Stumbled on this subreddit by chance, feeling overwhelmed. Where do you start?

rproller · 2016-08-02T17:47:28+00:00

It's great that you dropped 40 lbs after college! Instead of giving you six things to try starting out, I'll give you one thing that helps you in six different ways. I find that once you get to a BMI of between 18.5-24.9, everything else just falls into place. Why?

1) You'll feel more confident about yourself because of the validation you get from others about your physique. Men will be much more overt about their validation (compliments, catcalls, etc). Women may validate you with compliments, but more than likely they will try to tear you down if they think you look better than they do. It's cruel but it's true--you're now competing with them for male attention. Think of it instead as the ultimate compliment if women start being mean to you out of nowhere.

2) Shopping for feminine clothes is a considerably more satisfying experience. Your wallet might cry, but it's for a good cause. You'll look at yourself in the fitting room mirror and have to suppress the urge to say, "DAAAAYYUMMM GURRRL!"

3) New clothes + confident self = Being more social. The more you put yourself out there, the better you improve your chances of surrounding yourself with people who will increase your chances of an LTR.

4) Being more social + new relationships (romantic or platonic) = Refined feminine self. As you interact with more and more people, you'll see plenty of examples of feminine behavior/appearance. As well as examples of non-feminine behavior/appearances. Captain-material men prefer feminine women.

5) Sexual validation. Men like having sex with women they find sexy. The sexier, more feminine you look, the more often your Captain will want to have sex with you. Sex is key in creating and maintaining intimacy.

6) Maintaining value. Losing the weight is good. Keeping it off is the real challenge. You'll find that over the years, many women will let themselves get fat and complacent in their marriages. If you keep yourself in that healthy BMI range, your value will skyrocket compared to your fatter peers. That's just one fewer reason for your man to leave you for someone else.

[EDIT: Formatting. Sorry for wall of text]

loneliness-inc · 2016-08-03T01:49:37+00:00

1 - Be a pleasant person. Smile. Be kind. Be helpful. Be a person other want to hang around. The flip side of this is to throw away the whining/nagging/yelling/argumentative/bitch.
2 - Take responsibility for yourself and your actions. You may be looking for a captain of the ship of relations (relationship), however, you will always need to be the captain of the ship that is you.
3 - Be feminine in your thought, speech and action. This sub will help you define femininity.
4 - Learn how to keep house. You're the woman of the home. The home is your space. Keep it clean and tidy and cook good hearty food. A simple healthy delicious meal every day will speak much louder than an all out gourmet dinner once a month.
5 - Be appreciative, especially towards your man. Look around other subs and you'll see that a very prominent complaint from husbands is lack of appreciation from their wives. This manifests itself in many forms but at the core, this can enhance or destroy a marriage. Ensure that he never feels taken for granted.
6 - Last but not least, sex. Treat him like the most desirable thing in the world and he'll cherish you like the most desired woman in the world (unless he's crazy or immature). Make him feel like his needs are important to you and that he won't get tossed around by mood swings. (a whole post can be written on this point to explain what is and isn't included in this. I'll assume that the wise women of RPW understand. I'll expand if need be).

Gardrothard · 2016-08-04T18:03:12+00:00

My mother is the true red pill woman. She's a professor (teaching French), she's skinny, she knows how to do make up, cooks every day delicious food, high pitched voice, very religious (my dad is the only person she's been with), supportive and knows how to listen, cleans the house every day, has feminine body language, she's extremely kind and positive person. And I mean kind and positive in a way that you see monks are, it's just shinning on everyone and makes people better and happy. Not to mention that she's the perfect mother.

Unfortunately, because of his job my dad had to move and I lived with him for 4 years (age 14-18). Because of that I started identifying with him a lot more. For the last 3 years we've all lived together and she's been trying to teach me how to be red pill. Anyways, these are the things she tends to stress:

-Physical activity and going out in the morning.

-Wearing make up and nice clothes even when going to the store.

-Me, my brother, my dad, none of us has ever seen her show any signs of "human nature". If I didn't know, I'd think she never does number 2, you'd think she was born without hair. She even wakes up a few minutes before my dad to brush her teeth and put some make up. She's has always taught me to keep such things secret (for example, never letting anyone see that you are taking pads to the bathroom), not eating any kinds of food that would make you gassy or bloated. With her diet I can do number 2 in less than a minute and it won't have any smell. I think that keeping these things secret is very important.

