Friendzone doesn't exist

Stories_of_Red · 2016-01-18T18:00:04+00:00

What the hell is next? NO. Butthurt men who don't get laid next girls.

There is a continuum of "Next", you realize? And that is true in ALL social interactions, not just the mating dance.

A typical soft next used in business or mate-seeking is not a stomping-out-the-door-and-slamming-it-behind-you display. Rather, once you realize the attempted social engagement is not going to be mutually beneficial, the soft next is the calm, quiet withdrawing of further social investment beyond frivolous social interactions. See a nexted gal at a party? Chin nod, smile, ask her how she is doing, tell her that it is great she is doing well, see you around, etc. Not once do you break stride or engage beyond the most banal of pleasantries. She is just a person you politely acknowledge as you progress through the social milieu.

If the nexted person tries to engage further, you listen politely for 30 seconds or so, nod and say that is interesting but you have to go speak to Mr. So and So, but it was great seeing you. Warm smile, move on.

If you are ever challenged about "being cold", keep smiling, act puzzled, and say "Not my intent. Say, it really was good seeing you. Now I really have to go speak to Mr. So and So. Good to see you!" Move on, warm smile.

That is not butthurt, that is simply not wasting time on time wasters.

The hard next is the icy "no contact" or further acknowledgement of the person socially. That is reserved for people who engaged in some sort of significant duplicity or injurious act towards you. And that is not butthurt, that is the sincere contempt properly felt for someone who harmed your interests. A woman who not interested in your affections is not a hard next, unless combined that with duplicity or some form of surprising thoughtlessness towards you.

BlackJ1 · 2016-01-18T17:39:44+00:00

What the hell is next? NO. Butthurt men who don't get laid next girls.

I disagree. Next is for men who don't want to invest anymore time into a woman. After you realize how pointless it is to have a "friendship" with a woman you are not having sex with you just tend to drop any communication with ones who want a "friendship".

EDDbDG · 2016-01-18T21:50:02+00:00

Friend zone is just a form of rejection. It's not that hard to wrap your head around it

Invalidity · 2016-01-18T18:29:29+00:00

You will find little support for your post. Why? You start off on a discussion about why the friend zone does not exist. Fair enough. But what is the significance of that? You then drift off into advice which should seemingly connect the two, but the two points are heavily disjointed. While I can see where you're trying to go with your post, many people will not.

For starters, I would not start off a discussion about whether or not the friend zone exists. It is a very simple concept. The friend zone does/does NOT exist depending on your perspective. For me, I see the friend zone as existing, but it is not a state that women place men, but rather a state in which men enter into voluntarily. That's all there is to it.

fap_the_pain_away · 2016-01-18T18:52:35+00:00

No one holds a gun to your head and forces you to be friends with a girl. If you don't agree to it, then it simply wont happen. Move on.

The other day a girl tried to put me in the friend zone. I replied, "I don't become friends with women I want to fuck." She was obviously very excited by my DGAF response. Saying things like "Oh, I'm flattered!!!" We kept talking back and forth but it was clear that while she was excited by me having balls, she truly wasn't going to fuck. So I deleted her number.

Funny thing, the next day she texted me (I still remembered her number from the area code even though I deleted it). She asked me if I was at her house last night. WTF? I have no idea where she lives. And even if I did, what would I do, drive up and stalk her? What a loser. I just deleted it and will never speak to her again.

Then next girl I talked to was from Tinder. "It's raining, let's stay in and chill" was all it took. She came over and I got laid. New plate.

That's how it's done, guys. Not every girl is willing to fuck you. Just be sure to have that info as soon as possible, preferably while spending 0 dollars and 0 cents. If it's no, just move on.

This is exactly the male strength and intelligent use of our time that feminists hate. They want free shit at our expense. Do not give it to them.

Moolg86 · 2016-01-18T18:55:05+00:00

The "friendzone" is more of a mental space than an actual zone. you are correct when you say that men often times put themselves there, and it's usually as a direct result of over investment/outcome dependence.

The whole bit about nexting and whether or not you should continue relations with a girl who already rejected your advances is a slightly more fluid concept.

IMO I wouldn't spend any more time than I had to with said girl, because my time (which i have a limited about of, and am constantly losing) could be better spent propositiong a more receptive girl.

don't "wait around" for some girl you think you still have a chance with, that's fertile ground for oneitis/pedastalization.

Keep it moving, most of us have to play the numbers game at some level, at it never hurts to tip the odds in your favor.

JackGoldsteinWrites · 2016-01-18T19:54:43+00:00

Friend zone is great for men. I put girls in it all the time. Its like my own little queue in case my girlfriend doesn't work out. She both loves and hates the fact that it exists for me. Loves it because the alpha tingles. Hates it because my gf is RP as heck and knows what women will do to each other and how little loyalty they have, being a woman herself.

SWIMs-Drugs · 2016-01-18T17:35:45+00:00

What are you even saying? You're either a guy said women would fuck, or you're not. This is dependant on your SMV and how your game was on said first impression

Transmigratory · 2016-01-18T19:33:15+00:00

It exists if they're not joshosexuals, though.

Ricardo2991 · 2016-01-19T07:20:50+00:00

I still abide by the ladder theory. Works well for me.

DforDeadpool · 2016-01-18T18:44:56+00:00

While friendzone doesn't exist, why would "next"ing be a loser's job? If she's polite and considerate while rejecting you, go soft next. Don't make her sad, don't get butthurt. If she was disrespectful, go nuclear, ice-cold, ghost, choose one. Probably nuclear. There is no shame in nexting. Just like for women, there is no shame in fucking Chads and marrying Bobs. That's how the sexuality game is. If she doesn't make your life better, next that shit.

xkulp8 · 2016-01-19T06:14:27+00:00

I agree the friendzone is an artificial construct, but for a simpler reason: You're either fucking her or you're not.

Title	Friendzone doesn't exist
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Date	January 18, 2016 5:18 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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