Note, This is not a post for newbies or people that don't have basic game down.

Guys need to up their social skills under pressure. A skill thats rarely talked about is the push and pull dynamic of escalation and de-escalation.

De-escalation is a powerful tool to have in your toolbox. It can show you how to save any immediate fuckups without killing attraction. And it can create comfort and trust with women, or just people.

Sex and dating are stressful to some women. They put several hours into hair prep and makeup. Also, what to wear. I slap on a tight fitting t-shirt and jeans and roll out.

When you are calibrating your level of push and pull you can go a little too far. Too quick with escalation or too bold.This is when a girl's fight or flight response kicks in. You need to simply stop and de-escalate. Just enough de-escalation for her to feel that buzz of energy and lose that hesitation or need to stop.

Give her the tingles in her body, not alarm bells in her head.

The best way to aquire this skill or tool set is to practice it without consequences. You don't want to practice this on your dates or meetups. Instead, you practice this when the opportunity arises.

When a girl is angry or frustrated, jump in and de escalate. You're not invested in any of her bullshit so you dont need a specific outcome from these encounters.

Do gauge the situation. Don't de-escalate violent situations. Thats usually too far gone to be worth the risk.

Now you want rock solid frame and to exude a form of dominance?

Meet a woman's anger head on and conquer it. That shows powerful command of your emotions. Also, that you can direct her emotions to your liking.

A few days ago I went to a new build site for my business. An associate, Brian was supposed to set up licensing for the construction.

I pull in to the parking lot at the licensing office to get paperwork. A blond lady is walking out. "What do you want"? she snarled.

"Hi there! I'm Musicgoon from ------. Brian sent me to get our licensing".

"No, no, noo", she states annoyed. "I told Brian I wouldn't license anyone becase the paperwork was a mess".

"Well you happen to be in luck", I say to her. "I'm the guy holding the corrected paperwork".

The blond lady asked if it was really corrected? I confirm it.

"This wasn't your mistake, so I don't expect you to fix it".

She asks if i can wait about 15 minutes. I tell her im going for some coffee then. No prob

When I came back, we sat across from each other. She was 💯 USDA scowl. I looked directly at her.

"Do you ever have one of those days that can only be described as a massive dumpster fire"?

She looks up from her paperwork and directly at me. I look back at her and hold her eyes. I smile.

"I know that Brian is probably having a worse day than both of us. His car window got broken and some of my work stuff was stolen from his car.

"Maybe we can scold him together", I say to her and laugh.

"He needs to really make better decisions", I say

I keep eye contact and laugh again. She sees this ands starts laughing with me. I watch her mood change.

I say, "Im glad we can laugh. I'm happy to see you smile". The blond continues the licensing for me.

She smiles and while she finishes the paperwork she says ,"we are near a casino, maybe we can grab a drink after work".

Now gentleman..... please take this from me. Take your dominance of her frame and your ego boost and go. I declined drinks saying I was just too swamped, but flattered.

Why do I say this? In the past i would get blowjobs or take these girls back to a quieter place. The sex was never worth the bullshit. these are high conflict, low stability women. Just too much drama....

Once you learn this skill, you can say the most blunt outlandish shit and be able to turn something around if you've gone a bit too far.

You can also form a dominant dynamic with a girl where you dictate her mood instead of it running awry and you just dealing with it.

This is comfort on a more advanced level.

So how does this work?

  1. Start like there isn't something obviously wrong.

  2. State the obvious ,"you look (upset, angry, frustrated etc..).

  3. Give her a moment to have all of her emotions without being interrupted.

  4. Agree and Amplify. "Wow you need a stiff drink and if you own a gun keep it secured".

  5. Look at her and smile. The key is to not break eye contact until her mood changes.

  6. Compliment/reward her for breaking out of her negative thought patterns.

Either you lead your interactions with people, or the interactions lead you. The idea is to set the tone and the mood. You do this boldly and effortlessly and she will follow your cues.