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Why do people cheat on their partners

I am female, and have considered taking a lover, myself. I really doubt I could ever go through with this, but I am sorely tempted at times, and here's why:

My husband does not know how to have fun in sex. It's always this deep, intense thing that requires just the right timing and feeling. No one smiles or seems relieved by it. Despite my repeated efforts at starting something more light hearted and fun, it's all work, no play.

My husband is a wimp. I get that we live in a modern world where intellect often trumps muscle power, but jeez, I'm so tired of absorbing the difficulty in our lives so that he never feels threatened or overwhelmed. It's hard to respect a man whose balls are so much smaller than your own. He gets so easily upset and overwhelmed by the smallest things.

My husband is afraid to initiate any intimacy. All I get are faggy and lighthearted expressions of affection sung out in high-pitched, child-like sing-song. It's like the man has no animal impulse now that his life is so settled and comfortable.

I am rudely rebuffed when I try to initiate playful intimacy. This has gone very badly in each attempt in my part. My husband claims that aggressive sexual advances and playfulness remind him of his ex-wife. As you can imagine, this is the last thing I want to hear in that particular situation.

My husband was a slut before we were married. I bump into his ex playthings everywhere we go, and I actually hate him a little bit for it. It seems these women never stuck around long, and now I know why. I don't feel very special in his rare moments of romantic attention, because he doesn't even seem to know or care what I want in bed.

Our kids turn me off. Let's face it - kids are the ultimate c***-blockers. I so often want to escape from this world of entitled children's demands and weak husbandry and go somewhere that I can forget about all of it and just O my brains out.

All that being said, he's perfect otherwise. Seriously. A great father, a wonderful friend and companion, a brilliant intellect, a good provider, successful and generous… I'd be a fool betray him. The fact is, I love him. I just hate not having good sex in my life.

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