First time a girl I didn't know approached me, asked for my phone number and invited me to get coffee

TheLegionnaire00 · 2019-06-05T08:56:02+00:00

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CrazyHorseInvincible · 2019-06-05T16:28:11+00:00

(+1)

Why did I sticky this beginner-level field report?

Because beginner and intermediate level field reports are important to see. It's not just all about /u/humansockpuppet pulling two bridesmaids from a wedding and having a threesome, or /u/whisper having a pair of BDSM slave girls who hang out and go shopping together.

No, it's important for people to see the intermediate steps between "loser" and "slaying it", so you can understand not only what the path looks like, but that there is a path and it's walkable. Progress requires hope.

KeffirLime · 2019-06-05T10:33:01+00:00

This felt like the first time a girl was attracted from the first time by the way I look.

Use this to now catapult yourself towards the women you want. It's an absolute minority of women who will come up and open you, so that means there's a whole bunch of others girls who are probably looking at you, but not willing to approach.

Make it happen.

BNSoul · 2019-06-05T11:10:38+00:00

MGTOW: "you're useful to this female, that's the only reason she wants to keep you around"

TRP: "she's attracted to your frame and confidence, obviously she noticed you're lifting"

my opinion: people are generally nice to each other, personal interactions were the norm before the rise of the smartphone and social media. In this sense, women were actually active in trying to get the men they wanted... and now most of them are just passively swiping on a phone screen, waiting.

WaspOnAWall · 2019-06-05T16:31:50+00:00

the girl isn't a supermodel

Don't worry about that, it's actually a good thing she isn't a supermodel or you'd be under a lot more pressure.

Treat it as a learning experience.

Cryptoguru777 · 2019-06-05T10:23:59+00:00

Right place, right time. You didn't act needy and that probably what attracted her initially. Stay in your masculine frame and don't mess this up, she sounds like a genuinely nice person.

Sake99 · 2019-06-05T15:18:27+00:00

Tell me, you haven't finished studies and you are still a programmer, how did you do that? Should I PM you? Guide me sir. I'm doing tons of courses from coursera, datacamp and youtube.

MattyAnon · 2019-06-05T11:52:45+00:00

"at least let me buy you a cup of coffee". So we set up a date and I'm seeing her tomorrow

So she can get more help.

FereallyRed · 2019-06-05T16:26:59+00:00

She's leading you around by the nose.

Why are you not taking the lead? She obviously has assigned value to you. Whether she wants your dick or your big brain is yetto be seen.

And there is the problem.

You need to get SEXUAL with her if you want to have sex with her.

You'll either get fucked, or realize she just was using you as a tutor.

It's called polarizing.... force her to reveal the bedrock of her interest in you.

Be VERY careful, because it sounds like she's grooming you to orbiter.

So try fuck her. Then you know. And you'll put all those long nights reading TRP to a real world test. Like everybody has to. This is all just mental masturbation if you don't go play in the real world.

hiroshimatruthbombs · 2019-06-05T12:43:59+00:00

Don’t fuck it up son...... this is a chip and a putt.

2019-06-05T15:47:39+00:00

Sounds like she's asking for dick, could be a work though.

Stay on your guard OP, and report your progress.

maverinno · 2019-06-05T17:29:06+00:00

I dont mean to be that guy but that has happened in the past to me multiple times and it's usually a pyramid scheme. I'm not saying that she is 100% in a mlm but watchout.

wrekd · 2019-06-05T17:36:15+00:00

You should totally ask for a pic, have it printed on a Tee, and wear it on your date. Also set it as your phones background image.

tirado8014 · 2019-06-05T17:14:28+00:00

Great for you my man! I am currently on the same path as you and I know that feeling, it feels fucking great! Keep slaying!

sebastianconcept · 2019-06-05T17:18:18+00:00

It could be nice but, if that's how you'd like her, you need to sexualize the interaction testing how she likes you or you'll be either demoted to her friendzone as her next nerd beta orbiter candidate. If she responds well to your humorous sexualized jokes and provocations, then keep it provoking her and escalate until kiss, then sex. If she's neutral, it would be either shit testing you or actually wanting you as a convenient friendzoned nerd to have at hand. If you don't like her, then you should friendzone her. Your move.

