I really need your help right now guys

Hunts_Alone · 2015-09-06T02:15:54+00:00

You're going to look back on this experience in 2 years and think "Damn that was hard. But I grew as a person from it." Sometimes when shitty things happen, you have to smile and think "Yep. That's life. And right now, life is throwing me shit. But that's okay because I will stick it out and push through." You'll make it through. When shitty things happen, look only to yourself. You are enough. You have what it takes to make it through.

squirrelcuisine · 2015-09-06T02:33:43+00:00

When you are going through hell..

KEEP going.

Not sure that getting a second bachelors is a good idea. (Seems like more debt to me)

slcjosh · 2015-09-06T02:05:12+00:00

Man the Fuck up and get along with your life. Do what you need to to do. Execute your plan and while you're figuring out your job situation pick up a hobby.

puamua · 2015-09-06T09:59:10+00:00

The grapes of wrath put it well. When the farms started going bare, the women would look to the men to see if they showed defeat in their faces. The men didn't show any worry, and the women knew everything would be ok. The lesson is that the attitude is the important part of being a man. If all your shit burns down tomorrow, you rebuild it. If you want to find that strength, you have to find it inside yourself, you won't find it here. If all you have left is yourself, you have to make that enough.

SpeakNoTruths · 2015-09-06T02:36:08+00:00

Listening to Coldplay

Put in some Vinny Paz and do some shadowboxing, you ain't dead yet, motherfucker.

RedditDotaMan · 2015-09-06T15:28:44+00:00

you feel terrible but unfortunately there's no one there for you. You're a man, you either get over this or you die a miserable life. There's no security for you, you're evolution's gamble.

billcosbyeatsbabies · 2015-09-06T15:48:21+00:00

Fuck your second bachelors. What are you thinking? We all know how hard it is to get a job even after so many years of education. You have to go through 6+ years of learning, then roughly 2 years in residency basically being someone's bitch, then you finally have the possibility of getting a job.
Find a trade. Or any job that requires all muscle, no brains, and pays a lot. Oil rigs used to be good, not so much anymore. You get the idea. Go to school for less than a year for it. Get out and work that shit.
Enact the rich dad poor dad mentality. Every bit of money you get, save it. Save until you have enough to reinvest in something that will make you more money. A GIC, a no risk investment, a business, whatever. Do it. Repeat. Keep saving and reinvesting. The shit adds up.
Once you're at a comfortable level with money, manage it properly. Don't spend it like a fucking idiot. Keep stacking your money. Don't ever let that shit get low. Buy nice things once in a while, consider it a gift for what you worked for.

J_Dizzle1000 · 2015-09-06T03:55:26+00:00

Dude, straight up telling you how it is. No one cares about you except you. No one has your best interest in mind, even if they seem like a friends.

That being said, your situation isn't that bad. Could be a lot worse. I've been in a non stop uphill battle for a year and a half where everyday feels like 1 step forward and 2 steps back.

Keep focused, cut out distractions and keep moving forward. I lost a career, my education, put in a ridiculous amount of debt. What did I do, get drunk and angry at the world and only made my situation worse. One day you'll look back and laugh.

It isn't an easy journey, but thank God for TRP and the guys here who always tell you how it is. You'll be alright.

bigcitytruth · 2015-09-06T05:44:02+00:00

Never tell a woman your problems, or how you are hurt by your problems, ever.

leodoestheopposite · 2015-09-06T14:31:45+00:00

Don't go back to school for a second bachelor degree, that's an escape.

Do go MONK MODE. Take time for yourself, and like you said make a plan, a plan that reflects who you are, and then just execute.

Shit like this happens, this too will pass, your body will heal, your car will be repaired or you'll get a new car or you'll live without a car for a while, same for your girl.

MONK MODE is your best option.

Cadaquesenc · 2015-09-06T14:38:49+00:00

In my 20's I had tuberculosis, lost my job, my gf dumped me. I was so anxious that I developed tinnitus. I could barely sleep for a year and moved to a house in the mountains to commit suicide.

My life was a complete wreck until I hit 28. I lived with my parents, had no job and no money. Then, I met a girl. In order to make money to go on dates with her, I learnt programming. After a few months I got a job as developer and moved in with this girl. She dumped me for being Beta. However, this time I had value and it was easy to move on.

