Imagine with me for a moment what it is like to be the type of person that walks into a social venue and whose Modus Operandi is thinking “Who am I going to choose tonight?” I mean to oppose this hypothetical with someone I used to be, and probably still am to a certain extent: naturally introverted, stifled, the whole nine yards – you know how it goes I’m sure (and if you don’t then god bless you). For myself, this thought experiment is quite the paradigm shift; simply for the fact that it is not what I am predominantly thinking while going out.

Enough about me though. Let’s flesh this out. Imagine being that person that goes into an environment with that proactive mentality of not having to battle and wrestle with the inner- and outer-perceived enemies of anguish and threat. Imagine not having your self worth wrapped up in rejection because of a perfectly rational, objective outlook on life. And then, if someone did 'reject' you, because you are so consciously aware of how great and fun and cool you and your life are, I mean in a very objective cold hard economic sense, you would just pity the girl for missing out. Again, this is not because you developed a spite for the girl because you got black pilled by statistics on reproductive success and you are still coping, but rather because your identity, the way you habitually think about yourself, is not predicated on what another, fairly ignorant on the subject, person thinks about you in the singular moment. Imagine the power of that foundation which was built up quite logically and deliberately. This is how I make sense of the “Buyer vs. Seller” Frame.

And of course, this is a perfectly plausible life scenario but I want to talk a little bit more about this frame. My education in this sphere of life comes from old school RSDTyler and RSDJulien videos, Pook, and the red pill subreddit. I remember a Julien video about this topic where he tried to convey the frame as 'going to Best Buy to shop for a TV'. I don’t know... that didn’t really explain shit to me so I sort of ignored the idea. But recently, because I do go out every weekend, the idea reemerged to the front of my mind.

For quite some time, I have been pondering what the hell to look for in a girl. Genuinely I have asked this question to many people and I have not yet gotten any satisfying answers. Mostly it is about her being DTF and having good logistics and so on. To be honest, I don’t really give a fuck about fucking although I can not lie that it is enjoyable. I am looking for something more than this and quite frankly I am a blank slate when it comes to answering the question. Why do you want a girl? What does a girl bring to your life? Is this even the right question to ask? Of course, central to philosophy is the idea that not only are there wrong answers but, even more importantly, there are wrong questions.

So this has been where I am at for some time now. What are you looking for? What are you screening for? What does that mean when a woman is “good enough” for you? What do you want out of a woman?

Back to picking up chicks: the significant thing about “being the Buyer and not the Seller” is not that the Frame makes your game better, which it certainly can – that’s just a side effect – but rather what is significant is that being the Seller just fucking sucks, ya know? For one, it eats up all this energy trying to impress others. But besides that, like, who are you trying to sell yourself to? These dumb women? What do you even want to sell yourself to these women for? Does anyone have a clear answer on this? Are we all just following this biological hypnosis of want for pussy? What I mean to emphasize is that not only does being the Seller make you into a Pussy and women won’t want to fuck you, but, even more importantly, why would you even want the woman in the first place? Don’t just sell to anyone. And coming from this place of authentic ignorance and curiosity, you flip the Seller frame into the Buyer frame by practicing genuine discretion in your offer. Who would you even want to sell to? Who would you even want to offer your experience to? I genuinely do not have a satisfying answer.

One final note: I am really not trying to be a 'cool guy' or uphold some sort of persona or anything like that. I am literally just a guy in the world – nothing that special. I mean, I think I am pretty cool and smart and fun and socially aware of course, but bottom line I am just a fucking guy that’s trying to figure this shit out because it didn’t make sense to me. Aren’t we all just trying to figure this shit out? I genuinely think I have done pretty well and that people would want to read and hear what I have to say in this regard but I really do see myself as some regular guy. And yes I know that this is such a tired fucking take at this point in the internet democratic education of game and social skills.

I literally just want to be empathetic and understand other people’s perspectives or, as Pook puts it, 'contexts' because I know this is highly conducive to finding the better ways of living and getting what you want.