"Women only want top 20% men. But good news; most men are schlubs, so getting in the top 20% is easy!"

How many times have we heard that here? And how many people know by now that it's not that simple?

The problem is simple: You're keeping score like a man.

For shame.

You already knew that the bottom 80% of men are invisible to women. You may even have known that it's actually more like 95%, given modern hypergamy on overdrive. But what you didn't know is that this percentage game also applies to all of your individual traits. In fact, it's even worse.

What is a real top 5% man? Or 20% for that matter? Some men have top 10% brains and bottom 10% bodies. Others have top 10% bodies and bottom 10% brains. Do both average out as 50th percentile men, then? Of course not. And what if you’re 80th percentile in everything. Are you an 80th percentile man? Not a chance, because most people who are over the 80th percentile in some things are way below it in others.

So here’s the man’s way of thinking: If you can be 80th percentile or better AT EVERYTHING, then you’ll be well above 80th percentile overall and kill with women. Right?

HELL NO!

Let's look at my story.

I came to TRP as a 30-year-old kissless virgin. I was a heavy reader, and I read all things beta, and I internalized them. What a mess. And what's the standard TRP newbie advice? GO LIFT!!!

But there was a problem.

I already lifted.

I was a white collar professional earning a top 2% salary in the US. I have never scored below 140 on an IQ test. And I benched over 300 at 185 pounds. In each of these categories (as well as others), I was already a high percentile among men. I mean, seriously, how many men out there can bench 300? And since I was high percentile in all of the things, I must have been REALLY high percentile overall. Right? RIGHT?!?

So clearly my ONLY problem was that I was too beta.

DEAD WRONG

That’s what you get for thinking like a man.

My intelligence is meaningless, because women don’t care. So too my income, because it’s not enough that I scream “rich guy”. My fashion was good, but if you saw me on the street or saw my car, you’d think I made a mediocre salary like $80k. And my physique? Now there’s the real problem. I may be a strong performing athlete, but I have an ugly face and such low testosterone that I can’t even grow a beard.

In short, EVERY SINGLE THING THAT I EXCELLED AT WAS MEANINGLESS BECAUSE I DIDN’T EXCEL ENOUGH.

80th percentile at anything isn’t enough. 90th percentile at anything isn’t enough. Unless you scream TOP ONE PERCENT in a category that WOMEN CARE ABOUT (muscles, money, social proof), then your score might as well be ZERO. (Facial attractiveness is the exception - genuine top 10% scores a lot of attention, even for betas who can’t close).

My man’s way of thinking told me that 90th percentile in everything made me at least 95th percentile overall. Other men thought this way too. I knew men who do well with women who assumed that I also did, because they looked at my man’s resume. They were clueless.

I was more clueless.

You must BE EXCELLENT in categories that matter to women to get any sort of passive notice. Anything less and you will NEVER get flirted with, or even glanced at, unless YOU initiate with SOLID GAME. Period.

So quit with this 80/20 crap. And quit thinking that you can stack a whole bunch of “above average” traits together to make a “great” man in the eyes of a woman. Above average is the same as zero. It means nothing. Your attractiveness score is the sum of your EXCELLENTS.

And nothing else.