Today, I am forty and leaving abroad. My 10 years LTR SO dumped me because she turned me into a Beta . But I am Director of Product in a tech company, making 6 figures and have much more value than when I was 30.

Even though I have to work on my BP tendencies, focusing on increasing my job market value and learning new skills has saved my life.

YouDislikeMyOpinion · 2015-09-06T03:23:08+00:00

My girl/SO/plate/whatever already knows what happened...she's been supportive

You just made it more fickle

Yes to powering through everything. No to killing yourself by powering through it. Balance. Few people can turn into a machine and just get everything back on track in one fell swoop. It's going to take time, manage yourself.

You're going to look back on this hopefully and treasure this time because it will build you into the man you will become.

TheMGhandi · 2015-09-06T04:48:49+00:00

Right now you have a chance to build character. Overcoming this situation will give you so much confidence, I swear man. That self-reliance where you can depend on yourself is incredible. You just got to love yourself. Accept yourself. And most importantly, sue that son of a bitch boss.

IronMeltsinmyHands · 2015-09-06T05:30:32+00:00

Ey man, you ever been so down, that you started actually understanding Coldplay?

GrandmasterHurricane · 2015-09-06T05:43:59+00:00

Break up with her now while you still have your peace of mind. Send her hamster flying by telling her you need to be alone now.

StoicBeard · 2015-09-06T08:28:15+00:00

Try Swollen Members and hit the gym.

squidracer · 2015-09-06T10:23:23+00:00

File for unemployment and go fishing..

Profdiddy · 2015-09-06T13:26:32+00:00

Pain is the greatest teacher. It lets us know we are alive, what we can handle and what we really want out of life. What is your pain trying to tell you?

kaiwanxiaode · 2015-09-06T13:31:35+00:00

Have you considered living in Asia for awhile? All you need is a degree any degree and you can hook up with a decent enough teaching gig for awhile so you can plan your next step. The girls here will be all over you.

_smosbol_ · 2015-09-06T13:59:41+00:00

Just grind it out man. I suffered from a severe anxiety disorder the last couple of years, and when I'm having a bad period, I reassure myself that everything passes. Your shit will pass too. You'll get through this no matter what, the only thing you can do is being proactive about things so you'll end this shit faster.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-09-06T15:37:31+00:00

I think you can get UNEMPLOYMENT now for an entire year in the US.

Have fun going back to collage and do a detox. Get a water ozonator.

Sir_Distic · 2015-09-07T01:08:28+00:00

I actually needed this right now. I'm at a low point myself. Job loss etc.

Get stronger from this experience. Also if she's a keeper make sure she KNOWS you're a man and you'll handle this shit like a man. Be her rock. Otherwise her click is ticking and she'll leave.

jasonmiles2014 · 2015-09-07T01:20:57+00:00

The biggest offense here is that you were listening to Coldplay. No one should forgive that.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-09-07T11:45:59+00:00

No matter how hard life hits you, keep swinging your fists and hit back.

Once you get your appendix sorted out and you're healed up, this is an excellent time to get in shape, if you're not.

You have to Maintain Fucking FRAME with the LTR. Shit happens, you're a man, you'll deal with it. If she bails, tell her not to let the door hit her on the ass on the way out.

Figure out what you're going to do, and make a plan. And hang in there, worse shit has happened to people. Just keep moving forward.

oldredder · 2015-09-06T07:38:34+00:00

You don't need help. You need adaptability. Maybe you move, maybe you use connectios to get a job, maybe you use leverage so if someone does that to you, you say "ok, I've got this ____ thing on you so you go try and fuck with me now and by 9am you'll be fired AND arrested"

That's how you actually win in the real world. You bash opponents on the head with big hammers until they fucking fall down and don't get back up.

my appendix exploded and I walked around with it for a week before going to the ER

This is your new mission: move to a nation which has national healthcare. A nation without it is a barbaric 3rd world nation and that includes the USA.

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-09-21T18:36:58+00:00

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Title	I really need your help right now guys
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Date	September 6, 2015 1:48 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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