how to best to deal with commitment request from plate...

mrp3anut · 2015-03-03T18:16:01+00:00

It depends.

The first time you can give a witty response and if she accepts it then great, if not let her go on her way.

If she is serious about commitment then I would advise you break it off immediately. Even if she changes her mind after you tell her it is over. Stringing a girl along when you know she is serious is opening you up to oopsie babies and all kinds of female shenanigans that are just not worth it when you can go get a different plate.

I would recommend you read Rollo's article on plate theory, paying special attention to the end where he describes what spinning plates is not. Your goal is not to get sex from a girl while making her miserable. It is to be in relationships where both of you are OK with nonexclusivity.

H42 · 2015-03-03T18:38:46+00:00

Spinning plates is a Catch & Release program.

Its almost time to Release this one, so that means now is the time to Catch your next plate.

nomadicwilk · 2015-03-03T18:08:21+00:00

from my experience, all plates that you are spinning eventually will fall down. it simply takes more and more energy to spin them, and that energy is your time and commitment. they require it, because their goal is to trade their pussy for the highest value they can find. so unless you're looking to make a little human, let her go.

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-03-03T18:11:51+00:00

The mentality should be "maybe later". Convey a sense that you're just not sure yet. And find ways to demonstrate token commitment that doesn't really affect you. Ie, let her keep some basic toiletries in your house, but don't necessarily let that mean she can come over more often or anything. It'll make her feel the relationship is "going somewhere". Women are biologically programmed to crave increasing levels of commitment.

Or, next her, ignore her for at least 4 months and let her come back to you after she's played the field and realized there aren't any men as good as you.

disposable_pants · 2015-03-03T21:12:25+00:00

I'd say she'll probably make lack of committment a deal breaker at some stage.

Unless your SMV is miles above hers this is inevitable with any plate. As others have mentioned plates aren't meant to be spun indefinitely -- anticipate this and always be on the lookout for a replacement.

As to how to handle her request for commitment, my go-to answer is that I'm too busy for it. Of course this works best if you are too busy; be really involved at work, with your hobbies, with finding other plates, etc. I aim for keeping my schedule to where I can see a plate once a week and maybe twice if I have a little more free time. I don't know how often you're seeing yours, but if it's twice a week or more regularly I'd recommend picking up other activities that trim that down.

BlaiseDB · 2015-03-04T00:15:20+00:00

What about "promoting" her to FWB or GF status? You could say "let's spend more time together and see how that goes."

Otherwise, "commitment" has two aspects to it: the long term view and exclusivity. Why would you contemplate either - but especially the latter - if she has not demonstrated her worthiness to receive and hold those promotions?

Caoimhin-even · 2015-03-03T19:45:51+00:00

ok thanks for all the advice. based on everything time to let this one go but it's only been like two weeks.

blacwidonsfw · 2015-03-04T02:05:47+00:00

Just lost one because she was too hot to spin indefinitely and she understands she is 23 and the wall is approaching. Can't really blame her. Whatever, it was a fun few month's and I'm sure shell be back when she needs a good hookup. The reality is that plates can't spin indefinitely be cause eventually she will want her side of the deal (commitment). All you can do is replace them and maybe she will come back and spin for you in the future

thedude122487 · 2015-03-04T03:44:00+00:00

I've only been in this situation once and it was with a girl who, when we first started hooking up, was cheating on her beta boyfriend with me because he wasn't fucking her enough. Obviously I wasn't about to commit to her, because why would I want to be in a LTR with a cheater?

I also wasn't going to say no to her, becuase I knew that would mean the end of getting pussy from her (at least for a while). So I just beat around the bush and gave her a vague "let's take it slow and see where this goes" sort of answer. I knew that wasn't going to work for a long time, but at least I got laid for a few more weeks before she found someone that she thought she had a better chance of tying down.

My point is that if she decides she wants an LTR, you're only going to keep fucking her without commitment for a short period of time. So my advice is to prolong that period of time by beating around the bush.

le4rner · 2015-03-03T21:47:24+00:00

A plate by definition is temporary. At some point, you need to cut her loose. Do so with dignity. If she pressures too much, soft next. If not improved, hard next.

Title	how to best to deal with commitment request from plate...
Author	Caoimhin-even
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Date	March 3, 2015 5:53 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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