Thoughts on virginity?

gohammer3 · 2014-11-04T19:44:12+00:00

I lost my virginity at 18 and leading up to it I tried my best to act normal and not let it get to me but once I lost it I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.

Idontlikekarmawhores · 2014-11-04T18:31:04+00:00

Go for teh king mode, you desire no women, you have no interest in them ( or men) so you ll have a shit load of free time. CHANGE THE WORLD

theozoph · 2014-11-04T16:49:59+00:00

Go in monk mode. Lift, eat well, read, achieve your goals. Then see if you still feel no desire.

You might be one of those asexual unicorns, or just have low libido because of a testosterone deficit. Once you raise your test levels (and SMV) through exercise and a proper diet, we'll see how you fare.

JusticeCakes · 2014-11-04T18:05:47+00:00

Make sure you're not just being complacent. It's work. You're going to have to put yourself out there.

beltwaytr · 2014-11-04T20:38:33+00:00

In my experience those that aren't interested in women are those that usually are the most productive. Out of my group of seven friends only 2 were not skirt chasers, and they are successful business owners and have their pick of chicks.

Take the time to accomplish goals, the women will ALWAYS be there but the opportunity to follow you passions will not.

Bronotrelevant · 2014-11-04T22:53:50+00:00

You sure that's not your ego talking? Our egos can be our best and worst friends.

tombreck2 · 2014-11-04T16:55:58+00:00

It doesn't matter. My friend is a 28 year old virgin (by choice) and he is surrounded by attractive women that all want to fuck him.

He's charasmatic, follows his life passions and let's it be known that he doesn't give a fuck if a girl likes him or not because he only wants to find the perfect one (which probably doesn't exist).

trpfieldreport · 2014-11-04T18:30:05+00:00

It could be a lack of testosterone.

Lack of sexual drive is not normal.

EeeeeeevilMan · 2014-11-04T18:53:07+00:00

I have seen that this isn't a popular opinion, but I am immediately suspicious of any guy that makes it into his twenties as a virgin by choice. (Guys who are too awkward/ugly/whatever to get laid are a different thing.)

A guy that age that's been a virgin by choice has either got serious psychological issues, a hormone defecit, or is a closeted homosexual. It's just not normal for men to have that weak of a sex drive that they've never been driven to do it even once. Testosterone is a hell of a drug.

skylineboulevard · 2014-11-04T21:39:08+00:00

If you jerk it to porn it could kill your desire for the real thing.

If that doesn't work get your test levels checked and make sure you eat healthy whole foods with meat and animal fat.

FishFoxFerret · 2014-11-05T03:23:59+00:00

Are you depressed?

Lift, improve posture, work on confidence, and remove your filter. Will help with depression. Could also be low T, but depression can do that too. Doing these things will improve your Testosterone, but sometimes it's not enough and they should be tested by their doctors.

Low T can cause everything to be awful and you won't have a sex drive. With high T lot's things will seem better including sex drive, mood, and confidence.

SupALupRT · 2014-11-05T12:57:14+00:00

By all means don't have sex...once you do...ur hooked.

should_ · 2014-11-05T21:11:26+00:00

Sounds like a testosterone problem. But could be worse.

If you're a young guy and you get your testosterone checked and it's fine, I'd say you're in denial. You're either horny and in denial because you're afraid of approaching or of the implications of the act or whatever you could possibly be afraid of, or, you're suppressing that desire somehow. Maybe fapping too much at home and not letting yourself get too horny when you see a girl in real life.

Action needs to be taken. Or inaction if it's fapping.

thereddespair · 2014-11-04T17:46:41+00:00

I know some men who havent done it and theyre over 30. Almost like the 40 yr old virgin really. Theyre the extremely nerdy types.

In all honesty, I am amazed at how it is possible. I think its much harder to remain a virgin than it is to get laid. Sex is basically for free out there. Its like me imagining myself without having a need to sleep.

Sometimes also it is more of a denial of sexuality. Some men do not feel anything towards women because they really want men instead. But they refuse to allow themselves to admit that - ending up a life of virginity.

mega_beta · 2014-11-04T21:23:16+00:00

I've fucked a lot of women and not sure if I'm any better off for it. It's been years since I've fucked another one, but don't really give a shit. I don't get desperate for sex and decide I need to go out and fuck someone. I'd rather be celibate than deal with most women and their stupid drama/games.

I have high testosterone levels, but I also have a lot of self-control and high standards. I never settle for less than what I want.

Dr_Gabe_Lackman · 2014-11-04T20:15:03+00:00

If A guy want to wait that's fine next to lifting it's the hardest thing you can probably do in your early life, it's a sort of asceticism the value comes in why you do it and the lessons you take away from it but also if you have an end goal.

I personally don't date girls after date 1 if they aren't virgins, I'm looking for something serious unlike most guys here; I haven't given up on my dreams of marriage and a family but I wont put in the effort if what I'm working with isn't up to task plenty of my friends feel the same way and we're fairly envious of the guys that can honestly say they've been waiting for a serious girl or even until marriage because those virgin girls of the kind we're looking for in the american south are happy that their man wants to wait until marriage like them.

It's a sort of common ground but honestly i'd say if you're a guy and you are up past 27 remaining a virgin even if you are sane is only going to attract crazies, 7 years past 21-22 and there are no virgin girls left to speak of, you've aged out, all that is left are uggos and crazies either double down in your efforts or lie about your age maybe move to china or japan but if you haven't found the girl you want to marry by 26 and that was your goal to remain pure until marriage you have fucked up.

Most guys here abhor marriage but when two virgins marry the divorce rate is about 5% there is a solid reason to wait if you want a family but if you are here you might be a bit too jaded to get the mileage out of waiting.

Follow your own moral compass on this stuff, anything others say is typically to push conformity for their own self validation; if there is research backing them up then listen a little harder.

SQQQ · 2014-11-05T00:38:26+00:00

i didnt do it for the sake of doing it.

i did it because well... we really liked each other. even to this day, it was some of the happiest time in my life.

LibertarianLibertine · 2014-11-04T20:27:14+00:00

Considering TRP's proclaimed aim is a sexual strategy, I'm not too sure what exactly it is you want out of it.

You can still improve your life, of course, but you might want to think about your lack of sexual desire.

I mean... maybe you're gay?

Title	Thoughts on virginity?
Author	angel_pantsu
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Date	November 4, 2014 4:45 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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