Old Friends

[deleted] · 2016-11-27T13:47:45+00:00

Crabs in a bucket mentality. I can definitely relate

iveseenpage84 · 2016-11-27T17:06:12+00:00

My experience has been nothing but a rush of support from friends and family who want to see me succeed.

Urffalls · 2016-11-27T18:18:16+00:00

Not everyone will support you, it's that simple. I've gone through my fair share of transformations since I've done this process in several steps (unconsciously mostly). Every step of the road I've lost friends and made new ones. Some stick through it all and those are the people you should keep close.

Cut the bad fruit off the tree and keep working on yourself.

throwawayurbuns · 2016-11-27T16:34:27+00:00

I can definatley relate.

But you'll find that the majority of people are just as you described.

Even the alphaest of alphas can and will slip into the crabs in a bucket mentality over time.

Just keep focusing on you man. Haters gon' hate.

Newbosterone · 2016-11-28T01:55:06+00:00

Old friends are like old habits. If they're keeping you from success you must shed them.

boogerboy23 · 2016-11-27T19:21:13+00:00

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xXSoroxXx · 2016-11-27T18:31:03+00:00

Too true, when I started improving my life and making more money my old "friends" would just stop responding to me. It's not a surprise though. We came from the same upbringing and I did exponentially better then you so every time you see me is a reminder of what you haven't done or probably ever will do.

Shamlei · 2016-11-27T22:31:13+00:00

Can relate to that, found two friends I hadn't seen in 4 years, we were pretty tight back then.

Turns out I was bored the whole night, didn't say a fucking word because they were next level bluepill and frankly pathetic.

Only time we laughed was after I smoked weed.

Just as with exes, don't try to salvage broken goods, move on, reality will never be as pleasant as your memories.

sezamus · 2016-11-28T00:40:35+00:00

That shit happened to me few months ago. I was working hard for my physical test in the army and I wasn't contacting my friends since our last meeting because I was so focused on the work I had to do. I wrote "how are you? wanna meet? I miss you folks :)" in our mutual FB conversation and one friend added me to another conversation, that turned out involved everybody except me... I read all the stuff and it turned out they were meeting each other, making barbecue with no mentioning about me - not a fucking word. Funny thing I was the guy who lately spended his time to buy and make a birthday gift for the buddy who was organizing that bbq and the rest still owe me money for that - fucking pricks.

I am happy it happened because I saw what kind of false people I was considering "my friends". Actually I have 3 couples that I consider real friends and even though 2 of them live far away from me, they never failed me. Sometimes you think that alpha-winner should have a lot of "friends", but most of people uses each other for their own purpose so watch people carefully. True friends are a rarity.

SSJ3DonaldTrump · 2016-11-28T00:53:46+00:00

Yeah man I'm back home for Thanksgiving and I hung out with one of my old buds from HS. We were with two other guys and once one of them left and the other one fell asleep, he just broke the fuck down because his life is shit. Me and my other friend always tell him to cut it off with his bitch-of-a-gf who controls his life and his sex, but he's too much of a pussy. I thought of introducing him to TRP, but it wouldn't have helped since I'm just starting my journey. All in all he's a shitty friend and just smokes all day to escape. Being in college has really opened my eyes to the possibilities of life and having a friend like that just weighs you down.

thewrightstuff88 · 2016-11-28T12:14:15+00:00

"People want to see you do good, just not better than them."

PM_ME_BIG_DUCK_PICS · 2016-11-27T19:44:00+00:00

Your transformation constantly reminds them of their own shortcomings. Ending that friendship is their easy way out, hard way would be actual self-improvement

pleasehelpkpopme · 2016-11-27T21:09:21+00:00

I'm friends with people that hate me, but we are still friends. Just keep being honest with them and yourself, it makes for a better relationship than pretending to be the blue pilled cuck they want you to be.

[deleted] · 2016-11-28T08:20:45+00:00

You had no friends. Nobody was ever your friend, but you- maybe mom and dad if you're the lucky sort we love to hate. Welcome to the real world- tickets are non-refundable. Enjoy your stay and learn to laugh at God's fucked up sense of humor.

Blue pill is easier, you say? Buahahahaha!! Not today, motherfuckers!!! You'll never catch me!!!

BoobToArmRatio · 2016-11-28T16:32:06+00:00

It's very difficult to find fully red pill friends. I've been socially RP for about two years now, and financially RP for about a year. I've been fortunate to have the opportunity to network with many "elite" individuals through my life experiences, yet can only think of a handful that are both socially and financially RP, though there are plenty that are one or the other.

As many have discussed before on TRP, being alone is not the same thing as being lonely. You'll have to accept being alone because taking the red pill both socially and financially really means you will not be able to connect with most people unless you masquerade yourself as blue pill.

Dickwheel · 2016-11-29T12:59:50+00:00

Get new friends bro. They weren't your friends to begin with.

I started my journey two years ago too. Gained some weight in high school, was a fat, single, eighteen yesr loser who sacrificed his teens to get good grades into med school when it was simply becsuse of shit habits. Hung out with a group of nerds who never get laid.

But yknow what, they're my friends. They still are. They're certainly plugged, and they're certainly beta, and ive certainly gotten new friends that cater to my goals now. But they were and still are good friends and have done nothing but look at me in admiration and inspiration. I've become a beacon of hope for them and I know that despite our differences now and how we've went different paths since high school, we shared that bond once and for that, we have each other's backs.

TLDR I don't rly relate to them anymore. But there's still a mutual respect and they admire what I've done for myself.

chooseaburner · 2016-11-27T21:59:29+00:00

I feel they are threatened by me and I no longer fit in the 'clique'.

I think the academic phrase is in-group preference? You're no longer considered part of the group. Changes for the better force those around you to be critical of themselves and recognize their own short comings. This makes a lot of people uncomfortable. This happens all the time.

I'd say they've done you a favor but if you really want to be the better man you'll start inviting them to the gym when you're going, that kind of thing. If they say no a few times you've heard all you need to; it's understandable for people to be a bit shy and unwilling to change on their own- change in a vacuum is exceedingly difficult- but it's something else to actively reject a helping hand.

goldnhorde · 2016-11-28T14:37:58+00:00

it goes both ways.

some people are going to support you, some people are not. there is NO REASON not to support you. so take this time to find out who is really your friend and who is just hanging out because they got nothing better to do.

ArkAngelEV · 2016-11-28T15:45:06+00:00

is this ... a humblebrag. fuck you

Title	Old Friends
Author	dasbungenstein
Upvotes	39
Comments	26
Date	November 27, 2016 1:26 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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