Greetings TRP community ! 21yrs old. Close to 1 year lurking this subreddit and I'd like to say thank you! When I first learned about TRP, I was going about living life with no motivation . I really wanted a relationship . Badly . Had no income . Didn't lift . Beta qualities far surpassed my alpha qualities . Just goes to show I had no chance in hell of getting any of the women I was interested in and was categorized betabux by them almost all the time . This was 1 year ago . In fact I was one of those guys that posted how I really wanted to plate my recent oneitis but that was the problem, I HAD oneitis. I took TRP advice and completely cut her out of my life . Hard Next .

I wanted to submit this post particularly because I haven't seen any Oneitis posts in a while, so bare with me .The past oneitis posts were actually what brought me here and soon I started lurking. Before TRP hit 100k subscribers, I was diagnosed with Oneitis . I felt like I was stuck in a void . I didn't want to believe TRP . I hated the fact that I had to stop talking to someone I was genuinely interested in(damn you hamster), but I put the pill in my mouth and forcefully swallowed it . My perpective changed. I soon realized my actions lead me down the path I didn't want to go down . The feeling of thinking that unicorns existed finally started to erode from my BP mind .

Rewind back to last year . I was clearly hung up on her . She already knew I had crushed hard on her, because I told her . Wanting to go out of my way to see this girl . Buying coffee for her, before she even woke up, just to see her smile . Giving her hugs, rides , gifts . LETTING HER DRIVE ( my goodness don't ever let her drive)! I clearly wasn't leading, not getting anywhere at this point, and I was suffering from it . Of course, she was taking advantage of the situation. You get the point . Slowly, I started getting the point as well . I decided to get to the point and just ask her . This is when I barely had accepted my sickness and knew exactly what was going to happen. I had to hard next her but my beta ways didn't want to . I just couldn't handle the rejection . I liked her so much that I had asked her once already and got rejected because she was "talking to someone". The facts were there . This girl wasn't attracted to me. After 6 months I asked her for the 2nd time, straight up, as a man . Didn't want to be in the position of BB anymore . I was shocked, I had enough willpower to confront her. I'm a very confident person but the oneitis was crippling my confidence.

My moment of freedom :

Me: ( I stand up. Intense nervousness. Shaking. I start to breathe and relax.) "hey , do you want to hang out sometime" Her: are you serious ? Me : yea ..... Her : chuckles "I'm talking to someone" Me: "cool, I talk to people all the time (slight smirk). Anyways do you want to hang out with me? Let's chill, do something ?" Her : " I started talking to my ex again " Me: okay .....( already heading for the door . My heart is in my gut. I was rejected but this one hit me good) Her: wait ! Where are you going !? (Sounding concerned) Me : I have better things to do. (Exit)

I did it . I had let it out . My tears . My anger . Inside i had let it burn me up . This was my chance to improve my life and learn from my mistakes. See through TRP lenses from now on . The next day started immediately on myself. Lifting , reading, looking for another job. I did my best to cut contact . Since one of my closest friends ,who was her relative, was living with her, I did my best to avoid her . Even if it wasn't a hard next at first ,fuck it, soft next ninja style . I'd treat everyone around the same I always treated them . Everyone loves my company because I'm fairly charming and I am very respected by her family and my friends . I ignored her . Decided not to give her my attention or my time anymore . She tried to get my attention with her looks and trying to talk to me . Didn't give a fuck anymore . I was done with that shit . My habits were starting to deteriorate . I picked up my old hobby of skateboarding and started shredding hard due to anger .

Eventually the soft next became a hard next . I finally found myself in peace . Away from her . My friend moved back to his old place . We started skating more and enjoying life . Improving and applying TRP ( had to get back on the market) . Suddenly, I came to a realization. Reading TRP , I had came across oneitis posts and success stories of men who had redeemed themselves . Men who had cured their oneitis , improved, and somehow got the chance to prove to people you can still seduce those woman who have friend zoned them. Those stories pushed me forward. I wanted to IMPROVE, not because I wanted to go back and hope that she will magically be attracted to me . TRP taught me that, that's not how it works . I quickly began to forget about that day- dream of eventually proving her wrong because I know that wouldn't satisfy me . Some of those FR posts sounded satisfying and some didn't really make a difference . This helped me understand that you CAN have sex with someone who friend zoned you but that should NOT be a goal to strive for .

FR: last night . My friends decided they wanted to hit up a old spot in downtown to go skate . I agreed, however , they were going to be at oneitis house to visit his grandpa. My friend already knows about the decisions I made, and why I tell him "I'm not interested in going if she's going to be there" . I ask him if she's going to be there . He said she was on a " fishing trip " so I could come visit . I couldn't tell if he was lying or just didn't know. I head over . I felt skeptical . I knew she was going to be there . Regardless, I knew what I was going to do. It's been 4 months without seeing her 6 months without acknowledging her . pff Barely. I call him when I'm outside . My friends come outside . Tell me the game plan ,where we are headed to etc etc . What they didn't mention was that she WAS there . They tried to convince me to go inside . They didn't try hard enough and I told them I was going to be in my car enjoying some music until they wanted to depart. They automatically assumed I was sad ,or depressed only because I didn't want to go inside and asked me, "why are you all sad? " I ignored them with a smirk and went inside my car . I'm inside my car for a while listening to some music . I had a feeling something was about to happen and in only ten minutes I see her walking towards my car . I'm leaning back, relaxed, hands behind my head. eyes closed . I didn't want to see , or talk. I just wanted to listen to music .

(Dinosaur jr- feel the pain starts to play on the radio) (She opens my door and puts her head in)

Her : what are you doing ? (Smiling) Me : what? (Straight face) Her: why don't you want to come inside? Me: I don't feel like it (She jumps over me to the passenger seat to get comfortable ) Her: what's wrong ? Me : .........(straight face) (listening to music) (moving my head to the beat) Her : why are you upset ? ( she thinks I'm upset . Or she's just trying to pull me back into orbit) Me : (waits about 2 min. rotate head 45 degrees. Straight up ) I'm not upset . I'm actually really happy with my life now . I enjoy every second of it, skate with my friends and I REALLY like this song . (Close my eyes , lay back , and turn up the radio )

At this point I can tell she's upset . But I didn't care at all . I felt cold . She whimpers some words. I didn't care to listen. All I heard was " I'll just leave you alone now " I look at her one last time calmly and say "sounds good" . She leaves . I'm listening to feel the pain finish . In my mind I realize what I just did. I didn't feel any sadness or happiness . I just felt neutral . I didn't want revenge . I didn't want to go off on her . I didn't want to open up . I sure as hell didn't want to go back to being a beta . I wasn't even thinking about sex at all . It felt a little good to know that even if she wasn't attracted to me I could still maintain frame . I'm going to continue improving myself , lifting , skateboarding , reading , music , and career. You should do the same .

[ ONEITIS TRIES TO PUT ME BACK IN ORBIT]