Am I good enough?

teibe · 2020-03-22T07:19:19+00:00

Just stop watching porn.

2020-03-22T06:33:35+00:00

It's great that you care.

I suggest you work on the things you're worried about.

What would you lose by giving up porn? Studies show quitting improves intimacy in relationships.

When you say something stupid, make note of it and try to do better going forward.

Yianna_F · 2020-03-22T06:43:12+00:00

Why the only option has to be negative? Breaking up? Trapping her? Etc? What about something positive in nature like you getting better?

That should have been your first thought! Not self defeat and victimhood! Get better for yourself and those around you! Self-awareness and self-reflection is half the battle, now it's time to work on the second half!

FDS can be an invaluable resource in terms of what a High Value Individual should be like! I'd start there!

Illustrious_Drive · 2020-03-22T06:22:58+00:00

Why don’t you try to be better? Seriously?

Stop watching porn, be a better man whatever it is that’s in your past or doesn’t make you HVM, own up to it. Change it.

“Good enough” should never be a goal and is not actually even an attainable position. No one in life will ever reach a point where they can just sit back and proclaim themselves “good enough”.

the-cool-hedgehog · 2020-03-22T11:29:29+00:00

It's amazing that you are already willing to sacrifice a good woman and working relationship, but not work on yourself to become a better partner. Like literary, you don't even mention such option, it doesn't even seem to have crossed your mind.

According_to_all_kn · 2020-03-22T07:23:52+00:00

If your relationship depends on her never becoming more confident... why are you okay with that? That’s gross.

Im_Vinea · 2020-03-22T07:34:36+00:00

Well, maybe not feel too terrible about yourself...yet. At least you had the self awareness and acknowledged that you may not be the best of the best so that counts for something?

Even if you are a lvm, I think you might be looking at this wrong. If your gf is significantly better than you, I think you should accept that; be gracious that she wants to be with you and make sure she won’t regret her decision in the future! Take steps to improve and keep up with her pace. Just because you might be a lvm doesn’t necessarily mean you have to stay that way forever. Are you good enough? I don’t know. You answer it. Do you even want to improve yourself? Seeking validation on the internet is not always the best idea. Good luck ig?

Also, stop watching porn. It’ll scramble your brain and make it hard to get a stiffy.

BabeLincholn · 2020-03-22T15:53:28+00:00

So your argument has sort of become "because my gf doesn't mind I'm an addict."

But imagine if you were an addict of some hard drug and she was ok with it.

The drug could still easily ruin your relationship. If you start getting side effects that are detrimental to it she may not start having an issue with it until it's too late.

According_to_all_kn · 2020-03-22T21:37:54+00:00

Stop watching porn. You are jacking off to women being abused. That makes you a piece of shit. She should dump your worthless ass.

Trocek · 2020-03-22T11:06:57+00:00

Why don't you work on your flaws instead of whine about it on the internet? This itself makes you a LVM.

BabeLincholn · 2020-03-22T19:08:10+00:00

Don't tear yourself down for yourself down for your girlfriend. Don't wonder if you 'deserve her'. Just think for a bit, "Does she even deserve me?" Sounds stupid right? Just love eachother because from what you posted im assuming you are happy to be with her and she is happy to be with you. You deserve eachother

Title	Am I good enough?
Author	According_to_all_kn
Upvotes	0
Comments	53
Date	March 22, 2020 2:04 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askFDS
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