In this article published by the Guardian- https://archive.is/ziGzV

The author outlines the reasons why women "prefer" the Dad Bod, not because it makes them attractive but it is less challenging for the female to compete with-

"This isn’t really about how a man looks, it’s about how he makes someone feel. It’s not so much the look of the dad bod that appeals, it’s the personality that comes with it."

This isn't anything groundbreaking. Once a female has secured your resources being chubby and losing an SMV point stands in her favour, sure she has less tingles but other women wont run away with her walking, talking ATM as easily.

What I found interesting was her (poorly expressed) reason that being as ripped as you want is of no consequence if you don't hold frame-

I’m not talking about men who simply like to look good or take their fitness seriously. There’s a big difference between old-school Mr Vains – exhibitionist, self-adoring, but essentially sweet (happy peacocks)

Happy Peacocks. By this she means men who have obvious insecurity issues that they mask by lifting. Beta Lifters, Gay Men, Insecure Lifters, they are all classed into this category. In other words if they can see a chink in your armor it can be used against you and it's therefore not threatening.

Lets see who she does object to:

[I am talking about]...a certain breed of hardcore vain men, self-satisfied, hyper-critical, mean, who like to spread the pain around by commenting on how everyone else is looking, too.

This is about excessively vain men, young or old, gay or straight, and how no one in their right mind likes them.

Ahh, Vanity. The preferred shaming tactic used for someone who is assertive and argumentative.

The judgmental vain man is a nightmare and there seem to be more of them about. While there are vain women, too, female vanity generally seems directed inwards and is more likely to be self-critical.

So, female vanity is acceptable? This is inherently sexist (and coming from the Guardian, no less), but we can let it pass. In any case we know that women rarely hold frame for any length of time anyway, they are not the target group for the author.

Here she goes off the deep end with the eloquence of an autistic 14 year old on crack:

A certain brand of male vanity is probably just as much about insecurity, but seems directed outwards. In basic terms, it’s the difference between someone who looks in the mirror to check what is right (so incredibly right!) about their appearance, rather than what is wrong.

Moreover, while there is said to be new pressure on men to look a certain way or have a particular physique, this doesn’t seem to be what’s driving obnoxiously vain men.

These are no shrinking violets, anxious for validation, desperate to be accepted. On the contrary, they seem to think that their taut abdominals give them a free pass to air extremely strong views about how others are supposed to look, from people they know – partners, friends, family members – to complete strangers. These days, this is frequently, and unconvincingly, disguised as “concern” over obesity and related health issues. Their mouths say: “I’m worried about my fellow human beings.” But the translation of this is: “I’m better than my fellow human beings.”

Who would want to be in a relationship with that kind of toxic hot mess? How could it be possible to be happy and relaxed, never mind naked and vulnerable, with these creatures? It’s as if some men can’t handle being good-looking or physically fit – it turns them into catty, judgmental monsters, with a tape loop of Walk This Way where their heart and their manners should be.

The takeaway here is that women are attracted to fit bodies but you also have to keep your frame in check and all the aspects which come along with that including-

  1. Don't reveal your efforts, only your accomplishments.

  2. Keep everything lighthearted during your game

  3. Don't speak ill of others (aka, being a bitch)

  4. Don't reveal any insecurities.

  5. Be a closed book.

TL;DR; Get down and give me 20 press ups right now soldier.