Chadster113 · 2019-06-05T19:09:35+00:00

Lol so many indicators of interest that she showed and you missed or failed to act on them for what ever reason. So she basically made all the moves. Next time be the one who asks her for her number or asks her out.

lmaooolmfao · 2019-06-06T00:50:12+00:00

Have sex with her.

And who cares what her intentions are, your intentions are to fuck her. If she's trying to use you then don't let her use you, obviously, and just out manipulate her.. aka she directs to more help with exams, then you direct to studying together in private where you can fuck her. And I'm pretty sure she thinks you're hot and wants to have sex with you, not just use you. I can tell by how the convo played out. But she will inevitably try to do both regardless cause she's a girl.

scott_gc · 2019-06-05T10:04:35+00:00

Competence and confidence are attractive.

Earl_Nightingale · 2019-06-05T13:46:58+00:00

Can you tell us how date was?

2019-06-05T19:36:51+00:00

tbh this is what TRP has been all about for me.

Just getting more confidence, outcome abundance, and seeing more and more (delightfully shocking) progress.

As another comment mentions - for many of us it's not all about going hardcore (yet) - I just have several stories like this really affirmed my belief in the community.

PuttItBack · 2019-06-06T05:45:27+00:00

Don’t discount the brain angle. You presented as a confident authority figure among your peers, and she knows enough to detect and respect that. Chicks dig power, and being on a good career track is part of that. Looks open the door, but having depth to back it up will open relationship options. Don’t jump too quick though to take a relationship just because she offers it. (My personal weakness...)

monsieurhire2 · 2019-06-07T00:51:46+00:00

This is a sign that you are a man of value.

Once, many years ago, I decided to do a "King Arthur" as he appeared in Mark Twain's "A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur's Court," wherein I went to another city where I didn't know anyone, and nobody knew me. I drove an old beat-up car, wore shit clothes, didn't discuss having money or anything. This was similar to what King Arthur does, when he ventures around his kingdom anonymously with the Yankee. He discovers that his kingdom is an oppressive place for the average person, and that stripped of his rank and title, nobody treats him with any respect.

Well, anyway, naturally I failed with ALL the women. Not that I was trying. I was merely "being myself." Not my best self. Not my worst self. But just kind of a bare-bones, no frills version of myself. I was only there for a few months, so I didn't want anything to develop anyway. But still, some guys would NEVER do this. They would always be thinking of maximizing their lay count. They would always be honing their "winning" mentality.

Anyway, I came across a cute waitress. Like a typical beta schmuck, I waited to make a move. Then I did it in a direct, but somewhat weak manner. She wasn't interested, but she didn't come right out and say it. I took the hint and forgot about her.

I was at a bar with a friend, a guy who was more established in the area, higher status, with an actual professional gig, as opposed to being a student like me. This guy, while not running his A game, still had better raw material than I had at that point. He dressed better, looked better, wore better clothes. But he was still like a hipster, so he had hipster appeal.

Well, ALL the girls we knew liked him. I had seen this before, where the "best" guy in group gets ALL the female attention, and the other guys are invisible. More on that later.

So, we were at a bar, this guy and me, one night. When suddenly, the waitress I had asked out came over and started talking to my buddy. They talked for a few minutes. Then she walked away, smirking at me in recognition. I was dressed like a complete bum. Probably the bummiest I have ever dressed to go out.

I asked what it was about.

"Oh, she gave me her number, told me to call her."

LOL.

So, a few weeks later, he confirmed that he fucked her. She literally gave him her number so that he could fuck her at his leisure.

Now, this guy wasn't Chad, exactly. He was a situational Chad, without really trying. He literally didn't try to get girls, they would literally throw themselves at him.

I had experienced this some years ago when I was a situational Chad, so I knew it happened, but clearly my SMV was in the shitter if I could zero action, and this guy was getting pussy handed to him with no effort. He didn't make eye contact with her. He didn't walk the bar. He literally just sat there and she did all the work.

This had also happened to a friend of mine and myself, where we went to a bar, and two girls with boyfriends picked us up. We kept trying to replicate it, but with no avail. LOL.

Anyway, back to that other story. Once, I had an opportunity to put myself in a situation where the odds would be in my favor. There would be THREE times as many women as men over a 1 month period, so I figured, if I went to this program, I would probably get some romance.

