So you're getting into online game on Tinder, OKCupid, and Plenty of Fish. Sure, you can get come of their numbers, but for some reason, most of them never actually go out with you! I started to notice that the ones that I actually got to go out with me after the numclose had a noticeable conversation pattern. Once I figured it out, I did a few tests on the pattern to see if it would work.

I got 16 numbers in the course of a week, and set up 6 dates for the weekend. I double scheduled 2 for each day. 2 flaked, and I flaked on one for the hotter girl. I'm setting up more for this week, I'll update the status on them in my next post.

Step 1: Send a witty opener. Successful ones I've used are:

  • Hey (girlsname), I figured we should have a conversation before we get married. What's up? (If their name isn't in their profile, just cut it out. This one is my favorite since I get to put our "relationship" into a frame of my choice, and can return to it by calling her "fiancee" and "future ex-wifey".)

  • So do you want me to hit you with a corny pickup line or can we skip all that stuff? ;)

  • You look like the girl that always dies first in horror movies!

  • I'd take you out for a romantic dinner at taco bell ;) (You can insert any cheap restaurant into this one.)

Notice that I use emoticons/emoji. They help convey the fun and playful vibe that you're trying to display.

Step 2: Ask the girl open ended questions so that she can do what she likes most: talk about herself. Remember that she'll most likely end her reply with something along the lines of "what about you?", so have an interesting response at the ready.

Step 3: Drop breadcrumbs of information in your messages as conversational bait for her to bite on. For example, when on the subject of families, I'll say: "haha you wouldn't believe how many siblings I have if I told you ;)". Sometimes I'll make them guess, other times I'll just tell them that I'm the oldest of 12.

Step 4: When you reach a low ppoint or dead end in the conversation, add this to the end of your response: "So obviously I think you're cute, but what makes you unique?" This shows your intent while also putting the girl on the spot to qualify herself to you.

This is my favorite step, since it shows you how many women have nothing to offer besides their pussy. (This line is great for reinitiating conversation with any girl, even ones you think you struck out with but don't know how.)

Step 5: Use the same tactics from Step 3 to talk about her response. Remember that when talking about yourself, less is more. Be mysterious and ALWAYS leave her wanting more.

Step 6. Tell the girl that you want to take her out to get to know her more, and say "send me your number so we can set something up ;)"

Step 7. Generally if you make it this far, she'll send you her number. Sometimes you'll get some LMR on the number, just go back to step 5 and try again.

Remember that some women are only on these sites for validation and attention, with absolutely no intent of going out. Learn to recognize these girls and don't waste your energy on reinitiating.

Step 8. Text her something, ask her another open ended question. Set up a date and remember to just stay light, playful and fun.

Look out for my next post: First Date 101: How to take a girl out and be kissing within 15 minutes.