We have all seen the excellent stock advice.
After a rejection, brush it off and go no contact. After a girl breaks up with you, go full no contact -- no texts, no phone calls, block her on text and social media, etc. Then go do things for yourself, pursue other women, etc.
The main reason for the advice is that the rejected man needs to get the woman out of his system as soon as possible. He needs to avoid any tendencies toward oneitis, completely sever any bonds he has to her, and he needs to get other activities and women in his field of vision, and he needs to do these things as soon as possible. The sooner he gets over and past her, the better off he'll be.
There's another good reason for this practice. It's to avoid being drawn back into the girl's orbit as a "friend", and to avoid the "guilt trip".
We've all seen this. After a rejection or breakup, the woman reaches out to him immediately or a few days later, to say "hey" and eventually, out it comes:
"I really hope we can be friends." OR
"I'd like it if we can talk to each other every now and then."
She's not saying this because she truly wants to be "friends". What's actually going through her mind is something like this:
"I feel kind of like a bitch for crushing your hopes. I'm pretty sure you think I am a bitch and you're probably playing me up as a bitch to your friends, some of whom I might want to fuck someday. Well, I feel bad, so I need to do something to make me feel less bad. And I might look like a bitch, so I need to do something to make me look like less of a bitch.
"So I'm offering 'friendship' to you. I don't really want to be your friend. What I want is to make the offer, because either way I can't lose. If you accept the offer, you'll be my beta bitch orbiter, who I can string along for a while and use you for shit. If you refuse, I can tell everyone I offered to be your friend and you were a petulant little bitch who turned me down. If you tell me to fuck off in a rage, I can denigrate you as a rageful asshole and at the same time justify my rejecting you or breaking up with you.
"It's not really about being your 'friend'. It's about me projecting the appearance of being 'the bigger person' here and about making me feel better about hurting you."
This is why you see women deriding the friendzone and shaming men who reject it and go 'no contact'.
--"You're a shallow asshole for turning down a friend like me!"
--"You just wanted to fuck me! All you care about is sex!"
--"Sorry my friendship is such a shitty 'consolation prize', dickwad!"
This is why RP says to go no contact. It avoids all the drama. You don't need any of that. The entire offer of "friends" is to make her feel better. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. Her 'friendship' is no prize at all.
Go no contact. Don't explain. Don't rationalize. Don't say ANYTHING. Ignore it all, block her on everything, and don't let her have the satisfaction of trying to "guilt trip" you.
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