You Can't Go Back

103342 · 2016-06-26T23:41:12+00:00

I have a ton of regrets about my past. Took too long to finish college, stayed in relationships longer than I should, lost contact with people that would be important for me these days, and 1000 other little things.

I like to bother myself with my mstakes of the past every once and a while, it helps me keep myself awake for the future. Truth is, I'm glad I woke up to these things, although they made me who I am, I still consider a lot of them as mistakes.

But, one thing I can proud myself of is: Once I realized they were mistakes I never did it again. I never repeat those mistakes because I don't want my future self to be bothered by the same things over and over again.

If one day you decide to meditate, make some sessions for dwelling on the past. Feel the pain of your mistakes as if you were poking an old wound, let that pain push you forward. You will eventually feel sad when you realize that old wound doesn't really hurt anymore.

808scripture · 2016-06-27T00:00:21+00:00

To avoid the self-deprecation of regret, I always try to remember that my previous self did the best it could for itself in its circumstances. Looking retrospectively like this, and simply trying to learn from one's mistakes, can bring the wisdom one may need to be better prepared for similar circumstances in the future. Don't bash yourself for fucking up with the hottie in the tight skirt, she didn't matter anyway. Don't bash yourself for not hitting the gym enough in college, because there is still time to improve yourself. Gotta focus on the growth of the process, rather than the discrete results of the past.

vagbutters · 2016-06-27T02:19:27+00:00

I've learned in life that regret is the opium for blue-pill fools who would sulk in pain rather than have the balls to improve their life.

Do I wish that I wasn't raised with shitty habits and never got fat? Sure, it would've saved me about a year from weight loss.

Do I wish that I drank some more milk around puberty to be a few inches taller? Sure, it wouldn't hurt with my SMV.

Do I wish that I made better friends during my teenage years? Sure, beats the feeling of desperation I felt for a while.

Do I wish that I wasn't raised to be a BP mangina by society? Damn right I do.

All of this makes you stronger if you take your life by the reigns and change it. Absolutely nothing comes ruminating on your mistakes. Everything comes from correcting them.

Sibilant_Engorgement · 2016-06-27T05:02:20+00:00

All my past mistakes brought me here. 10/10 would Fuck up again. What is dead may never die. Seriously, my life couldn't be better. It would be bad without TRP. Thank you guys.

illicitwit · 2016-06-27T02:07:48+00:00

To indulge in rumination is to invite stagnation and depressive states of mind.

The solution is to immerse ourselves in action, rather than wither in despair. Solid post OP.

bossplayaintraining · 2016-06-27T02:07:39+00:00

19 years old, and yeah, I used to have a lot of regrets about mistakes that I made in my life. Not giving up video games until I was 18 & playing them for hours a day when I should have been lifting & partying, being too shy to talk to certain girls in school, getting into stupid fights during my middle school years that got me in a lot of trouble... basically a lot of stupid shit.

I used to dwell on these regrets on a daily basis, until one day, I confided in my dad and he told me this: "Every decision you make is based on the best knowledge you have available at the time. Therefore, you really should have no regrets; you were only doing the best you could."

Once I internalized these thoughts, I never felt regret again. Though sometimes I wonder what could have been had I known then what I know now, when I do, I remember what my dad said, & I immediately let go of that regret & go back into the present moment.

Unless you have a time machine, there's no point dwelling on the past: you can't fix it, you can't change it. On to the next moment.

M1ster_MeeSeeks · 2016-06-27T04:44:38+00:00

Fuck adderall, holy shit. Fucking parents weren't content with As and Bs so they drug me up with that shit. Never felt as utterly defeated as when I was on that. I was a walking zombie.

2016-06-27T01:18:32+00:00

Simple wisdom right here. I wish I read a post like this when I first found TRP (more than a year ago). It took me too long to release my pain and stop feeling like a victim. Now I am thankful for every ordeal and every moment of pain. Men are forged in the crucible of adversity and suffering. It is a glorious thing to be a man and worth all of the pain.

sqweetis · 2016-06-27T03:19:15+00:00

Question for OP:

I was diagnosed ADHD at age 6 but never took treatment for it. I have adult ADD at age 23 now. I've been considering getting an Adderall prescription but haven't yet due to tight finances and starting a business.

I now work from home so motivation and discipline is critical. Considering your prior experience with Adderall, would you recommend it for someone like me? The point being, of course, that I am no longer physically or mentally developing in a significant way.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-06-27T05:20:33+00:00

Make peace with your past, stay present, keep your eyes on the prize.

Indeed. Think about what's over the horizon from this day, forward.

And don't listen to mofos who tell you that you can't do this or that, or it's too difficult, or whatever. They're talking based on their own limitations, not yours.

suske127 · 2016-06-27T06:21:01+00:00

Less like "hospital", more like "rehab" but true point regardless

M1ster_MeeSeeks · 2016-06-27T12:53:56+00:00

One thing that should be added here is the need for reflection. Rather than look at time spent thinking/worrying about the past as a waste, a healthier approach for me has been constant introspection. It's how I really know myself as well as avoid repeating mistakes.

The key to it all is navigating your past with a very critical eye. And not judging yourself for past behavior.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-06-27T12:54:17+00:00

Sometimes it's just bad luck, a guy could be pretty alpha to begin. He meets a chick and all goes well, after some dating they enter a relationship. Things develop like any normal couple would. But eventually things break up when the girl makes a stupid move. Tries to branch swing but gets pumped and dumped for the first time. The guy finds TRP by chance and it resonates.

Same girl meets another guy some later, pretty beta and unaware of dynamics. But the girl doesn't leave him, she's grown to fearful of another pump and dumping. She sticks with him for two years and things work out reasonably well. The guy finds TRP and it sounds like allot of bullshit.

Sometimes the Alpha gets shat on and the Beta gets a 24 month subscription to poon. And the wrong person finds TRP. Life is weird sometimes. All you can do is roll with the punches.

J_Dilla_ · 2016-07-02T15:02:46+00:00

OP deleted their post...anyone care to enlighten on what was said?

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-06-27T02:47:14+00:00

The past and the future are just thoughts.

There is only the eternal which is a view of time that makes past, present and future all exist in a single entity.

But you can change history.

Example:

Up until recently I entirely believed that 911 was real and not staged.

Now I see it as a complete fraud.

I once worked for an Enron owned company and we uncovered fraud in the accounting... my view of my work there suddenly changed.

History can be redefined not in absolute sequential terms but in your understanding for them. Your emotions can be reprogrammed. You can "Kill the Beta" and those old emotions truly die.

If the government fed you chemicals to dumb you down, you wake up and realize the fucking government was dumbing me down.

That is a victory... you rewrote the history and see the truth now.

Title	You Can't Go Back
Author	FlamingDogPoop
Upvotes	110
Comments	35
Date	June 26, 2016 11:15 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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