I feel weak and controlled.

RageLionRising · 2017-05-31T02:00:19+00:00

Engage in the big three lifts. They'll calm your emotions. If you can afford it, have a financial arrangement with another woman. It makes things very real and very much in your control.

You're attached to this woman because your brain is telling you she's the mother of your kids since you've slept with her. Unless you get her pregnant the relationship will eventually end. That's how nature works. Heterosexual relationships are about reproducing.

If you do get her pregnant be prepared to financially support her for 18 to 20 years. Right now you're seeing this woman as someone who you're walking in slow motion with through a field of flowers as the wind gently blows her hair. You're holding her hand as she dreamily looks you in the eye, and cares for you after you've made sweet, sweet love.

You're not seeing the 17 dudes who dropped a load in her smiling mouth in college or the random guy at the bar last night who fucked her in the ass on her apartment floor after she went home with him. You're not seeing how he tucked his dick in his pants and left without a care in the world, or how she was turned on and drawn to that guy precisely because he didn't give a fuck about her.

You're not seeing the raging bitch she'll become once she gets pregnant, sucks your bank account dry, takes you through a divorce court, starts getting bags under her eyes and lines in her face when she hits her 30s, the flabby under arm fat when she hits her 40s, the sagging ass and cellulite, the fat upper pussy area (FUPA!), the slightly dark peach fuzz mustache, her chopped off hair, the wrinkles on her tits; the liver spots on her chest, shoulders, and hands; and all the other physical defects she'll get as she ages.

You're seeing an ideal. An ideal with no consequences and only rewards. It does not exist. Wake up, Neo.

MattyAnon · 2017-05-31T02:02:48+00:00

she needs to be single to work on herself

= look for Chad cock or a beta.

but she wants to keep me around and we even have this friends with benefits thing going on.

great

I want more however, I don't just want her for the sexual pleasure, I want her back in a meaningful relationship.

There is no such thing as a "meaningful relationship". The security you seek does not exist. The mutually beneficial mutually supportive commitment to each other that you crave does not exist.

Women will make you feel you can have this. And just when you get comfortable and happy with her, she'll pull the rug out from under you and say "sorry, it's not you it's me, I just need to be with Chad right now".

She's just in this mindset though that she wants to be free and independent, she told me that eventually she does want to settle down and marry and she could see herself with me but since she's young she say's she just wants to have fun...

oh, so you're the beta bucks. and she wants to fuck Chad. same old story.

t I don't know why I can't help myself but become emotionally attached to a girl like this, why can't I seem to let her go?

do you have other GOOD options?

She clearly doesn't want stability in her life and while the sex is great I know it's taking an emotional toll on me because I want more.

That emotional toll is caused by you needing a relationship with a girl. Fix your own life. Don't look for it to be fixed by a woman, it doesn't work like that.

I feel as if she has a grasp on me and lost a lot of power over myself. I hate it but yet I keep going back to her. I feel trapped, weak, and controlled.

You should feel like this, because you are.

trp_sidepiece · 2017-05-31T01:30:40+00:00

Only thing trapping you is yourself

H42 · 2017-05-31T01:51:09+00:00

Get 3 new girls, see each of them in rotation no more than once in 7-10 days.

There is no such thing as "The One".

OneRedYear · 2017-05-31T06:18:02+00:00

What the fuck is a meaningful relationship? I just left my girl's house. We fucked, talked about our kids, fucked some more, she shared some dreams, we fucked again and I just came home to shit post on TRP. I'll text her a bit and see her again next week. In the meantime I'll be working on my side business and my hobbies and spending time with my kid. I mean, what can be more meaningful that this? If she decides to bail and not see me anymore I'll be fine. I had women before her and I'll have them after. I've had whores as well. If I just have to get a nut I can find a slut.

You're damn near 30 years old. Don't you have shit to do? You accomplished all those goals and big dreams in life already? Ready to retire to domestic life? Or do you have shit to do? Because only a man with nothing to do gets caught up in a glass cage of emotions like this .

diamondhurt · 2017-05-31T01:45:10+00:00

Walk away don't be her backup.

TunedtoPerfection · 2017-05-31T05:43:43+00:00

Stop letting a 20 year old woman rule your life... Your a 27 year old man, get a grip dude.

She won't make you happy, only you can make you happy

NeoreactionSafe · 2017-05-31T13:31:46+00:00

I don't just want her for the sexual pleasure, I want her back in a meaningful relationship.

You cannot have a "meaningful relationship" with a female.

What you are doing is assuming women are like men (who can be objective about reality) when the truth is that women are subjective creatures.

Women are fluid and manipulative.

Women are not rigid and willing to adhere to Natural Laws or even stick to a promise they made five minutes ago.

The Equalist Fantasy says that men and women can share sameness, but it's just doesn't work that way.

Masculinity and Femininity are equal in energy, but opposite in direction.

Yin and Yang, opposites attract.

Expect women to act like a mirror that can deceive you.

(a manipulative mirror device)

imbeciI · 2017-05-31T15:04:41+00:00

Just listen to yourself, you're letting a 20y/o control your 27y/o self.

Pathetic. You're her plate.

Lift, meditate, read. Become solid rock. Don't let the outside world enter your mind. Fuck her. Her friends too. Don't waste your youth sulking.

Dragon_Garoo · 2017-05-31T17:36:42+00:00

"work on herself" = Ride the CC.

redpill9-1 · 2017-05-31T01:31:49+00:00

It is because you are a bitch.

hardly_incognito · 2017-05-31T01:59:15+00:00

Not being mean, but this is more oriented for askTRP as opposed to TRP.

The goal of posts on this sub is to provide content which can help others. While it sucks that you were dumped, we've all been there, and this sub isn't for people to come and complain about the pitfalls in their life. Again, askTRP is more appropriate, as it gives you a place to voice concerns such as this....

Title	I feel weak and controlled.
Author	bluejak101
Upvotes	13
Comments	46
Date	May 31, 2017 1:28 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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