Status post divorce

grngr · 2016-07-23T03:40:32+00:00

Start smashing weights. If you can't get to a gym because of child commitments, buy a home gym or a set of weights.
If you have a hobby start devoting time to it (or start something from scratch, like buy a guitar)
Plan adventures to go on with your daughter
If you hate your job, started looking for a new one, today.

My 2 cents.

CantBanTheMan · 2016-07-23T03:07:13+00:00

Fuck man what a fucked up woman. Well you still have your daughter if you raise her right she will be successful. Hang in there and get over one woman before you try to game other ones. Get some exercise it might help your mood. Good luck

Beegsi_ · 2016-07-23T04:37:13+00:00

I think you need to check that your daughter is truly yours DNA test her. Also don't be stupid enough to get married again. And when you talk to women don't tell them what your wife did they'll think you're the real loser. You're a loser for getting married in this era where men rights ain't protected and women can almost do anything they want. Notice how she only got 10 years if it was a man who done that his sentence would have been life or 20 years minimal.

Start reading the side bar check rational male's website. Find happiness in yourself by improving your life and physique, read the stoics. Don't think you'll find happiness through a woman because you won't, times have changed in the west.

ransay3277 · 2016-07-23T03:29:54+00:00

Sorry to hear of your predicament. I wish I could say that I understand what you are going thru but I can't. You have yourself and your daughter to think about now: and your daughter comes first. See that you encourage her in sports and other activities. See that she learns the value of a good work ethic. Next is you. Work to get better jobs. Get additional certifications. Go to the gym to improve your body. Stay healthy. Before you know it, she will be more independent. Then and only then should you consider women and relationships. Also, by then you will be a better man than most of your contemporaries. Also know that you will be a sought after commodity. Now you are still in the hurt stage. It shall pass. Also: you come off to women in this stage as weak and needy. When it passes, you will see a major change. Understand... Men age like wine: women like milk. A trite old saying but very true. Remember... Daughter first, yourself second and others third. I wish I had something wiser to say but it is all I have for now. Take care, don't lose site of whats really important and my best to you.

vagbutters · 2016-07-23T05:28:25+00:00

Get a paternity test on your kid. If she cheated on you now, you don't know if she did it in the past as well.

RageLionRising · 2016-07-23T03:35:11+00:00

Buy a bench press and simple power rack. Do the three compound lifts (bench, squats, and deadlift) to get rid of the anger when it comes on. Lifting quickly alleviates emotional pain and anger.

Join a group of men, and work with them to build wealth and strength. If you need affection from a woman hire a therapist or a masseuse. Women are not your loyal brothers. Stop trying to get that from them. You learned your lesson the hard way like many of us do. Loyalty comes from masculine men only.

Do not mix sex with affection or companionship ever again. In a woman's emotional mind sex is not about affection or companionship. It's about being submissive with a man who is stoic and has strength.

OneLifeSucks · 2016-07-23T04:04:34+00:00

This literally happened to my high school football coach. The dude was awesome and well respected. Keep pushing man, you deserve way better. I'm glad you got to keep your daughter.

GentlemenMindset · 2016-07-23T04:38:58+00:00

I'm going to be that guy for saying this, but what did you learn?

I understand you learned from your experience and moving forward you know what to do, but some of the newer members still aren't getting a lesson from this.

They're just reading a sad story. Please put it into words for others.

I'm glad you're taking initiative to improve and good luck raising your daughter.

mexaboy · 2016-07-23T05:26:07+00:00

First of all, I feel your pain. So don't take what comes next as stomping on a wounded man. Take it as a wake-up call.

IT WAS YOU. IT IS YOUR FAULT. You chose this woman, and you went beta on her. She was probably damaged before, and exhibiting red flags, and you either didn't see them (your fault because ignorance is not an excuse) or chose to ignore them.

Don't be afraid to try again. You can learn here. All women are capable of that shit, to what extent is what distinguishes them, but they will stomp on you if you show weakness, even the sweetest ones.

So take solace in that this bitch is out of your life and didn't ruin it, and you still have your child. Learn game and frame, and you will come out of this blazing.

herewegoaga1n · 2016-07-23T05:44:34+00:00

Good luck man, what happened to you was horrible. Move on, move up. That pedophile is dead to you, enjoy your life and your kid. :)

earlpfeiffer · 2016-07-23T06:47:37+00:00

I can't say it any better than this: “We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and—in spite of True Romance magazines—we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely—at least, not all the time—but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.” Hunter S. Thompson

[deleted] · 2016-07-23T05:41:00+00:00

Appreciate your post Blaster. I'd likely have ended up on the same track as you if not for your story and all the others like it.