Well, it worked... but only just barely... because ONE of the guys was the situational Chad, and ALL the girls liked him... except for the one that liked me. He was just more alpha. The girl that liked me didn't like him because of some minor preference in appearance. But all the other girls did. The other guys, aside from him and I, were left out in the cold completely. NONE of the girls liked them. There wasn't even anything that wrong with two of them, although two were complete idiots.

zyqkvx · 2019-06-07T06:48:34+00:00

You are about to shift from a 'lowly' man of many years to a powerhouse. If you have your shit together with work and are working out, this is the time that some 6.5 comes and sweeps you off your feet and 3 years later becomes a money sucking sexless paper weight to secure her own criteria. Yeah yeah, yeah: how can I say that about her, I don't even know her. I'm talking statistically. Ironically if you are thinking that I'm probably right. Don't let her lock you down. It sounds like you're whole world is about to transcend. Of course enjoy your time with her. Stistcically speaking, your first girl is not the one. You've reached position, just further your game, there will be more, many more.

TheViolat0r · 2019-06-05T15:02:19+00:00

Imagine how many other guys shes approached!!!!

Mykeru · 2019-06-05T18:43:30+00:00

What cult does she belong to?

Balkanskii · 2019-06-05T15:01:29+00:00

Poor guy thinks it was about the looks. You are not red pill enough to see that she wants to use you for your knowledge. She probably did her due dilligence(where you work, what you work and approx salary). Don't forget that women are driven only by opportunity should one present itself.

ZR1987 · 2019-06-05T13:20:35+00:00

Cool! What is your back story? Have you recently hit the gym hard and are seeing an improvement in the way you look?

Classy_Amir · 2019-06-05T21:46:28+00:00

A little background! What's your Smv level? What happens next?

-uftw- · 2019-06-06T00:44:44+00:00

so she could ask me about some other exam, "and have someone to complain to". I say sure, no problem.

Look, I can't predict the future, and more power to you if this goes well. Just be careful that she's not orbiter recruiting here.

punkrockfishboy · 2019-06-06T02:32:18+00:00

I hear that the girls who ask the guys out are kinda psycho crazy. I don't know if it's true with that particular girl.

Pretty lucky if she's not crazy. 90% of the time, the guys have to ask the girls out and having a (depending on your smv)% chance of getting accepted/rejected.

ReUptheReUp · 2019-06-06T09:24:38+00:00

Wish this happened to guys more often. Like a lot of people are saying here: feel around the situation and see if you can take it further. Strangely, I felt good after reading this, it must be after years and years of always being the one to make the first move (not all the time but 99% of the time, like most dudes) it's refreshing to hear about a dude having it, potentially, offered to him without much effort on his part in a daytime settting. Imagine this a sign of things shifting: guy's giving up on hitting on girls to such extent that women are having to do it themselves. What a crazy world that would be.

s1knight · 2019-06-07T05:20:12+00:00

Well done. Super smooth sailing my friend. Not giving too much attention to the girl and letting her set it up.

nakedfarmerr · 2019-06-10T00:26:13+00:00

What would you suggest to someone who wants to be a programmer? Where should i start?

selfeduhated · 2019-06-10T12:10:16+00:00

Just don’t let her sanction you in the friend zone if you’re looking to get your dick wet.

someonesopinion6969 · 2019-06-10T13:25:01+00:00

she didnt ask you out, she wants you to do her home work.

look between the lines mate.

Dakstradamus · 2019-06-06T20:38:58+00:00

I'd have waited a few days to post this FR. Now you have the pressure of a subreddit of fake players telling you not to fuck up the f-close.

Just my 2 cents

(Im just ribbing u guys, im sure theres a real player in here somewhere)

2019-06-07T01:40:11+00:00

Yet another TRP success story.

As always great read, and great to hear.

Malakyas_ · 2019-06-06T20:03:25+00:00

but, look, did u did something to improve yourself ? like lifted, got fitting cloths, shaved, got a hair cut, whatever. ? or u just read trp. I mean what are you actually thanking for ? After all i did not see any principle or theory from trp aplied here.

pacjax · 2019-06-05T18:28:03+00:00

you failed her availability test by being available the very next day

FaP_caesar · 2019-06-09T13:20:00+00:00

thats not redpill thats Cuck

in real redpill mans take the initiative and push them thangz

KeffirLime · 2019-06-05T10:11:10+00:00

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Title	First time a girl I didn't know approached me, asked for my phone number and invited me to get coffee
Author	TheLegionnaire00
Upvotes	363
Comments	105
Date	June 5, 2019 8:27 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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