full of life/adventure/charisma , and all the rest of it, that he would sweep you off your feets and out of this rut.

mr_wild_ride · 2013-08-06T14:06:13+00:00

In my experience women start to truly embrace their femininity after 30.

I don't know if it is a ticking clock, or fear of growing old alone, or what it is, but in my mind 30-45 is top-shelf female pickings. Less little-girl bullshit, open to trying new things in life, and no hang-ups about the fact that they are a woman.

If you have been taking care of yourself and are not a bitch, you will have no problems.

Zuggernaut · 2013-08-07T03:47:38+00:00

The gym and diet are good choices. But not to just meet a man's "minimum standards". It helps build self confidence in yourself and that's a very important character trait. Male or female, no one wants a friend and/or partner they have to re-assure constantly. Cooking is a nice skill to have in general as well. Be yourself. Know what you like about yourself and what you like in other people. Dating is a good way to find what you like in a partner. I used to think my first gf was perfect until I dated another and realized she was a psycho.

2013-08-07T18:59:39+00:00

If it's difficult to get into the gym as the initial step, at least go on 15-30 minutes jog/walks every day while you focus on changing your diet. Get your cardio up before you hit the weights. Hopefully that'll get some good feelings going from being active.

MrsStrom · 2013-08-13T15:08:43+00:00

Don't give up! One of our best friends is 34, has a good job at a stable company, owns his home outright, has sole custody of his two kids and is in the market for a good wife. He's alpha as hell and all his ex's rave about his bedroom skills.

There are still good men to be had!

Title	Is it too late?
Author	wandercat
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	August 6, 2013 1:17 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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