It starts today.

strikethrough123 · 2017-10-14T22:00:36+00:00

I'll tell you one thing from experience, you're trying to do too much all at once. I've found that to be a recipe for disaster, at least for me, it might be different for you. When I tried to do everything at once I found myself slipping back into old habits simply because I couldn't keep up. I'd recommend to do one thing at a time, and when that thing becomes second nature, tackle the next.

Kudos to you for not whining and bitching about your situation and instead aspiring to change it. You definitely have the right mindset. Keep it up.

Randomshortdude · 2017-10-14T20:03:48+00:00

Sounds great. Just curious though, why are you not in a position to end the ltr? Are you relying on this person for a roof over your head or something?

allyoursmylove · 2017-10-15T08:50:02+00:00

if theres any old man knowledge that i can impart on you, it would be to always think pragmatically. i dont mean be rainman and try to calculate everything and do advanced math equations in your sleep, i mean always see things in terms of cost-benefit, and nothing else. your gamer/virgin bestfriends from middle school, or a small budding group of coked up wallstreet boys with good looks and charm to boot: who do you choose and who do you cut out? or folks with bad credit scores but plenty of excuses, or the guy with good credit who you know will pay his dues on time and with a smile on his face: who do you reject and approve?

morality should only serve to benefit you, otherwise theres no purpose. cut all the dead weight or drown. run up to the deck and shove through the crowd in order to get first seat on the best looking life raft, let the "gentlemen" say "ladies first" while they drown to death only to be replaced and forgotten once the wives have finished grieving. its a dog eat dog kind of world, so act accordingly. morality and honor are just feelgood nonsense and "the way its supposed to be," a fantasy for the bluepilled. no one gives a fuck how virtuous and honorable you are, youll be ignored if you have no use, so regard others the same way.

lifeisledzep · 2017-10-14T20:12:39+00:00

Good on you for realizing this now before any calamity from a collapsed relationship deconstructed you to a place where you'd seek this out of desperation. You are here for the right reason man: self-improvement

Alejandroses · 2017-10-18T14:28:59+00:00

Dude if you really want to succeed wake up and shower every morning! Unless you already do, if not you should get into the habit of doing it! That shower alone is a confidence booster for the whole day! I used to shower before going to sleep because showering before sleep helps you fall asleep faster but if you do when you wake up you have an amazing day!

bigOlBeta · 2017-10-15T01:39:26+00:00

Lift heavy weights. If you flounder at everything else, at least be consistent with increasing the weights. Get a routine and stick with it because this will change your life. I’m at the gym 6 days a week, which seems like a lot for someone just starting out but I’m only there for 45 minutes. 2 muscle groups per day and abs every other day

Trooper_1868 · 2017-10-15T05:38:04+00:00

keep the games. Trust me, you will have a decent amount of free time and they are the thing that will give you the most urges. They are for the most part, not inherently destructive to your nature in small quantities. Also, dont BUY snacks. That way when you get the munchies, you have anything to eat. Look into water weight and how you can bring that down. If you are going to the gym, and are thinking supplements, all you need is some good whey (with some essential amino acids in them), and some creatine mono. Look up muscle creatine higher calorie consumption (something along those lines) on google. You will understand. Read up very heavily on nutrition. I would not recommend keto right off the bat. It is a massive shift in mindset, and even me, someone who was not overweight per se, and always had the ability to manage my eating, could not handle it because it very hard to consumer that amount of calories every day in fat sometimes. Stick to a more basic, calories in vs calories out. Simple, tried and tested.

Good luck mate.

[deleted] · 2017-10-15T08:09:38+00:00

You're not going to just change your life overnight. Life isn't some sort of movie where you suddenly find yourself and everything is magically solved in a training montage.

You probably think you're special, and is now thinking "Man, this won't happen to me." You know, just like the other 50 million who try to do this every single new-years eve, or 25 000 posts about this on other self-improvement subs.

If you want to make a big change, you start by taking one step. You don't start training for a marathon by trying to sprint 42 kilometers the first day. You don't start lifting by attempting to squat 300 kgs the first time.

If you want to make it big, you gotta add up the small things.

heelek · 2017-10-15T11:42:09+00:00

Just a question to you guys. How isnt anyone saying that he's a bitch for keeping the girl in the dark like this? Is branch swinging only frowned upon when it's a woman?

SkorchZang · 2017-10-15T13:26:19+00:00

When you fail, don't beat yourself up about that & be miserable. You're going to fail, it's normal. Supposed to learn from this how to redouble the effort, over and over, like a man.

Fyrjefe · 2017-10-15T16:11:30+00:00

That moment of "conversion" is a beautiful thing. The spark of desire for change is a strong motivator. Deleting the junk in your life and cutting your hair is a nice gesture toward clearing the threshing floor. As others have said, don't be scandalized when slipups occur. You're making some radical changes and we're creatures of habit. The old ones aren't going to die overnight, so much of your work is building new habits in place of the old.

A note about the hair thing: if you can find a traditional barber shop, that's a good way of plugging into a decent male community. Become a regular. In my small city, there is such a place and it's busy. The barber shop is run by alpha thirty-somethings and it has clientele from all walks of life come through the doors. Add that on top of a decent gym if possible.

Well wishes on your journey!

Work_In_Progress92 · 2017-10-14T23:50:41+00:00

Sounds good, but you need to focus one thing at a time. For example, me right now my main focus besides school, is working out and dieting.

I am now only just looking into possible new hobbies like hiking. I have done a good job disciplining myself to get to the gym and also been improving at disciplining myself with dieting. Doing too much at once will cause you to fall back into bad habits.

It's not a sprint, its a marathon. It is good that you have come here and want to make changes. Recognizing you need to improve yourself is the first step.

bigman1090 · 2017-10-14T21:04:50+00:00

Good on you mate! Make us proud someday

Title	It starts today.
Author	playMoreGamesYT
Upvotes	41
Comments	24
Date	October 14, 2017 7:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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