"Asexual Women"

ADH-Kydex · 2013-11-28T15:48:31+00:00

I'm sure there are studies about it, but I have met two asexual people over the years. Both were often mistaken for lesbians because of the outward appearance, and I talked with one at length during an overnight shift. According to her, she never had any desires for sexual contact with either sex. Puberty was strange because she wondered what the fuss was all about. She was fine being asexual because she still led an interesting life and thought everyone else was wasting way too much time and money chasing sex.

She was an interesting person, good to work with too.

I think the majority of the people in the thread are not strictly asexual, but it does happen. I'm not sure if there is really a way to tell for sure, especially using second hand subjective information on an Internet forum.

Clauderoughly · 2013-11-28T17:34:07+00:00

I am married to an "asexual" woman and yes it is a real condition.

Basically think of it this way;

Some people are sexually attracted to the opposite gender
Some people are sexually attracted to the same gender
Some people are sexually attracted to both genders
Asexual people are sexually attracted to neither gender.

She lurks here if you want to ask her about it, but I did an AMA not long ago about it.

its over in /r/nsfwiama

My wife is asexual, has always been asexual and I am the only man she has had any sort of relationship with.

(People asking me "are you sure she isn't lying etc can please NOT post that question, Kthxbye )

I have known her since she was 19, and she has always been this way. Asexual people have no sex drive, and never have. They don't suddenly become asexual when they are with someone, that's called loss of attraction.

As far as sex goes, I have a wife, but I also have a few plates and fwbs that I mess around with to keep myself happy. This is all done with my wife's blessing and encouragement.

No, she doesn't have same arrangement because... asexual (yes I am sure she isn't fucking around, don't ask)

So yes, Asexuality does exist, but its probably very over diagnosed, and more often than not used as a shield for people who are in the closet, or no longer attracted to their partner.

vengefully_yours · 2013-11-28T17:09:59+00:00

My first wife wanted control of the relationship. I would not allow her to have it, so she withheld sex and tried to manipulate me with it. She was physically abusive to the kids and I, which makes me think what she really wanted was a BDSM type relationship. She tried damn hard to get me to hit her, but I didn't trust her near enough to play like that with her.

She still bitches that I do whatever I want, no matter what she said. Her new guy is a spineless omega that she controls easily. She keeps him around for income, because her gravy train from my child support is ending next year. She is a perfect example of a honey badger.

ozymodeus · 2013-11-28T15:22:58+00:00

Approximately 1% of people are asexual.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

I have met one man that I am aware of who had absolutely no sex drive, he also had a series of other problems like obesity and bi-polar disorder and possibly a pituitary problem because he was like 6' 6".

Clauderoughly · 2013-11-29T02:50:58+00:00

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nawmsane · 2013-11-28T15:21:20+00:00

Lesbian relationships are well known for something called "bed death" which sounds like the exact same thing. After they're together for a while the spark just goes away and the sex stops.

edit: to add: lesbians aren't asexual and neither are these women you're talking about. They're probably just lacking a stimulus they need in order to be sexual. That's what I'm alluding to here. Lesbians almost invariably lack a masculine partner, and I'm thinking these "asexual" women do too, even if they're married to people with testicles between their legs.

LouisWinthorpIII · 2013-11-28T17:03:33+00:00

Aren't like a quarter of women on anti-depressants here in the US? There's the main problem.

brokor21 · 2013-11-28T16:52:36+00:00

I thought I was asexual, I was just depressed. Sex life is great now.

It's not all a conspiracy from women to control their men dude... you sound like those tinfoil hat ufo lovers.

_DiscoNinja_ · 2013-11-28T21:28:49+00:00

I watched a documentary about asexual people. link to trailer

I tried to be objective but my gut reaction to nearly every person profiled was that the men were either inactive homosexuals or mildly autistic and the women were mildly autistic or un-fuckable beasts.

Verlier · 2013-11-28T16:50:39+00:00

Downvote me as you like, but what is BP?, yes!, I'm that dumb.

meterspersecond · 2013-11-28T22:44:54+00:00

Can anyone link the post OP is referring to?

kukul · 2013-11-28T15:47:12+00:00

Yeah, it's bullshiit.

There may be some healthy, balanced individuals who really don't care much about sex, but that's still no reason to deny it to your SO.

sniperhiding · 2013-11-28T16:17:12+00:00

What were the women's complaints about their sig others?

Hardparty · 2013-11-28T17:11:34+00:00

I was in that same thread, it was brutal to read man.