-Good nutrition and diet and eating small quantities of food and fasting. Not only does it help with the things stated above, eating less has been shown to slow down ageing. (She's 48 years old, yet she looks 30). Cooking and everything else comes with this.

-Prayer/meditation. She goes to church at least once a week. It doesn't matter if you believe in God or not, but these things have a lot of benefits. They will give you more control over your emotions, make you happier and kind.

-BE KIND. She has this aura of positive energy that is amazing. She cares about everyone and loves everyone. My friends love her, they say that they feel so nice around her and cared for. You don't need to go around helping everyone in need, but care for people with whom you come in contact with. Truly care about what they have to say. Be kind and non judgmental. She's always been about positive reinforcement. She never got mad at me for doing something, instead she would praise the good behavior. This kind of approach has lead to me being the best student and now I'm in the best university in my country. When you support and care for people from your heart you will see yourself making positive impact and improving their lives. I think that this is the most important thing and the one that will make you a great mother some day. Her kindness is the reason why she's been ranked as best professor at the university she's teaching every year since she started working.

-Be aware and mindful. Care about everything you do, no matter how small of a task. She's not cleaning/cooking because she's oppressed. Rather, it's because she cares. She's aware of her environment and wants to make it better. She's aware that my dad has a job that's very stressful, but the same job that provides 75% of our income and she will cook for him because she wants him to be happy. She'll shut up when it's clear that he has problems and not bother him because she has the ability to empathize. Because she does everything because she cares, just doing the job makes her happy, every appreciation is just a bonus.

-She reads every day. She knows a lot and is very wise, but she's one of the few people who know how to communicate the knowledge. She knows how to pick words to explain things which makes it easy for her to share the wisdom.

She's always been there for my dad. I mean always. Just before year 2000 there was a war in my country and my dad was recruited. Even though she seems weak and vulnerable because of her femininity she was strong like a man during that time. There was a war raging and my brother and I were 5 and 1 and she never let all that mess take away our childhood. Very often when the government changes there are many people who work in public sectors who lose their jobs due to some minions being placed there. She was facing that possibility. A year before war started my dad lost his job and our apartment caught fire so we were practically homeless living with my grand mom. Even after the war was over and my dad got home he was still without a job. For the next 5 years we were poor with no apartment while my dad was trying to make something of his firm. On top of everything my brother got sick and the doctors in our town didn't want to treat him because they didn't like my dad (long story) and we didn't have the money to go anywhere else. Can you imagine the horror, the fear and stress she was going through? Let me tell you, even though all of the world was falling apart for my family, I had the best childhood. I was happy and carefree. I was the best student in my class and teacher even advised skipping 2 grades. And you know why? Because she never let me feel any of that, because even though she was going through so much shit she would sit down and read me a book. She would wear old clothes so I could get encyclopedias that I was asking for because she knew how important is to keep that spark and thirst for knowledge that adults tend to lose. Even though she was stressed she found patience to answer my questions (you know those annoying questions kids tend to have that never end). She was a catch, she could have left my father and get any guy she wanted. She cared, she was patient and kind as she's always been even in the hardest and darkest times and supported and kept family together. That's a strong woman. Not some fat chick going around saying "Fat is beautiful".

The true power and strength in women come from love and caring. They lie in kindness and patience. These are the virtues you need to nurture. So here, and example of a woman who's feminine but stronger than many of those multi colored hair fat feminists who know nothing but to be aggressive victims.

Pinelero · 2016-08-02T20:10:01+00:00

"She remarried, my stepdad would often say things that were rude and not things you say to little girls; I came to resent him, which developed into a deep hatred for each other and a lot of fighting. I made a vow to avoid anything he stood for. I spent five years like that- it's not until reading through this subreddit that I recognize that I don't hate "Red Pill" thinking, I just hate him."

What does this mean and what would he say? Just typical not liking the step-parent friction?

MsSadieDunham · 2016-08-02T17:04:12+00:00

Welcome to RPW! This is such a great, worthwhile journey! It will change your whole way of thinking and your life.

The most important thing here at RPW is to internalize the concepts. The home making, feminine dress, everything else is secondary. The side bar and all the articles listed there are great places to start reading.

As you keep reading, certain things will jump out at you that you need to work on, everyone's list is different because we are all different personalities, ages, and stages of our relationships.

Title	Stumbled on this subreddit by chance, feeling overwhelmed. Where do you start?
Author	BluetoRedChrysalis
Upvotes	18
Comments	15
Date	August 2, 2016 4:44 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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