I just got the following text "Why dont you respond to me anymore? Lately I send you 4 texts to your 1". That was an hour ago and I haven't replied yet. I think ill tell her to stop being such a woman.
Long story short, we are both 30, she is 4 months pregnant, I was more alpha when we dated, but let my beta take over. Ive always been a bit of an asshole, but 'saving for the future' took priority over going skydiving and maintaining badass hobbies. I got caught up in a stable/boring job and was recently laid off.
Sex has been crappy for the last 4 years of marriage. she admits that she is bored in the bedroom. She used to be more outgoing when we dated, but now anything inching towards kinky is off limits (for her, im game for anything). yea no wonder shes bored. She tries to convince me it will be better if i romance her more and better, and role play some of her fantasies (ive tried, but she wont touch any of mine). I wont fall for the carrot at the end of the stick any more. Its a loss.
Sex got better when she wanted to get pregnant (i got tricked .. edit.. she upped sex for 6 months and convinced me that everything had improved with us). Still, everything revolves around her, her fantasies, her likes/dislikes, and on her schedule.
Im not afraid to walk away, and Ive let her know this. Ill be a kick ass dad regardless.
I swallowed the red pill last week. Took her off her pedestal a long time ago, but now im adding in the game. Ive swallowed my pride and stopped asking for sex or even hinting at it. Adding in dread so her mind starts to wonder. Picked up a bullshit evening job where im interacting with younger and cute women. Im spending more time at the community pool alone and Ive increased the gym (Ive always been in decent shape though).
Any other advice or experience? Ive read all of the sidebar stuff.
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