Glad you've got your daughter, too - at least one thing went right in the divorce. Does the ex-wife stand any chance of getting custody of her when she gets out of prison?

Areu4realm8 · 2016-07-23T06:48:54+00:00

For me, I don't enjoy sex unless I'm emotionally connected.

Emotions and sex are two separate things, and stimulate two different areas in the brain. I just dont comprend this connection between these two people make. sex is physical. how can you not enjoy it? the bluepill brainwash has made a lot of men see sex as an emotional thing. you have to unlearn that.

Sepean · 2016-07-23T06:57:34+00:00

When things got difficult, I tried harder.

You tried harder in what way? Did you lift? Cut until your abs were showing? Mastered A&A and passed her shit tests like a pro? Played dread games?

Because that's what works. Anything else, like doing what she asks of you, that is not trying harder, that is letting your wife hold the reigns and drive your SMV towards zero.

Women, despite what they say, want nothing to do with a single dad.

Is your looks and game good?

rofio · 2016-07-23T07:20:13+00:00

My gym is open plan and there is no issue with me taking my daughter and a carry box of lego, pens and colouring in and we chat while I'm lifting.

the99percent1 · 2016-07-23T08:00:29+00:00

Dude... get out of your self loathing space and start doing interesting things. Start lifting.. get off reddit.

You owe it to your child to raise them as a father one would be proud of.

And do you know how lucky you are? You are single with your divorced wife in jail! Divorce doesn't come easier than that.

Do you know how many men would kill to be in you position?

So stop hating on yourself and get back on your feet..

GayLubeOil · 2016-07-23T08:28:39+00:00

How do you tell your daughter her mom fucked her student? I would just lie and go with the "you're mom was in the CIA" cover story.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-07-23T08:29:41+00:00

Women, despite what they say, want nothing to do with a single dad.

Stop being a fucking pussy. Single dad of 3 boys, 8, 6, 1.5 yr here, maybe the difference is I have shared custody. Saturday morning, just came back from the gym, I was there around 7:30AM. Since 3 months of my alone life, I keep getting younger and higher quality pussy. Recently I fucked a 8yo younger blonde Ph. D. and was approached by 10y younger nurse. Not to mention older girls that I don't even call any more. Not to mention that married bitch from my work that tried to fuck me but I'm not interested in married bitches.

Stop fucking dating single moms. Stop being fucking pussy. Stop being a fucking victim. Take care of your kid but have your own life too. Start lifting. Start reading sidebar. GET TO THE RED PILL BASICS, YOU IDIOT!

DOWN VOTE FOR FUCKING VICTIM MENTALITY, GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE, LIFT AND READ UNTIL YOU IMPROVE, THEN COME BACK. Pussy!

Lifting should be your FIRST priority. Reading second. Do everything you need to start doing that. You will either be lousy codependent parent to your child or a good example that the kid wants to follow. Just think about it, you're WHINING in front of anonymous strangers from the net, WHAT FUCKING EXAMPLE DID YOU JUST GIVE TO YOUR KID?

The problem is YOU, you have chosen a pedophile as your LTR partner.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-07-23T08:37:46+00:00

That was "red pill example"?

That was blue pill faggot example.

[deleted] · 2016-07-23T07:26:50+00:00

This post as it stands has nothing to do with the red pill. Not a field report, not a theory post, it's just sone whining about women. OP is clearly new here, showing zero redpill knowledge ("need emotional connection to have sex"?) and just came here to get some emotional support on a sub he knew he'd find attentive ears if his post badmouthed women.

To OP: we're not here to support you. Read the sidebar and go to asktrp with your questions as you learn.

EDIT: go ahead and downvote me for my lack of support, I don't want to see that sub going down the drain as a male version of twoXchromosomes: all feelz, all victimizing, all hating on the other sex.. zero rationality, zero actionable advice. Yeah I feel bad for OP too, but the fact that he had the unfortunate fate of having to deal with a particularly crazy woman that makes every anger phaser here shout "see? see? AWALT!" should not give him some pass: newbies gotta start with lifting, and bluepills gotta start with the sidebar.

Kingtorythegreat · 2016-07-23T03:43:39+00:00

I hate to say this....actually I don't

It's your fault

Accept it and Try Again ( I wouldn't advocate marriage though)

Title	Status post divorce
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	32
Comments	31
Date	July 23, 2016 3:01 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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