Summary

This post will examine the nature of True Confidence and its source in 'vulnerability'. Further, it will synthesise vulnerability with the machinations of Agree & Amplify, and discuss other ways vulnerability can improve your Frame/Game.

Preface/Assumed Knowledge

A common trait between alpha males is confidence. As per Models by Mark Manson, this exists as both True Confidence and False Confidence. False confidence, which relies upon diminishing others to achieve confidence, has limited success but quickly becomes old in the face of True Confidence.

Vulnerability and True Confidence

True Confidence, on the other hand, is an extremely attractive trait and is achieved when a person acknowledges and accepts themselves entirely. This is often referred to as ‘IDGAF attitude’ but could be better articulated as “This is who I am and I’m comfortable with that. If you don’t like it, that does not concern me.” This is achieved through setting aside ego and acknowledging vulnerability. Once you achieve this sense of identity and self, holding frame becomes the default setting.

Side note: This does not mean you should ignore self-improvement. In fact, the reverse is true in that, when you can put aside ego and accurately acknowledge your flaws, you are more likely to seek ways to better yourself in these areas.

Vulnerability in relation to Agree & Amplify

Agree & Amplify is a well recognized solution to shit testing and has been discussed extensively by TRP since the sub’s inception. However, less has been said on why A&A works. The short answer to this question is vulnerability in the Mark Manson sense.

A shit test will be instituted when a girl seeks to test your fitness and this will take the form of a rapport break. A girl will ask a question or make a statement, usually diminishing your position (either explicitly or implicitly), and will gauge your reaction. For example, a shit test I recently received at a music festival:

“I bet you have a small dick.” “Of course. Leaves me more space to sneak in drinks.” Note: I later hooked up with this girl.

To male logic, agreeing with the shit-test acknowledges a fault and indicates a lack of fitness. This logic forms the basis of the blue pill idea that we should ‘conceal our weakness.’ The same blue pill reasoning would ask, “How is it you’ve just admitted to having a small dick, and this girl is now more interested?” However, to those with red pill awareness it is evident that the true confidence displayed, rather than the content of the conversation, is what generated the attraction. Whether I have a small dick or not is irrelevant. Furthermore, amplification to absurdity was not necessary. Rather, I have displayed vulnerability in agreeing to a fault, but obvious strength in the fact that I’ve accepted it and clearly do not care what her position on the matter is.

Using vulnerability in Game

For vulnerability to work in earnest, you must truly accept all (or at least the major) aspects of yourself. It cannot be faked. To borrow from the movies, accepting yourself “isn’t a weekend retreat. It’s not a goddamn seminar.” For those seeking to reach this state of enlightenment, I would recommend reading Models by Mark Manson, whose concepts have formed the basis of this post.

However, once this vulnerability is recognized, your sense of self will be so strong that you no longer need to use categorized responses or methods of approach in order to pull. That HB8 drops a shit test? You don’t care, you know who you are and her petty opinions bounce right off. Every aspect of your game will improve due to acceptance of who you are and the resulting lack of investment in others opinions of you.

Lessons Learned

  • Agree & Amplify works due to the nature of vulnerability in confidence.
  • Once you can reach a state of confidence through vulnerability, your frame/game becomes untouchable.