TL;DR Eye contact by itself can be one of the most powerful tools in attracting women. Strong eye contact tells a woman more about you than your words ever could. Remember, women are covert communicators; meaning they are more attuned to body language and how things are said opposed to what is said. Initiating and making dominant eye contact speaks to a woman in the most primal of ways.

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I first discovered the power behind body language and posture (pre red pill) when I saw Amy Cuddy’s Ted talk on power stances and how strong posture can increase testosterone and confidence. It motivated me to read an entire book on body language and I began to see its significance and applications in everyday life. I became very mindful of my body language and how my body was resting. I stopped crossing body parts and practiced remaining open to others until it became natural. My confidence and comfort increased as I forced my body to remain in powerful and confident postures. Fake it til you make it boys.

I began this little experiment months before discovering the Red Pill. After I got my first taste of that bitter pill, I decided to take drastic action and move halfway across the country to start my new Red life. I ended up finding a great place to live and an awesome roommate. He was a natural alpha. The first one I’ve ever met and been close to. He was a massive former college football player and a born leader. Exhibited all of the traits talked about here. I was still just getting into the Red Pill so I was excited about what I would get to learn from this guy.

Anyways, it’s not long before he meets a girl and brings her over to our place to hang out for the first time. I didn’t know she was coming so I was shirtless, playing guitar in our living room when they arrived. I think we all know how much girls love shirtless guitar players, but I put the guitar away and put a shirt on and we all sat down to hang out. Thing is, this girl would not take her eyes off me. She wasn’t even trying to hide it and just blatantly would stare at me.

I remembered reading about eye contact from the body language books and how the alpha never breaks eye contact first, so I decided to experiment. She would make eye contact and I would hold it with her for extended periods of time before she would eventually break it. I made sure to never be the one to break first. She seemed to like it because our little staring contests began lasting longer and her eyes started screaming fuck me. IOI’s like crazy. After seeing this favorable response, I decided to kick it up a notch.

I had begun to internalize the idea that women are covert communicators and were adept at reading the intentions of someone from their body language. I wanted to see how she would respond to subtle cues, so I changed my energy. When I next looked at her, all I saw was a piece of juicy meat. I looked her up and down slowly, practically licking my lips with desire. I let this desire and aggression manifest in my eyes so she could see, but I never verbalized it. I imagined the depraved things I would do to her and let her see it in my gaze. She ate it up. In turn, her looks also became more aggressive and changed from curiosity to “come and get it.” It turned out to be a fun little ongoing experiment for the next few months.

My roommate ends up hooking up with this chick consistently and she is around our place more often. I don’t really change my behavior and maintain my indifference to her. I continue my eye fucking and throw in more teasing into all our interactions and she eats it up. She doesn’t even try to hide her obvious interest in me. She would be cuddling with my roommate on the couch and just stop to stare at me. Or stop giving him attention to give it to me instead. All I did was maintain a nonchalant, aloof demeanor and never once changed my approach. She makes eye contact, I’ll hold until she breaks it. My buddy would even jokingly call her out on her obvious attraction to me. I’d have friends come up to me and ask about it because of how she looked at me. It was that apparent to everyone.

This was my first real taste of what the Red Pill reality is. It opened up a whole new world of non-verbal communication I never paid much attention to before. I had a hot girl practically drooling over me in front of the alpha she was currently fucking. The guy never once failed a shit test, nor did anything remotely beta and this girl would still throw it away for a piece of my dick. All I did was establish my dominance through non-verbal cues. I always had strong, open body language with very engaged eye contact. It gave me the appearance of confidence and mystery that got her hamster spinning.

Now I never made a move out of respect for my friend, but the sexual tension was clear as day. It was a valuable lesson and a great introduction on how to effectively communicate non-verbally. Body language and eye contact are absolute essentials to being a confident man. These non-verbal cues are the first things people pick up on and they do it without even comprehending. This affects how they view you and ultimately how they treat you. Exemplify confidence and you will be treated as such. Most people have weak body language and even weaker eye contact, so being strong in this respect will make you stand out.

I encourage everyone to be more mindful of their eye contact but also be aware of how you practice. It’s not wise to mean mug strangers on the street, and you don’t want to creep anyone out. Use your discretion based on the situation you are in and don’t be an autist about it. Eye contact and body language are essential tools in your arsenal so get out and experiment to see how they work for you.

Here are a few ways you can take action:

1) Look right in someone’s eyes when they are talking to you. It is easier to maintain eye contact while listening than when you are talking. Eye contact while listening also tells the person you are present and engaged in what they are saying.

2) Observe your posture when you are with a group of people. Are you balanced and standing in a sturdy stance? Are your arms crossed? Are you making eye contact or looking at the ground? Take notice of these things and correct them when necessary.

3) Observe how quickly people break eye contact with you. Holding eye contact with someone for an extended period of time starts to feel uncomfortable and makes you want to look away. Observe this feeling in yourself and understand that the other person has this same feeling.

4) Read What Every Body is Saying and learn more about body language and how you can apply it to your life.

Again, be careful practicing this stuff. You do not want to rub the wrong person the wrong way. A look can be all it takes.

Lessons Learned:

Non-verbal cues are essential aspects of communication. We interpret them subconsciously and these indicators are fundamental to determining the image of a person. Practice confident body language and fake it til you make it.

Women primarily communicate through non-verbal cues, so by sharpening your understanding of body language you can more effectively communicate your desires and intentions. Mastering non-verbal communication will drive women nuts.

No matter how alpha you are, hypergamy is a bitch. Women are naturally driven by their instincts to secure the best man they can. They always keep their options open and look for better opportunities, even when they should be satisfied. This is their nature and there is little you can do aside from accept it and understand how to use it to your advantage.