MockingDead · 2013-11-28T15:35:00+00:00

I have yet to see it** not** caused by the following:

1) Lack of attraction - they are asexual because they aren't attracted to you 2) Mental Illness/Trauma.

Many asexual women are just heteros afraid of actual sex. They love yaoi like it's going out of style. It's caused by a desire for sex and being brainwashed by feminism into hating the D.

Could be natural? Sure, but not in the levels that I have seen. That is statistically impossible.

Let the downvotes commence

BIG_Daddy_Government · 2013-11-28T17:29:09+00:00

asexuality is out there yes. just like most of the people claim they are streetsmart not booksmart. most of the people who claim they are asexual are not asexual.

Look at it this way. Either the claimer doesn't know his own fetishes or hasn't met anyone to meet his inner desires.

Now for WIVES who claim that, its because they are absolutely disattracted with their SOs, and to not hurt their feelings or have the S.O complain about it. they claim asexuality.

When it comes to lesbians, few women are truly lesbians because they get off when another expert masturbater girl does tricks on her clit. Majority hasn't had dem alpha fucks yet.

Mishapen_Turnip · 2013-11-28T15:30:19+00:00

Asexuality is a sexual orientation where the individual doesn't have a sexual or physical desire to have sex with others. Some asexuals call themselves 'gray-a's' because while they do identify as asexual, they may have experienced some sexual attraction to someone.

Sexual identity is seperate from gender identity. Asexuals exist in individuals of any and all genders, including male.

It isn't a 'condition', calling it that characterizes it as a mental illness. Asexuals aren't turned asexual by traumatic events any more than people of other sexualities are changed.

masterrod · 2013-11-29T03:43:44+00:00

So I was browsing a recent front page thread basically asking redditors, who got married early, what they found out about their s.o too late after getting married.

You really have to explore each relationships. If you assume every relationship tends to balance, then sex is just a tool. The question is why is she withholding sex? In longer relationships, it can be come the only way she can balance, or feel safe in the relationship that the guy isn't just ruling her. Sometimes, withholding sex could have nothing to do with SO, but really it's the lady.

Holy crap, the thread is full of: Women complaining about their BP/Beta s.o's (I didn't see one complaining about an abusive husband), and BP/beta men complaining and making excuses for their cheating wives.

You would be surprised how many guys disrespect their women's opinions, and consequently dry up their pussies. Sometimes no sex is a consequence of their SOs not flailing in failure in the real world, so why should they give the guy sex when he doesn't really deserve it, and the relationship is not going anywhere. Funny thing is usually if you have good woman she will call you out on being a beta, unless she likes that sort of thing...

For that matter, I don't know too many relationships that have strong direction, and have cheating spouses.

(I didn't see one complaining about an abusive husband)

Abusive husbands are difficult, cause the feeling of abuse can be so visceral that women confuse that with love. Also, there's a lot shame for women in abusive relationships, so women will usually be silent. It's kind of sad thing. That maybe why you don't see many comments.

Is this a truly studied condition? I have yet to hear of any men with it. Sounds more like women who are unattracted to their s.o, and make excuses for withholding sex and trying to control the relationship--which they are inevitably dissatisfied with. Or perhaps I am wrong and it is a legitimate condition developed from biological or traumatic events...thoughts?

First of all there are people who truly are asexual, or they have some other kink for some reason or another. Putting those people aside, Women talking about attraction is a bit meaningless, cause it could change in a second, or a heartbeat. Usually, they are just craving for the moment when he might do something. ANYTHING. But he might be too pussy to do so.

The moral is if a man chooses to be an alpha, then he should evaluate the relationship and make sure it's going somewhere, and the two people are serving each other. If there's a problem he should attempt to solve it proactively. Otherwise he should leave her, and make both of their lives better.

2013-11-29T04:53:09+00:00

Probably married to short guys, dunno why you'd bother getting married if you are. There is zero biological attraction there is very little you can do to keep anyone faithful fuck around behind your back no matter what.

I'd bet the large majority of actual successful red pullers are just tall, they are at your command if you just give it a little go, nothing special

Source : I am short

FortunateBum · 2013-12-02T01:49:32+00:00

You are living in fantasyland if you think the average female is anywhere near as horny as the average male. It's simply not biologically possible and you're a retard for ignoring the reams of anecdotal, scientific, and cultural evidence.

IcedDante · 2013-11-28T20:37:07+00:00

One of the top comments is about a woman with an abusive husband. What are you trying to say, that women are okay with abusive husbands? Don't be a fuck head

Title	"Asexual Women"
Author	ThisisMalta
Upvotes	45
Comments	85
Date	November 28, 2013 3:10 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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